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why do ppl want to continue talking outside of collarme? - 3/15/2011 6:01:07 AM

shemaleamanda

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i don't understand why some people i start emailing or chatting with want to continue to talk or email outside of collarme? Should i be leary of people who want to do this? why can't they just continue in cm?

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 6:05:32 AM

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I can't speak for all of them, but for me, it'd a step in the progression toward meeting.

Also, collarchat doesn't work for everyone.

Let me turn the question around. Why do you prefer to stay on cm?

what's your goal? Meeting people, talking on the phone, etc.?

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 6:06:01 AM

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After a certain period of time I tend to take communication off cm, I see it as a progression of 'relationship.'

cm, yahoo\msn, phone, real.

If I don't have any intention of taking it further, depending, I either keep it to cm or to yahoo\msn.

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 6:13:26 AM

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i don't understand why some people i start emailing or chatting with want to continue to talk or email outside of collarme? Should i be leary of people who want to do this? why can't they just continue in cm?

Sounds like the shift to the real world is moving outside your comfort/safe zone.. You choose which arena you want to live in ....

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 6:14:51 AM

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Chat blows.

That is all.

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 6:18:28 AM

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i wasn't sure what it meant. i would like to think it means taking it to another step towards meeting. i have been here sooo long and haven't met anyone. i do want to meet people who have an interest in me. i have just been leery of why people wanted to chat and email somewhere else when cm works just fine. But i can see the other side of that question now. Thanks!

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 6:22:07 AM

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Most of us who have been doing this for more than a couple of years find online chatting extremely boring compared with real life. Yes there are many losers who will live out the rest of their lives online and die lonely geeks, but that's not us. We want real relationships with real people, rather than a fantasy with someone who may not be anything like his or her online persona. I have known people who divorced their mate of 20+ years and moved across the country to live with someone they had only met online. That's the other end of the spectrum for ya. Unless you are completely misrepresenting yourself online, you should not be afraid of meeting someone in person.

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 7:08:54 AM

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Thanks for the replies. i am not misrepresenting myself. i think i am just a very specific niche so finding someone who is a good match is difficult.

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 7:12:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: shemaleamanda

Thanks for the replies. i am not misrepresenting myself. i think i am just a very specific niche so finding someone who is a good match is difficult.

I just looked at your profile, and I agree that you are searching for something very specific. To be honest, your desires will attract a lot more players than genuine Doms and Masters.

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 7:23:50 AM

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yes, it's really been sad. i was hoping to have met someone a long time ago. i keep hoping the person(s) will come along who is into feminization, bondage, etc...

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 7:30:53 AM

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Well, Amanda, my take is that your profile is all about you. You want to be feminized (and the profile sounds like your M will be paying the bills for it). You even specify the cup size that you want - so what kind of input will your owner get?

You want to be a sex slave - that either means that you get to screw for your keep, or that you get pimped out. I assume the former.

In which case, your owner is asked to pay thousands of bucks to get a woman that will screw him. I can get a genetic woman for less.

I apologize for my bluntness.

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 7:57:00 AM

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I seem to always hit on a good thread AFTER the OP has hidden their profile... woe is me! LOL

Seriously OP, I would listen to what DarkSteven says, he gives very good advice. If he says your profile needs re-working then I'm sure it does (probably why you hid it, or at least I hope you are working on it).

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 8:14:25 AM

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Hello shemaleamanda. I haven't looked at your profile but I see you are looking at this thread right now so will toss in my two cents.

Searching for the right person can take a very long time. Finding somebody to keep is difficult, finding some body to use for a while is easy. Be patient.

Secondly, and to give you hope... I know another trans who met his Master this year and is permanently collared and under contract. He is "dancing on air" happy, and his M enjoys making him more feminine. (You should see the the hawt PVC maid's uniform his M is getting for his /s to wear.)

I don't know what D did to find his M online and quickly move it to real time...other than both of them being compatible and lucky to have found each other.

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 10:29:14 AM

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Whereas I reserve the right to do as I see fit, if a slave/sub doesn't want to come of CM for me then he's not fit for me.
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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 11:14:38 AM

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I keep it within CM until I'm comfortable, then I'll part with an anonymous gmail address. I don't give up my Yahoo or AOL IM because it contains my last name.

I never respond to guys whose first email is, "Hello, got AIM?" Blech! I assume these guys are wankers or not compatible intellectually.

I'm online all day at work and do not want to chat off work, so have never used CM chat. I assume other services are more advanced, and that could be why people want to chat outside CM.

I might check my CM mail while at lunch, but always have my gmail open, another reason why people might want to communicate outside CM.

And like DS says, "it's a step in the progression toward meeting."

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 11:30:19 AM

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quote:

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Thanks for the replies. i am not misrepresenting myself. i think i am just a very specific niche so finding someone who is a good match is difficult.

I just looked at your profile, and I agree that you are searching for something very specific. To be honest, your desires will attract a lot more players than genuine Doms and Masters.

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 11:36:43 AM

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Please, if someone does not want to correspond off the site after communicating here a bit, then I am over it.

I agree with kalikashama, if you approach me with Got Yahoo? or just send me your Yahoo address, I am not interested.

Big boys know how to take it to the next level with finesse.

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 11:40:28 AM

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I send a few massages and then if there is an interest we talk on the phone. No yahoo bullshit, or live chat.

A phone conversation. If that goes well it usually leads to a meeting.

I live in the real world and that is where i prefer to conduct my business. I also don't have an impressive sword or a family banner.

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 11:57:07 AM

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i wasn't sure what it meant. i would like to think it means taking it to another step towards meeting. i have been here sooo long and haven't met anyone. i do want to meet people who have an interest in me. i

I'll give you better news than that, some of my dearest friends, some with whom I have very long running RLRT friendships were encountered here on cm in their beginnings.

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RE: why do ppl want to continue talking outside of coll... - 3/15/2011 12:01:02 PM

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when i was looking for someone i wanted to chat through pm first to see if they had a mind i could connect with. once i had done that i wanted it to move to msn because it's more instant. there is nothing more frustrating than asking a question and waiting while the site catches up and then the other person replies. much simpler to have instant chat and i find web site chat rooms can go down so yahoo or msn is easier.

the guy i see now and i chatted online for months and even arranged our first meet before we realised that we hadn't actually spoken on the phone.

as for anyone else. well they are free to say hello and so on. i'll respond to people if needs be, but it all stays within the site because i'm not interested in anything else.

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