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sinandhoney -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (2/28/2011 8:57:42 AM)
For me the issue of not being willing to play in public would cause me to not consider them as I'm very much out in the local scene and do not want to attend solo if I am with someone. They don't have to be willing to play in public, but they do have to be willing to attend functions with me.

sexyred1 -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (2/28/2011 9:04:27 AM)
Thanks for the clarification everyone. [:)]

PeonForHer -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (2/28/2011 10:04:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming Some people just have jobs that make public play unwise. And some people just like to keep their private lives very private. That doesn't mean they are shy, or any of the other quoted assumptions. Its just a preference. As far as I'm aware, tonsil-tickling snogs aren't illegal, but it makes me wince to see that done in public. I tend to think 'Yes, yes . . . we're all very impressed by just how much you two love each other and how much you stimulate one another's groins. Now feck off and get a room somewhere.' For me, a partnership is about the partnership and it's none of anyone else's business. That's how I enjoy it best. I know that it's been decreed that extrovert=good and introvert=bad, and we're all supposed to be on Facebook sharing every little detail up to including when and how we last picked our noses, but I don't 'do' that sort of world and I'll be damned if I'm going to start.

Madame4a -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (2/28/2011 10:24:44 AM)
Funny ... I'm an introvert and don't share every aspect of my life inappropriately.. balance in all things... and trust me that I'm very appropriate.. and wouldn't suggest inappropriate displays ... your description of that world is not what I look for either... because I've suggested something other than 'private' doesn't mean I'm suggesting an extreme is correct for me either... trust me, if you met me in person you'd be quite shocked at how vanilla, straight and ordinary I appear. quote: ORIGINAL: PeonForHer quote: ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming Some people just have jobs that make public play unwise. And some people just like to keep their private lives very private. That doesn't mean they are shy, or any of the other quoted assumptions. Its just a preference. As far as I'm aware, tonsil-tickling snogs aren't illegal, but it makes me wince to see that done in public. I tend to think 'Yes, yes . . . we're all very impressed by just how much you two love each other and how much you stimulate one another's groins. Now feck off and get a room somewhere.' For me, a partnership is about the partnership and it's none of anyone else's business. That's how I enjoy it best. I know that it's been decreed that extrovert=good and introvert=bad, and we're all supposed to be on Facebook sharing every little detail up to including when and how we last picked our noses, but I don't 'do' that sort of world and I'll be damned if I'm going to start.

PeonForHer -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (2/28/2011 10:41:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Madame4a Funny ... I'm an introvert and don't share every aspect of my life inappropriately.. balance in all things... and trust me that I'm very appropriate.. and wouldn't suggest inappropriate displays ... your description of that world is not what I look for either... Excellent! A woman after my own heart. (Or before it.) Mind you . . . and before I get picked up on it . . . I've nothing against any amount of normally-private stuff done in BDSM venues. Done quite a lot of it myself, in fact.

naughtynick81 -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (2/28/2011 9:49:47 PM)
OP, it's usually because you are not better than the average man. Women on this site are as shallow as fuck. And then they have the audacity to express "don't judge me for my weight" or whatever. They seem to believe just having a pussy and offering kinks makes them this instant winning prize. Just being a domme supposedly makes you a jackpot.

DarkSteven -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (2/28/2011 10:17:35 PM)
Lemme guess, nick, you're single still.

naughtynick81 -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (2/28/2011 10:25:59 PM)
No, I am dating your mum

DarkSteven -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (2/28/2011 10:38:25 PM)
She died in 2002 of leukemia.

naughtynick81 -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (2/28/2011 10:49:08 PM)
Oh, I must have mistaken her for your aunt.

MaamJay -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (3/2/2011 10:13:13 PM)
OP, I am not SO worried if a guy mentions his limits in a first email as then I can immediately see if there is a major incompatability. However, that shouldn't be taken as an excuse to jump into sex talk either and I DON'T want to see a nude pic. More importantly, he should have carefully read My profile and be addressing that in his first note. So let's try an example, fill in the bits from their profile: Hello Maam Jay, very important to actually greet the person and use their screen name I was reading your profile and noticed that you are looking for ... I would also ultimately like a ... relationship but I realise there is a long period of getting to know someone first. I envisage a relationship in which I have come to know my Dominant partner deeply so I can please Her and make Her life easier and better for having me in it. You also say that You enjoy x, y and z ... I have tried x and y and enjoyed it but I've never tried z. However, it's not one of my hard limits, more something I am curious about, but would try with someone I had grown to trust. You said that You wanted someone within (eg 200 miles) of Your location, I currently live about 300 miles away but am very willing and able to travel to meetings should You desire, so I hope You won't hold that against me immediately. Our other interests seem very similar, I love the same kind of music as you and also own pets (or whatever the vanilla aspects are that match). I have no significant other in my life at the moment so I am free to explore this new direction. Then ask Her a question if you can - gives Her something to write back about. Thanks very much for your time. Regards ... sign it with a name by which She can address you - a sensible nickname or your first name This is a way of covering the bases you were interested in covering in a much more desirable way as far as each individual Domme is concerned. Hopefully it will improve your response rate! Maam Jay aka violet[A]

Sylverdawn -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (3/3/2011 9:17:10 AM)
I wouldnt immediately disqualify him for not playing in public... given the area he works in.. it could be he works in a position/area that makes it impossible for him to do so.. I am currently aware of at least two leather submissives whose work makes it so they need to train and serve privately both working in the Arlington, DC, Maryland area.. and they are leather.. everybodies circumstances need to be taken on and individual basis. I mean if he is a grocery clerk from bfnw.. well no that would raise red flags for me.. for me that would indicate there is something broken there.

Curious24 -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (3/5/2011 9:14:51 PM)
Please allow me to thank all those who took the time to provide me with help and guidance. I know I thanked some of you already ... but I just want to make certain everyone who provided constructive comments is recognized for their help. Thanks again.

TheRaptorJesus -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (3/5/2011 10:29:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: naughtynick81 OP, it's usually because you are not better than the average man. Women on this site are as shallow as fuck. And then they have the audacity to express "don't judge me for my weight" or whatever. They seem to believe just having a pussy and offering kinks makes them this instant winning prize. Just being a domme supposedly makes you a jackpot. It's always funny to see betas males lash out to try to pretend to be alpha. The thrill of the hunt, my dear boy, is to capture the few that are genuinely attractive. Plus, the most obnoxiously explicit and arrogant ones are typically hoping that demeanor will earn them some cash.

LPslittleclip -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (3/5/2011 11:02:35 PM)
like otheres have said be polite be yourself improve your profile a bit be patient you will find the one/s that are ment for you

SexyBossyBBW -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (3/5/2011 11:16:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: naughtynick81 OP, it's usually because you are not better than the average man. Women on this site are as shallow as fuck. And then they have the audacity to express "don't judge me for my weight" or whatever. They seem to believe just having a pussy and offering kinks makes them this instant winning prize. Just being a domme supposedly makes you a jackpot. Oh my! So much anger, and comments that are not at all helpful to anyone who is single, but wishes not to be. M

GreedyTop -> RE: Seeking a little bit of guidance. (3/5/2011 11:25:49 PM)
nicky still hasnt learned how to pull up his big boy pampers, it seems...

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