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Aynne88 -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (3/11/2011 3:06:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FukinTroll quote: ORIGINAL: Aynne88 quote: ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep quote: ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming OP: women don't have a "biological imperative" to orgasm. We're not like men. We can take it or leave it, according to our will. Orgasm denial and deprivation isn't going to work the same for us as it will for men, because of this difference. Its likely to frustate us in the beginning, but it won't be physically painful. The likely result with a woman is that she's going to lose interest in sex, in sex with you- or just in you. yeeeeeeeeeeep indeedy just requoting for truth. =p Yep.... Cum'er cumdumpster and let's test that out. SLURP~ Sweet. [;)]. Master. lol.

OwnedFemaleFlesh -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/22/2011 3:48:39 AM)
My longest so far is just over 4 months. I, personally, enjoy the feeling of frustration but I didn't in the beginning. If she's only just started, I would build her up slowly - at first just one or two days, then build up to 3 or 4, etc. To begin with, the frustration made me want to kill people, but now it's a nice warm cosy feeling. The key thing is, when it stops being fun for her, it's cruel to continue. Denial can be very, very intense and have explosive results. I know Doms who have pushed their subs too far on the first go, and ended up being dumped. Push her boundaries, but don't push her too far all at once! owned xxx

DeviantlyD -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/22/2011 3:58:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming Twenty excruciating years. Then I got a divorce. [8\|] LOL!!! Oh. I'm sorry. I shouldn't laugh, but you hit my funny bone with that comment. ;)

DeviantlyD -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/22/2011 4:08:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom You're not an expert on all women every where, so please do not make generalization type statements of what women will do, and won't do, since it's different for all women. Not all women who're played with and denied O's will stop being attracted to the man, or will become unable to beturned on just because that's the case for you. quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP I stopped sleeping. And then I came in my sleep so that ended that. But the sleep deprivation is a hard limit for me.At least if he wants me in a good mood and able to drive a car. Beyond that, women will stop being turned on by the man who does this to them. And usually you can't turn us back on again. If put in chastity, we'll ditch the guy and get a pet. I believe what DesFIP is talking about is not just short temporary bouts of denial, but long term extended ones. There is a huge difference. I have a question for you. The tone of your response to DesFIP sounds rather acrimonious. Do you have a personal issue with her?

DeviantlyD -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/22/2011 4:09:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tiggerspoohbear I didn't have my first orgasm until I was 41. I never knew I hadn't had one. I could cum, but an orgasm wasn't something I thought I was missing out on. Now, to be controlled or denied is just plain unfair as far as I'm concerned. I went 29 yrs total without the damn things, I figure I'm due for quite a number of them now. Just MHO. This is completely none of my business, but despite that, I can't help but be curious. Did you never orgasm during masturbation?

Arpig -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/22/2011 4:16:52 AM)
Never mind. I just noticed somebody already made that joke!!

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/22/2011 5:34:02 AM)
It's been my experience that most females love orgasm control (bringing the female to the edge and having her beg to come) if its done with a degree of expertise. Not all, others will hate it. Most females don't do denial well, and denial for long periods, not at all. Personally, I would not handle that well. I do know several couples that do practice it. One female routinely goes 2-4 weeks w/o orgasm, and this is not punishment, it is their kink. Another is allowed to orgasm once a week, and must literally spend a certain amount of her free time "getting worked up, but not allowed to orgasm." She seems to love it. Males are quite different. For one things, males seem to vary widely on their ability to control their orgasm. Some are very controlled, some have....none. Also, as I mentioned in the other thread on this subject, males tend to be more into denial.

Kana -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/22/2011 6:20:55 AM)
I've done six months...and that was with regular stimulation, bringing her to the edge and then denying. Orgasms denial is a regular thing with us, yet another love/hate thing for her. She hateshateshates it, but when I finally allow her release, her head explodes. And the longer the denial, the bigger the explosion. (I'm talking eyes rolled back in her head, drooling, unable to talk, stops breathing for minutes on end, muscles vibrating,and her body jerks and quivers reflexively for up to 1/2 an hour later. Yeah, good times.)

coookie -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/22/2011 6:46:35 AM)
I hard limit at denial because of the psychological aspect for me. I get weird man!! I get needy and clingy and weepy and HE decided that it was not as much fun as it seemed like it would be. At the same time as the headcase in me emerges .. the sex drive is repressed. I didn't need it and when i did finally cum i was good for weeks after on the physical front. I personally think men should make women cum MORE because it will usually make her think about sex more and get ready for sex more eagerly.

windchymes -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/22/2011 6:49:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: coookie I personally think men should make women cum MORE because it will usually make her think about sex more and get ready for sex more eagerly. I like the way you think. Yes. :)

HannahLynHeather -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/22/2011 7:08:35 AM)
i went without for about half a day once. it was torture, bloody hideous i tell ya!! hannah lynn

hejira92 -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/22/2011 7:37:50 AM)
Several thoughts: If I get no stimulation- I will be frustrated, moody and eventually that part of me will turn off (I wish I could make the "joke" about an 18 year marriage, but it wasn't funny). If I am stimulated and denied, it's frustrating, yet can be an effective "who owns you"-type of reminder that I don't get to choose. (But He knows not to continue for days and weeks because my sex drive will turn off). Sometimes, He will f*ck me and tell me I'd better not cum. That can be hot as hell- to be purely an object to slake His desire. But, as He will tell you- He'd rather put me in discomfort with forced orgasms than denied ones. He loves to get me to the point of begging to NOT have any more. He travels the circuit of vaginal to clitoral to g-spot orgasms until it drives me crazy and I'm a sweaty, unintelligible mess. The overstimulation can get downright painful. If you want to have fun controlling a woman's orgasms, yet keep her sex drive up, forced might be the way to go.

tiggerspoohbear -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/22/2011 8:19:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD quote: ORIGINAL: tiggerspoohbear I didn't have my first orgasm until I was 41. I never knew I hadn't had one. I could cum, but an orgasm wasn't something I thought I was missing out on. Now, to be controlled or denied is just plain unfair as far as I'm concerned. I went 29 yrs total without the damn things, I figure I'm due for quite a number of them now. Just MHO. This is completely none of my business, but despite that, I can't help but be curious. Did you never orgasm during masturbation? Nope, can't have an orgasm if you don't know the difference between cumming and the actual orgasm. And to this day, I can't orgasm on my own, I need the actual stimulation or someone "encouraging" me if you will if I'm to do myself. And now? Orgasm denial? Oooo no no no no no. NO. I went 24 yrs without one, I figure I've got too many built up to be denied. Control is one thing, denial is a hard limit and that's something that'll be discussed before I agree to be someones. And if it's in their plans, then they can find someone else. As it is, it's been so long that I hardly have a sex drive. Bring someone into the picture? They're in biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig trouble Mister. The good kind. I figure I've got some years to make up for, keep those orgasms cumming as it were and whoever will have one hell of a happy submissive on their hands. [;)]

nephandi -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/22/2011 9:39:43 AM)
Greetings Orgasm control would not work well on me. Orgasms is nice, it is pleasurable but I would rather read an occult book or watch a horror movie. For that reason we never used orgasm control when I was a slave, though I have forgotten about it for weeks and even months at times and not just done it. Sex in any form is not really a big thing for me. Now horror movie deprivation that would kill me. :O I wish you well

littleone35 -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/22/2011 9:58:46 AM)
The longest i have ever benn without one is 10 days, i went on a family vacation Master had to work and could not come. That was hard but of course when i got home... Long term orgasam denial we don't do that. Master my tease me up to an hour but he always lets me come. It makes him happy to do that, and it makes me happy too. Master gets a great deal of pleasure out of making me cum, so who am i to deny him his pleasure lol. Matt's littleone

weird123m -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/22/2011 12:53:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arpig OK, to give a serious answer, in my experience the girls are right. Continuous teasing does lead to shutting down of desire. This applies to both genders. Now if this is that particular person's kink it may work differently. I only use it when we are to be apart for a few days...masturbate almost to release every day for the few days we are apart...so she is hot and bothered when we get together. But as anything other than an occasional game...no. Women can cum and cum and cum...and I enjoy helping them do that...its one of the many wonderful things about women. I don't care how many times a girl of mine orgasms...the more the merrier. Being with me is supposed to be sexually thrilling...not frustrating. edited to elaborate I agree with that. Teasing and holding back is a good way to make sure she is eager to please. And then I make up for the teasing with gusto and drive her over the brink. I want her to walk away from playing spent and happy. Or to have her simply pass out when I am done with her.

DeviantlyD -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/24/2011 3:49:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tiggerspoohbear Nope, can't have an orgasm if you don't know the difference between cumming and the actual orgasm. You'll have to explain this one to me. I've experienced times where there is a build-up and then nothing, but I don't call that cumming. I've had variable degrees of climaxing. Is this what you mean? puzzled I have never made a distinction between cumming and having an orgasm so I am most curious to know what you mean.

OwnedFemaleFlesh -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/24/2011 4:16:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: weird123m quote: ORIGINAL: Arpig OK, to give a serious answer, in my experience the girls are right. Continuous teasing does lead to shutting down of desire. This applies to both genders. Now if this is that particular person's kink it may work differently. I only use it when we are to be apart for a few days...masturbate almost to release every day for the few days we are apart...so she is hot and bothered when we get together. But as anything other than an occasional game...no. Women can cum and cum and cum...and I enjoy helping them do that...its one of the many wonderful things about women. I don't care how many times a girl of mine orgasms...the more the merrier. Being with me is supposed to be sexually thrilling...not frustrating. edited to elaborate I agree with that. Teasing and holding back is a good way to make sure she is eager to please. And then I make up for the teasing with gusto and drive her over the brink. I want her to walk away from playing spent and happy. Or to have her simply pass out when I am done with her. Whilst I commend the sentiments of wanting your submissive to feel satisfied and happy after sex and would never try to change anybody away from that (hey, wanting your partner to be happy is a great thing!) I just wanted to offer an alternative viewpoint. My Owner enjoys keeping me in long term denial, and I have become so used to feeling intensely aroused on a permanent basis, that to me orgasms = a loss. I feel empty and deflated after orgasming, and for a few days I can't get used to that feeling of not being aroused, it feels unsubmissive and sort of lonely. It's like the mental leash has been withdrawn. For me, exchanging orgasmic pleasure for this awful come-down is just not worth it. Whereas forgoing orgasm (but enjoying all the rest of sex, the build up, arousal, 'edging') means I have months and months of being on a sexual high, so aroused that even brief sexual activity leaves me trembling, spaced out, my whole body filled with pleasure. I walk away from sex feeling even more on a high, even happier than I was before! When it finally comes time for me to orgasm, I feel down, I don't want it to end. It feels like I'm being sent to my death! All those lovely months of pleasure and arousal, coming to an end for the sake of a few little orgasms. And don't get me wrong, I like orgasming, it feels great, I don't have any problem with it, I just prefer the long term pleasure of denial over the short term pleasure of orgasms. Yeah, I know it's not for everyone, but I just wanted to explain that denial doesn't always mean less pleasure or less satisfaction with sex. The pleasure I get from denial (which is not necessarily what anyone else would get) is much greater than the pleasure I get from orgasming, and I just wanted to share that viewpoint :-) owned xxx

sunshinemiss -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/24/2011 5:23:17 AM)
Sunny Quote of the Day goes to nephandi [sm=cute.gif] for Now horror movie deprivation - that would kill me.

JstAnotherSub -> RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? (4/24/2011 5:56:37 AM)
My orgasms are a use it or lose it kind of animal.

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