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brandibee -> wondering (3/1/2011 7:15:46 PM)

i have recently met a Dom that wanted me to be their sub..but he didnt want to me to work or anything.
so..i asked Him would He support me..buy me the things i needed. He said no...well how the hell would i get the things i needed huh? i dont understand why some Doms dont want their subs to work but yet they wont buy the things they need.
somebody please explain.



poise -> RE: wondering (3/1/2011 7:17:47 PM)

Beats me![sm=dunno.gif]



LPslittleclip -> RE: wondering (3/1/2011 7:23:36 PM)

like wanting a horse to ride but not willing to feed it or take it to the vet. i would guess that the person is not ready for a sub/slave and just wants one as thats what they think they need



littlewonder -> RE: wondering (3/1/2011 7:31:36 PM)

he's out of touch with reality and lost in fantasyland. Unfortunately you'll find a lot online are this way.



brandibee -> RE: wondering (3/1/2011 7:32:19 PM)

thank yall for the answers.



NihilusZero -> RE: wondering (3/1/2011 8:23:26 PM)

He has a homeless fetish.



DarkSteven -> RE: wondering (3/1/2011 8:32:22 PM)

Congratulations!  You met an idiot!
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Unfortunately, there are many, many others like him.



brandibee -> RE: wondering (3/1/2011 8:37:00 PM)

lol yes i met an idiot lol. and i told him about me getting birth control tomorrow and he said he wouldnt want me to take it..i told him about me geting raped and my fear of getting pregnant to young and he still told me not to take it lol.



littlewonder -> RE: wondering (3/1/2011 8:40:05 PM)

not quite sure why you're still talking or bothering with the guy or why you'd tell him that kind of info about yourself. Yes you're young but that still doesn't mean you need to put up with every Tom, Dick or Harry. Just put him on ignore and talk to others who might be more of a match for you.



DarkSteven -> RE: wondering (3/1/2011 8:44:17 PM)

So the guy doesn't want you to work but doesn't want to support you.

He's telling you to stop birth control and I bet he doesn't want to support a child either

Why are you speaking to this guy?  He likely can't tie his shoelaces in the morning.

On top of it all, your profile says you're engaged.  I'm confused.



poise -> RE: wondering (3/1/2011 8:44:59 PM)

Maybe you can have your fiance sit with you while you are chatting with
potential dominants, and help steer you away from men like this.



ResidentSadist -> RE: wondering (3/1/2011 11:00:52 PM)

I don’t know what planet the Dom you recently met is from.  Here on Earth, you can’t own it if you can’t afford it. 



porcelaine -> RE: wondering (3/2/2011 12:12:06 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: brandibee

i dont understand why some Doms dont want their subs to work but yet they wont buy the things they need.
somebody please explain.


Greetings,

I find this whole thing peculiar. I liken it to your partner suggesting you quit your job when you're well aware the rent is due in a couple of weeks. How will it be paid? It's a simple solution that requires an exercise in common sense and nothing more. What's truly baffling is your willingness to entertain this discussion after he's already indicated his stance on your welfare. What more is there to converse about? Unless you enjoy his company and intend to maintain the connection as pen pals, I'm at a loss why you're disclosing so much personal information to an individual that's given you little cause to do so. Is it matter of wanting to bonding or investing the energy to find the appropriate party to do that with?

Namaste,

~porcelaine



came4U -> RE: wondering (3/2/2011 4:18:04 AM)

He is a cheap baztard. 

If you want your dungeon to be a large boxcar (does an all-aboardddd chooo choooo)  or your cage to be a cardboard box, go for it.

If not, keep your job and live the good life that you deserve.  After this chump find a guy who 'improves' your life, not one who takes away from it.

quote:

Why are you speaking to this guy?  He likely can't tie his shoelaces in the morning.


I bet you 70 bucks the guy has velcro on his Walmart shoes.



OsideGirl -> RE: wondering (3/2/2011 6:57:38 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: brandibee

i dont understand why some Doms dont want their subs to work but yet they wont buy the things they need.
A bunch of things popped into my head. If you have no independent income, then it makes it harder to leave. He got some idea that a TWUE slave doesn't have needs. And the last thought.....he's a doorknob....why are you still talking to him?



puella -> RE: wondering (3/2/2011 1:03:02 PM)

Even if he can support you, and well... you should really think about the idea of not working...it takes away a huge portion of your life, especially if you are relocating to this person. The isolation can do you, your head, and your relationship in... and it's usually the sort of thing you don't realize until after it has happened.

Even working part time or volunteering at an organization that he supports is better for your state of mind, and thus the health of your relationship than simply being another dependant.



brandibee -> RE: wondering (3/2/2011 7:26:39 PM)

answering all to whom have answered me ..first of all thanks again for the responses. secondly. i quit talking to him after he made those 2 remarks to me. i just wanted to see wat other people thought about it..i needed help understanding. yes my profile says i am engaged..my fiance doesnt Dom me..so i am looking for online Dom only..i am a sub who wants to be taught more..i want to learn. i am in school to be an EKG technician..i want to work..i am not use to being supported by someone else..so i like to work. but it is nice to have someone take care of me and make sure i am safe.



DarkSteven -> RE: wondering (3/2/2011 8:10:24 PM)

Well, brandibee, you have a couple of things working against you.

1, The relationship is limited to online.
2. Because you're engaged, the Dom will never be better than #2 in your life.

If you're looking for online play only, you should be able to find someone relatively easily, but there's a good chance he'll be married or a fool.  If you want someone who'll also mentor you and oversee your decisions, that'll be harder.





sweetsub1957 -> RE: wondering (3/2/2011 8:30:55 PM)

~FR~
Well brandibee, based on what you've said about this guy, he sounds like an idiot. He doesn't want you to work but He won't support you or buy you what you need. He knows you were raped and you're afraid of getting pregnant too soon, yet He doesn't want you to be on birth control. This guy sounds like a real piece of work....to stay away from. I think He's letting His wanker fantasies get in the way of reality.

Also, like Steven said, there's a good chance an online-only Dom will ba married or a fool. I'll add that there're a lot out there that are BOTH. There are LOTS of those out there. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about, cause I've come across a number of them in the past.[8|] Thank goodness They're all OUT of my life now!

~sweetsub~



DesFIP -> RE: wondering (3/3/2011 6:00:57 AM)

Did you ask him what he thought you should do to support yourself? Is it that he doesn't like the job you have?
Next time someone gives you an answer you don't understand, ask them to explain it.



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