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RE: Feminine energy - 3/2/2011 5:24:40 PM   
agirl


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ORIGINAL: Kirata


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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

i just don't go to that point with a person if i'm not feeling something really compelling.

Yeah exactly... there's the 64 dollar question. I'm trying to figure out what the hell it means to say he played with her but... but... but what? He didn't like it? But he did it anyway? If it didn't work for him, why is the question coming up NOW... after the fact?

Fish => Smell

K.


I think the whole post is daft and childish. *...Master doesn't know how to...**Master thought, wished...*.

Well, maybe *Master* might consider that playing (still no idea what your version of playing entails and yes, it matters) has consequences and they might not be pleasant ones.

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RE: Feminine energy - 3/2/2011 5:27:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Well, girl, I hope all your friends realize that you think lying to them is a perfectly acceptable part of the relationship.

best,
sunshine


They said *friend* but it's easy to call someone a friend and then behave like a cunt.

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RE: Feminine energy - 3/2/2011 5:35:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		he just says "thank you for the session but I just don't think we are compatible but I do wish you the best in finding someone who fits you better".

and yes I've played with others in the past who I felt nothing with. If they asked again I just told them that I just didn't think we were a fit. One is still my friend to this day and another just disappeared. It was not that big a thing.

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RE: Feminine energy - 3/2/2011 5:52:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: agirl


Well, maybe *Master* might consider that playing (still no idea what your version of playing entails and yes, it matters) has consequences and they might not be pleasant ones.

agirl



HURRAH! *thumbs up*


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RE: Chemistry - 3/2/2011 6:14:15 PM   
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How do you tell a  friend,  that Master found they had no chemistry in their play and Master is not interested in playing with them without hurting their feelings?

The last time this happened to me there was mutual lack of chemistry. We see each other socially but not sexually. We didn't need to talk about it.

This is fine if needed:

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"thank you for the session but I just don't think we are compatible but I do wish you the best in finding someone who fits you better"


This is great!:

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Sorry, no-one in my herb garden expects people to use the truth to crucify others. We are fine with lies here, you're beating up the wrong path.


OP - so that RF will stop banging his head - what exactly happened? If Master didn't like when playmate did X after he did Y, solve for X and Y.




< Message edited by kalikshama -- 3/2/2011 6:15:28 PM >

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RE: Chemistry - 3/2/2011 8:40:31 PM   
LPslittleclip


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Status: offline 		my Mistress plays with others and sometimes the energy just does not mesh Mistress just does not feed on the play when the energy does mesh there is a feeding of sorts where the play builds on itself is the best way i can explain it

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RE: Feminine energy - 3/3/2011 2:47:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		That's cool. I'm not ok with lies. First, I have a dreadful memory and can't remember them so even if I DID want to lie, I can't. I'd get tangled in the cobwebs of my memories. ~laughs~ On the other hand, I don't think it's dreadfully difficult to tell someone the truth without hurting their feelings (as I posted above).

I appreciate the info, though.
best,
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RE: Feminine energy - 3/3/2011 5:31:19 AM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		I've played with folks and has chemistry issues.
My solution...and it's a crazy one?
I tell em, "Eh, I didn't feel any chemistry so I don't wanna repeat the event."
Now how hard is that?


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RE: Feminine energy - 3/3/2011 5:59:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		There's no reason to lie. You just say you don't feel enough chemistry and you wish them good luck. But I also think this is going to be a tempest in a teapot as if it were flat for him, I'm sure it was equally so for her.

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RE: Feminine energy - 3/3/2011 9:16:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		Maybe constructive criticism would lesson the blow?

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RE: Feminine energy - 3/3/2011 12:46:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		Unless there is nothing to criticize. Just because two people don't get on doesn't mean there is something wrong with either of them.

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RE: Feminine energy - 3/3/2011 12:52:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss
Well, girl, I hope all your friends realize that you think lying to them is a perfectly acceptable part of the relationship.

I'm pretty sure all of MY friends realize that. I have never placed "truthfulness" above "doing good". If those two things come into conflict (as they might well in this situation) then I'll toss honesty to the wind in a heart beat.


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RE: Feminine energy - 3/3/2011 1:31:32 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Contesa

How do you tell a female who is a friend, that the energy they give off is masculine and Master is not interested in playing with them without hurting their feelings?



You don't. What a mean spirited thing to say. The person in question says something like, "It didn't do it for me, but hey, I'm glad we are friends. So, how's your week been?" and then you stick to that. There's no need to be insulting.



For me I am simply honest and up front about it. I simply say how I did not enjoy the time together but stress we can still talk and be friends.

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RE: Feminine energy - 3/3/2011 3:42:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

There's no reason to lie. You just say you don't feel enough chemistry and you wish them good luck. But I also think this is going to be a tempest in a teapot as if it were flat for him, I'm sure it was equally so for her.


Considering the way the OP was written, I WOULD find reasons to lie. I have NO need to be honest when I think I haven't behaved well in the first place. I'm certainly not going to make someone else feel the slightest bit badly in those circumstances as it'd be undeserved.

To be honest, if it was a *GOOD* friend,someone you know *very well* there'd be no need to ASK how to put them off. You do tend to KNOW how to do those things with a *GOOD* friend, or someone you know *very well*. So I doubt it's THAT good a friend or someone they *know very well*.

agirl

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RE: Feminine energy - 3/3/2011 5:30:12 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Now that I agree with. I think the play partner was a friend of the op and not of her master. How good a friend? Who knows? But it isn't the op's job to make excuses, if the friend asks him for another session, it's his job to put on his big boy pants and answer her. Hiding behind his sub doesn't show him in a very flattering light. And yes, I do think that's what he's doing or else the op wouldn't be looking for suggestions.

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