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vicki2725 -> How picky should I be? (5/5/2006 5:55:34 AM)
hi, I am a lesbian slave currently looking. my question is how how picking should I be? I've had several experiences. Only one long-term real-life it was over a year and a half. this is what I truly desire for my life. I realize this is a big life changing experience. And I want to be sure. I have to be happy also in what I'm looking for right? I guess I'm not so sure myself anymore. thank you for any help or suggestions.

Proprietrix -> RE: How picky should I be? (5/5/2006 6:31:46 AM)
Stick to your standards and don't settle for less. :)

MissA -> RE: How picky should I be? (5/5/2006 7:25:39 AM)
I agree 100% with Proprietrix. Good luck! ~Ms. A~

tangldupinblue -> RE: How picky should I be? (5/5/2006 7:27:22 AM)
if you dont get what you need now, it will all fall apart quickly. blue

Lashra -> RE: How picky should I be? (5/5/2006 7:34:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Proprietrix Stick to your standards and don't settle for less. :) I second that! It takes time and patience but in the end it will be worth it. ~Lashra

MizChief -> RE: How picky should I be? (5/5/2006 8:36:48 PM)
You need to be in a satisfying relationship where you find trust, caring, and honesty- you have to be at least a little picky. Think of it as taking the bus- you can take some that put you blocks out of your way and you have to walk ages to get where you need to be, and you can tolerate the mild to moderate discomfort of not getting exactly where you wanted to go, you can take buses that bring you in the wrong direction and you have to pay a fortune in taxi fare to get to the right place, or you can take the right bus and wind up where you need to be. It's up to you. You might try a few of the buses and see, but it's probably best to pick the ones that bring you closest to where you really want to be. Hope that makes sense! Miz

sweetbbwsub31 -> RE: How picky should I be? (5/5/2006 9:29:04 PM)
Don't... i repeat....do not settle.

MistressLorelei -> RE: How picky should I be? (5/5/2006 10:10:56 PM)
My philosophy is .... I am happy with myself.... and if the one who can add to my happiness comes along who compliments me in most aspects of my life (and vice-versa)... I'll be thrilled. If not, I will be happy with my life as it is. I do think settling can mean different things... some standards should never be lowered (what's inside) but as we mature, superficial desires often dissipate... and while we are not actually settling, we are maturing in what we value as important. Settling = sacrificing what is important to you = regret down the road

ShiftedJewel -> RE: How picky should I be? (5/6/2006 3:34:27 AM)
Ask questions... lots of them and expect answers, don't let anyone slide. Remember that what you are looking for in a relationship will mean giving up a lot of decision making power. Listen to you gut instinct and to your heart. *Jewel*

MHOO314 -> RE: How picky should I be? (5/6/2006 5:27:56 AM)
One step, one foot, one thought, one need, one desire at a time---the ball at the moment is in your court, keep it there until you are ready to release it, good luck in your journey.

MochaMistress -> RE: How picky should I be? (5/7/2006 7:28:23 AM)
I agree... dont settle. Take your time to find the right relationship for yourself. A quality relationship is something that takes time to build. Sometimes you can find an instant relationship that will last a lifetime. Those are rare its like a cosmic incident when like minds connect. So take your time, know who you are and keep looking for the one you fit.

LaTigresse -> RE: How picky should I be? (5/7/2006 7:47:57 AM)
vicki, what you are seeking is perhaps one of the most important things in your life. you are looking for someone to give total control of yourself to. This is a HUGE thing! I know it is different on many levels for a submissive/slave than a dominant and maybe I am different than others, but I would rather have no relationship than one in which I "settled". Personally I want a woman to be a part of my life. That means, not just sharing a home but my pets I cherish, my family that means the world to me, every part of my life. I have gotten emails that between the contents of the email and the profile and perhaps a conversation or two, I just completely cringe at the idea of that person being in my life to the extent I need. I don't want to repeat the wisdom from above but abosolutely do not settle. Even though you are submissive/slave you still have great value as a human being and deserve to give yourself the respect of a woman that deserves that submission and will cherish you and treat you as you need to be treated.

LadyMorgynn -> RE: How picky should I be? (5/7/2006 9:29:31 AM)
I'm going to agree with everyone else here. You know what you want, what you need. Be forthright about that, and don't settle for less. Yes, it may take longer to find the right person... but you have a better chance that it IS the right person than if you settle for less. You would always be wondering "what if..."

ladylexington -> RE: How picky should I be? (5/7/2006 5:48:33 PM)
I agree - never settle. But, be open to the fine art of compromise. Identify the traits that are absolutely essential in your ideal Domme. Honesty, integrity, great...er...boots...whatever you need. Then be more flexible with your wants. That way, you meet your own needs, and can still be open to some wonderful surprises.

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