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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/6/2006 8:42:28 AM   
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Most women are all talk and no action. BDSM seems to be more about the man doing house work for them than the sexual side of things. What a waste of space. 

Well, I'll be. You mean to tell me that it's not about sex? When did this happen?
 
I would hazard a guess that you have just discovered that being a submissive means it's not ALL ABOUT YOU. Interesting concept, isn't it?
 

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/6/2006 10:13:41 AM   
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Hmmmmm I think LadyM's comment maybe being taken the wrong way here..... either that or I am totaly misreading what she wrote.

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They are superior because they are Dominant.


I maybe wrong here but I read that as not being a judgement call on the value of the person, but rather of their position in the dynamic. Of course a Dom/me is going to expect things to be done in a manner suitable to their wishes. Dom/mes train, subs are trained.... not the other way around. If the sub doesn't like whats on offer then they best look elsewhere because that offer isn't about to change, and really would they be getting a Dom/me if that where not the case?

Whilst as individuals people have equal value (Some more equal than others ), when it comes to the Dom and sub seeing if there is any potential between them it is the sub who is the one offering to be molded into what the Dom/me requires....of course that is once the have found the one that is offering what they want. In that way yes it could certainly be described as 'superior'

If I am wrong then I'm sure Lady M will clarify at some point.



*Nods*  Nicely worded, Raven.  That is how I took Lady M's post, also.

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/7/2006 11:56:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: naughtynick

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I should have that well over, and perhaps, off your head by now!



Well here give it to me....nick's penis will make a nice little makeshift gown hanger.




Lol. What is that supposed to mean? You have never seen my big blue vein cigar.



Shush nick..... your strung up to the paddle fan remember?...Don't make me have to gag you with my thong.
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Yeow! Love it :} Now was that freshly worn??

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/7/2006 12:03:09 PM   
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sex is overrated and not part of my journey on this, or any other site. be thankful to find a Mistress that will allow you to be in Her presence. i can only dream of being so lucky.

Sex? not an issue here.


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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/7/2006 12:55:37 PM   
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Men are more genuine when it comes to sex, women like to play cat and mouse and stuff the men around for it. Sometimes I wish I was gay.



Erm... I know of plenty of guys who will play (as in coerce) a woman to get her to say yes to sleeping with them.  How is that more genuine? Actually I was hit on by lots of gay guys in my teens and twenties, who would use sleazy round about tactics to try and get me to have sex with them.  Or even just to get my phone number.

I'm pretty sure the gay Doms would have you doing their house work too.  Or at the very least you would be polishing their leather boots and tidying up the dungeon.  It's not just a female Domme thing, it's in the culture of BDSM that subs perform tasks to please the Dom/me.

Not everyone does it, but I know it's been a requirement for me when I was with a Dom.  And I've offered it to a Dom I was interested in so that he knew that I would be willing to work for my pleasure.

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/7/2006 1:41:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DigitBox

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ORIGINAL: naughtynick

Men are more genuine when it comes to sex, women like to play cat and mouse and stuff the men around for it. Sometimes I wish I was gay.



Erm... I know of plenty of guys who will play (as in coerce) a woman to get her to say yes to sleeping with them.  How is that more genuine? Actually I was hit on by lots of gay guys in my teens and twenties, who would use sleazy round about tactics to try and get me to have sex with them.  Or even just to get my phone number.

I'm pretty sure the gay Doms would have you doing their house work too.  Or at the very least you would be polishing their leather boots and tidying up the dungeon.  It's not just a female Domme thing, it's in the culture of BDSM that subs perform tasks to please the Dom/me.

Not everyone does it, but I know it's been a requirement for me when I was with a Dom.  And I've offered it to a Dom I was interested in so that he knew that I would be willing to work for my pleasure.



Reads to me like they were treating you like a "bitch". (According to a gay co-worker)

Men are more "genuine" when it comes to sexual intent.

The first thing every man learns when courting a woman, or the "bitch", is that it's all about playing the game, her game, to get the grand prize.

These lessons are:
1) Lie about what you're really after. If you use honesty you loose automatically.
2) Lie about what you think. Tell her what she wants to hear.
3) Lie about what your plans for the future are. "Oh I'm going pre-med." Kerching!!!! Home run.
4) Lie about what it is that you really like about her. "Oh I love the way think and we have so much in common." Translation, I really like those melons and the way your tight ass swings. ;)

So we "sit up", roll over, and play dead. Just to give the woman a bone. :P


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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/7/2006 2:08:55 PM   
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I think you're too focused on the domme's in this situation and should look at the subs that are attracted to them.  A Domme wouldn't be giving nothing in return to someone that does all their chores.  Personally, making others happy makes me truely happy.  Thats how I feel needed and appreciated.  I'm sure this is a lot more to the relationships then JUST housework.  When they finish, does she comment on how well they did?  Does she reward them in any way for what they did?  Do they get a sense of fulfillment out of it?
To each his own.  Personally I can't see why anyone would want to be someones sex slave and get nothing out of it other then sex.  That doesn't make it wrong, it makes it different.

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/7/2006 2:42:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MistressImp

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ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld

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ORIGINAL: MistressImp

yes...Yes....YES LOKI!!!!!!!!!! only if we cuck nick first.





I’m game. I say we suspend him with a good view and feed him Viagra!


Okay.... now that thought did turn me on. LOL


Okay… the plot thickens. I say we throw agirl in and violate her every which way possible. I am talking iniquitous crimes against humanity, and double his Viagra!


I am new here and don't feel I have any right to tell little nicky what I think of him but reading Wulfchyld and Ms Imp's responses is making me die laughing. I would happily serve either of them, and vacuum the entire house 

I have to say I am one of the sub's who enjoys sex. I am with Akisha in that I am a nympho as well. But to find a Dom who, as she put it, makes my insides melt with just a look......something just in my dreams for now.

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/7/2006 9:00:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: naughtynick
Lol. What is that supposed to mean? You have never seen my big blue vein cigar.


Hey, it could be a lot of fun to treat your cock like a good cigar.  I'll even let you pick which end I snip a piece off of and which end I light on fire. 

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/7/2006 9:31:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: naughtynick
Lol. What is that supposed to mean? You have never seen my big blue vein cigar.


Hey, it could be a lot of fun to treat your cock like a good cigar.  I'll even let you pick which end I snip a piece off of and which end I light on fire. 



Oh my, somehow the mental image of that just make my skin go cold, and i don't have a penis. LOL talk about edge play mixed with fireplay.

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/7/2006 10:02:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MichMasochist
Reads to me like they were treating you like a "bitch". (According to a gay co-worker)

Men are more "genuine" when it comes to sexual intent.

The first thing every man learns when courting a woman, or the "bitch", is that it's all about playing the game, her game, to get the grand prize.

These lessons are:
1) Lie about what you're really after. If you use honesty you loose automatically.
2) Lie about what you think. Tell her what she wants to hear.
3) Lie about what your plans for the future are. "Oh I'm going pre-med." Kerching!!!! Home run.
4) Lie about what it is that you really like about her. "Oh I love the way think and we have so much in common." Translation, I really like those melons and the way your tight ass swings. ;)

So we "sit up", roll over, and play dead. Just to give the woman a bone. :P
With such a clear Mastery of women, what we need, and how to get us to do you, I'm shocked you can't get one to play with you per your profile
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Have given up on the search. So I'm just here for the forum
    This is un-f****ng believable.   M

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/8/2006 12:57:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MichMasochist
Reads to me like they were treating you like a "bitch". (According to a gay co-worker)

Men are more "genuine" when it comes to sexual intent.

The first thing every man learns when courting a woman, or the "bitch", is that it's all about playing the game, her game, to get the grand prize.

These lessons are:
1) Lie about what you're really after. If you use honesty you loose automatically.
2) Lie about what you think. Tell her what she wants to hear.
3) Lie about what your plans for the future are. "Oh I'm going pre-med." Kerching!!!! Home run.
4) Lie about what it is that you really like about her. "Oh I love the way think and we have so much in common." Translation, I really like those melons and the way your tight ass swings. ;)

So we "sit up", roll over, and play dead. Just to give the woman a bone. :P
With such a clear Mastery of women, what we need, and how to get us to do you, I'm shocked you can't get one to play with you per your profile
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Have given up on the search. So I'm just here for the forum
    This is un-f****ng believable.   M


No offense but not many dommes have much to offer. It seems to be more of everything else rather than anything sexual. I don't blame him.

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/8/2006 1:50:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MichMasochist


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ORIGINAL: DigitBox

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ORIGINAL: naughtynick

Men are more genuine when it comes to sex, women like to play cat and mouse and stuff the men around for it. Sometimes I wish I was gay.



Erm... I know of plenty of guys who will play (as in coerce) a woman to get her to say yes to sleeping with them.  How is that more genuine? Actually I was hit on by lots of gay guys in my teens and twenties, who would use sleazy round about tactics to try and get me to have sex with them.  Or even just to get my phone number.

I'm pretty sure the gay Doms would have you doing their house work too.  Or at the very least you would be polishing their leather boots and tidying up the dungeon.  It's not just a female Domme thing, it's in the culture of BDSM that subs perform tasks to please the Dom/me.

Not everyone does it, but I know it's been a requirement for me when I was with a Dom.  And I've offered it to a Dom I was interested in so that he knew that I would be willing to work for my pleasure.



Reads to me like they were treating you like a "bitch". (According to a gay co-worker)

Men are more "genuine" when it comes to sexual intent.

The first thing every man learns when courting a woman, or the "bitch", is that it's all about playing the game, her game, to get the grand prize.

These lessons are:
1) Lie about what you're really after. If you use honesty you loose automatically.
2) Lie about what you think. Tell her what she wants to hear.
3) Lie about what your plans for the future are. "Oh I'm going pre-med." Kerching!!!! Home run.
4) Lie about what it is that you really like about her. "Oh I love the way think and we have so much in common." Translation, I really like those melons and the way your tight ass swings. ;)

So we "sit up", roll over, and play dead. Just to give the woman a bone. :P



This is so so true. Most women,  when they are attracted to a man and want nothing but a fuck from him, the man knows damn well that if he doesn't pretend she means heaven and earth to him, he'll blow it. For the most part they seem to want to fool themselves as much as the bloke. They just seem to think if they fuck a bloke for nothing but pleasure they will be selling themselves too cheaply. Hence men aren't honest in their intentions by default. If you are honest the prize will be denied to you.

For the most part, the prize isn't worth the effort but hey, we men are ruled by our dicks. I've only ever come across one woman in my life that has from the beginning shunned the romantic crap. Just look at the profiles on CM. 'This is spiritual', 'I want intimacy', 'I am special and demand to be treated that way', 'I know what I'm worth', 'I will be all to that special domm'. They want a fuck but have to fool themsleves into thinking they are above just getting down and dirty.

People will be getting bored of my bete noir but she was so fucking high maintenance in the 'intimacy' and 'I'm special' stakes and 'I will surprise the special dom with what I'm capable of'. In the end she proved, that when her pussy throbs she wanted a cock. She didn't want someone who cared for her, she just couldn't face up to the fact she wanted a good fuck, she had to have men putting her on a pedestal first and play her game so she could enjoy making them dance to her tune before they got the grand prize. She knew damn well how much I thought about her because of the sacrifices I made but I refused to dance to her tune and sit up and beg and unconditionally adore the bitch because there was other things in my life that at times had to take priority over her.

Now I'm back to reality and I'll play the game as far as it suits me but I've learnt my lesson and will never ever again believe in the crap most women want to hear.

And d'yer know something, the game works!

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/8/2006 1:56:32 AM   
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then again, some men just don't get it about women, men think it's all about sex...period. (well, sex and televised sports...LOL)

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/8/2006 2:02:48 AM   
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Wish that it was all about sex. The game that has to be played to get the grand prize is so damn boring but nature has made our dicks rule our heads and so we go along with the merry dance. We are just destined to wake up in the morning and regret it and realise it wasn't worth all the effort.

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/8/2006 2:11:04 AM   
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then again, some men just don't get it about women, men think it's all about sex...period. (well, sex and televised sports...LOL)


You see, a man's needs is sex. The only problem is that women think a man's needs is not important but at the same time, women think a man should worship a woman's needs which is unfortunately not sex.



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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/8/2006 2:20:55 AM   
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Men only want sex but they know if they don't buy sex with hard cash they will have to pay for it in some other way. You don't necessarily need a woman for companionship or for intellectual stimulation, you can get that from your friends so what else do you want a woman for apart from sex? Children?

In my mind, any man that thinks there is something more is wearing rose tinted spectacles. Biology insists we play the game. Schoppenhauer was right, desire is misery, control the desire and you are in charge.

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/8/2006 3:21:43 AM   
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Hum...Submission is not just between the legs. Submission first happens between the ears.

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/8/2006 3:36:11 AM   
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SOME men want only sex, SOME women will make you pay through the nose for it but that's a huge generalisation. Not everyone plays manipulating games....but enough do to make people cynical....lol

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/8/2006 5:11:35 AM   
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not all men want women for sex. it's the lower head thinking for the upper one. i, for one, find that the comany of women have their own merits. women have intelligence and emotions that require closer scrutiny and praise. of course, when men decide to allow the blood flow to go to the upper head instead of the lower one, they will finally learn to appreciate women instead of taking them for granted. if they would stop and smell the roses, they can finally appreciate the thorns.

just my observations here.


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