Sealing the Deal

Sealing the Deal (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion

Message

Aileen68 -> Sealing the Deal (5/5/2006 12:36:37 PM)
For those looking and those who have found...Dom/mes and subs. How do you choose your one? Is it something they say or do? Is it the butterflies that you feel? The comfort you feel when in their presence? Gut instincts? Chemistry? All of the above, plus more? None of the above? Have you just settled until another comes along? What makes you stop and say "Ah, I'm done looking."

CrappyDom -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/5/2006 12:40:55 PM)
They remind me of my mother...

petcerina -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/5/2006 12:45:32 PM)
my Master was not "in the running" so to speak when i was looking for someone to love again. i thought He was too old for me and i had decided that a relationship would not prove fruitful. He made me laugh though. He seemed to understand me and i enjoyed talking to Him. One night, He did a relaxation scene with me through the phone. The experience was so enjoyable, i asked to meet Him soon after that. W/we didn't formally call it a date, but i could tell both of U/us were excited even though W/we had just agreed to stay friends. i like being walked around the mall on a leash and i mentioned i would bring it with me in case things went well. It was the best first date of my life, and it felt comfortable being with Him and His touches were welcome and invited. By the end of the date, i was on that leash, and enjoying myself greatly. At the end of the date, i asked if W/we could be together as a couple and He accepted. i was beaming the whole day. i had found someone to love again. He had come out of no where, and after 3 dates, i was already considering long future plans such as living together. W/we still aren't living together, but W/we both welcome the idea of marriage when the time is right. i know now that He is going to be a very important person in my life, even more so than He is now. W/we communicate well, O/our kinks match up, and O/our thinking is very similiar. i am very happy i have had the privledge of being His and the luck to have finally met Him.

Kidless -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/5/2006 12:48:40 PM)
Ppeople tend to find me,rather than the other way round

meatcleaver -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/5/2006 12:52:45 PM)
I don't look, I just seem to meet someone and one thing leads to another. and another and another and another[sm=crop.gif]

RavenMuse -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/5/2006 12:59:24 PM)
The chemistry of the D/s dynamic is definatly what triggers the "Maybe this is her" reaction and I simply stop looking till I see where it goes from there. Where who I am naturaly draws her submission and who she is simply draws my need to take control of her, see, want, take. Where the only effort is if one or the other tries to step back from going where we are drawn to by the chemistry between us.

BitaTruble -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/5/2006 1:00:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen68 For those looking and those who have found...Dom/mes and subs. How do you choose your one? Is it something they say or do? Is it the butterflies that you feel? The comfort you feel when in their presence? Gut instincts? Chemistry? All of the above, plus more? None of the above? Have you just settled until another comes along? What makes you stop and say "Ah, I'm done looking." Used my head, trusted my gut and followed my heart. There won't be any more searching if something happens to him. This is 'it' for me. I'll probably exercise the little sadist in me, but I won't be serving anyone again. It wouldn't be fair to anyone else because I'd always compare anyone else to Himself and being the critical little bitch I can be, I'd find them somehow lacking. That's already in my head and being so closed minded on the subject, I'd have no doubt that it would come to pass. I have no desire to set someone else up for failure. Celeste

MistressSassy66 -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/5/2006 1:00:53 PM)
A sense of humor is really important.A good attitude is also a must have.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/5/2006 1:14:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen68 How do you choose your one? I think it's like cats- you find eachother at the right time. quote: Is it something they say or do? Is it the butterflies that you feel? The comfort you feel when in their presence? Gut instincts? Chemistry? All of the above, plus more? I guess it's simply the feeling and knowing within myself that this is the best and right choice for me and it's where I want to see my life going- with this other person in it together. quote: What makes you stop and say "Ah, I'm done looking." I don't really start looking to begin with. I just make myself available. And I don't really STOP looking either.

SubtleCuriosity6 -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/5/2006 2:26:48 PM)
I agree with Mistress Sassy. When you find the right one you become a happier person yourself. It's a feeling of being complete. Just make sure you do what you can to keep them because it's rare, especially in the bdsm lifestyle, to find the one for you.

Proprietrix -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/5/2006 3:28:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross I don't really start looking to begin with. I just make myself available. And I don't really STOP looking either. That sums up my point of view on the subject.

cuddleheart50 -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/5/2006 3:38:41 PM)
I haven't had that feeling of "ah, I'm done looking"....But, I will know when I find him because I will be a much happier person with a smile on my face all the time because I am with him.

fyreredsub -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/5/2006 4:24:52 PM)
it is the 'connection' that is shared between Master and Mistress and this girl.it is felt in the mind and in the gut and the ole heartstrings get tugged on too. today was a special day for this one. Mistress and Master both surprised her in different ways (both of which were wonderful)and serving them and being their pet is the most wonderful joy this girl has ever known since entering the lifestyle. this one had thought before, oh this is it because her belly was getting fed but this time it is different Master and Mistress dont just take from this girl, they give to her in many ways,like caring for her while correcting her instead of just being or getting angry when she makes mistakes...they make this girl feel special to them, it is an honest caring that she never experienced before. this one is not scared of giving away her life to another anymore. she is learning to trust in baby steps and she owes feeling this to Master and Mistress and their care. she is not afraid to beg Their collar.

MrMister -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/5/2006 4:28:23 PM)
I haven't a shred of doubt that I have finally found my "one", which is quite a beautiful thing. And needless to say, so is she! We have connected on so many different levels and I truly couldn't be happier. Who ever said good things happen to those who wait was certainly on the mark with me. For I have indeed waited such a very long time to finally meet my soul mate.

CERCKL -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/5/2006 7:08:16 PM)
Started with a comfortable sense of initial communication, intensity...when we finally met, it was recognition...the intense happiness of seeing her 'again' was overwhelming...she opened up and brought aspects of myself which had been forgotten to the forefront...it was a sense of this being correct, proper...wanted...experienced deeper than the time rationalized. Complete. When the communication, openness flowed, it was very obvious... C

CanadianGuy -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/5/2006 8:44:20 PM)
I wasn't looking, but when I found her we connected immediately. She was too young for me to meet in person, at the time, but when she was old enough we made that leap. I can't wait to be with her again, and soon, permanently. As I explain it to her, the reason I have chosen her is she's the first person I've found that I don't have to lie to about anything. Another reason is that she doesn't try to change me, but being with her makes me strive to be a better dominant, man, human being. And the fact that we have almost 100% compatibility sexually helps as well. :)

obis -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/6/2006 1:25:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CanadianGuy As I explain it to her, the reason I have chosen her is she's the first person I've found that I don't have to lie to about anything. Another reason is that she doesn't try to change me, but being with her makes me strive to be a better dominant, man, human being. And the fact that we have almost 100% compatibility sexually helps as well. :) I say almost the exact same thing, she's the first partner I've ever been able to tell everything good and bad to, without ever worrying what she would think, and that her presence alone makes me want to eliminate the bad I do and increase the good, not to impress her or puff up my chest, but because she deserves for me to be that better man.

Dustyn -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/6/2006 3:57:18 AM)
Been there and done those feelings fairly recently, actually, so I know EXACTLY where you are coming from on that one... road's not paved yet, and a good deal of it still doesn't even have gravel on it... just playing it by ear, mostly for personal reasons and some out of consideration for her circumstances as well... quote: ORIGINAL: CanadianGuy I wasn't looking, but when I found her we connected immediately. She was too young for me to meet in person, at the time, but when she was old enough we made that leap. I can't wait to be with her again, and soon, permanently. As I explain it to her, the reason I have chosen her is she's the first person I've found that I don't have to lie to about anything. Another reason is that she doesn't try to change me, but being with her makes me strive to be a better dominant, man, human being. And the fact that we have almost 100% compatibility sexually helps as well. :)

foxnotinsox -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/6/2006 4:08:00 AM)
quote: For those looking and those who have found...Dom/mes and subs. How do you choose your one? ..... Have you just settled until another comes along? What makes you stop and say "Ah, I'm done looking." Although I am not currently found, I have been in the past =) I know when I am done when everything is down ... ... that is, when no flags have been raised, and my barriers are lowered.... ... when I no longer have misgivings... ohhhhh yeah, and I gotta be *hot* to be done .. chemistry has a lot to do with it.. Enjoy the day!

darkslife -> RE: Sealing the Deal (5/6/2006 4:54:53 AM)
I listen to my instincts - they have only been wrong once, and I believe they were blinded by love. Love makes you see something that is not there.

Page: [1] 2 next > >>

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

4.296875E-02