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OwnedFemaleFlesh -> RE: What problems stop you from finding a slave on online BDSM sites? (5/2/2011 10:48:50 PM)
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ORIGINAL: StrongSpirit
P.S. Collarme IS a dating site.
I would have to disagree, based on CollarMe's own advertising. CollarMe describes itself as 'The Largest BDSM Community on the Planet'. This is what I remind men who message me for sex and get angry when I say I'm not looking. Some seem to feel that if you are not looking for sex / relationship, you have no right to be on here!
As regards difficulty in dating online, I did meet my partner in a chatroom on another BDSM website, and generally that works quite well for me. You get to talk, flirt, laugh and see where the conversation goes over a few weeks before moving towards anything more serious.
The downsides of online / CollarMe are that men who read your profile often completely ignore all the bits apart from what they want to hear. So you get literally thousands of emails from completely unsuitable men, who then get very angry that you don't want to date them because they live in Germany, or are married, or are too young, or too old or have completely different interests. Basically, the men are desperate, arrogant and have an entitlement mentality regarding how interested they feel women should be in them, and they won't take no for an answer. When I was looking for a partner a couple of years ago, I put down some very specific requirements in my profile. I was mailed by literally thousands of men (around 6000 at the last count) probably half hadn't read my profile, three quarters didn't meet the basic spec (i.e. lives near me, right age, not married) and only about 10, maximum, had the experience I was looking for in an unusual fetish. Of those 10, most were married, lived too far away, too old, etc. Basically, not one suitable man contacted me. Having a numbers advantage is not much use if you are surrounded by thousands of unsuitable people!
You will often hear that there are no real women on CollarMe, that all the good ones are taken, or men pretending to be women, or a variety of complaints. The fact is, there are plenty of women on CollarMe, who are quite real and genuine about looking, the problem is that men email hundreds of women who are unsuitable for them, and then complain when they get rejected. This then leads to their increasing anger and desperation, and they begin demanding photos and phone numbers on the first message! I am wary enough about giving my details out to people I have spoken to for ages, there is no way I am giving them to a complete stranger just to 'prove' something about me. All this behaviour just puts genuine women off dating on here.
CollarMe is less suitable for dating for me, because the chatrooms are more US based (I'm in the UK) and don't seem to have that playful banter between the guests that other rooms have. I guess everyone is off cybering!
owned xxx
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