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RE: Searching for exreme - 3/19/2011 5:47:53 PM

BonesFromAsh

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ORIGINAL: mistressko

I don't mind being someone's universe, as long as they are already a functioning, gravity centred planet.

Brilliant!

In fact, I may use that line....if you don't mind.

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RE: Searching for exreme - 3/20/2011 7:55:20 AM

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Your insights of attending munches and local events was certainly most appreciated. I have not attended such as i have not felt comfortable in doing so. To attend such gatherings alone has been perceived by me as conspicuous and well...an outsider. i do understand that there may well be wonderful Ladies there that may well find me enjoyeable. i have sought to find a Woman who valued a situation focused on my belonging to Her, rather than of such a community nature. Again, i admit to being in error.

Then you're fucked, and not in the fun way by a strap-on. Your best chance and possibly your only realistic chance is to meet people in person at local social events and get to know them first. No sane person is going to see some profile on the Internet and say, "Oh yeah, goodie, this total stranger can move in with me and I'll be responsible for his life 24/7". Real life D/s relationships just don't work like a kinky porn movie. You HAVE to get to know and trust someone for a very long time before you take them into your home. Even if you have no sense of self-preservation, a healthy dominant will, and there is no way she is going to take you into her home without having spent a whole lot of face time getting to know you.

D/s relationships are still human relationships and they progress like any other. There are no insta-porn shortcuts. If you want to meet a dominant woman and court/date her with the intention of wanting to eventually be in a 24/7 D/s relationship, then you have to do that the exact same way you would meet and court/date a vanilla woman with the intention of wanting to eventually get married. It's unrealistic fantasy thinking to imagine that it can be any other way. Real life does not work like a porn movie where you get swept off your feet suddenly by a random horny femdom dressed in latex who will keep you caged all the time when not in use.

Real life is about adults who can actively contribute to their partner's life, and who are not so frackin' selfish that they are able to leave their kink in the closet and be adult members of the household when kids or family or vanilla friends come around. As they do, in real life. If you are so totally selfish and obsessed with your personal kink that you expect somebody to babysit you all the time and never have a life, you are going to be alone for a very long time. Your idea of a relationship is a major drag on a femdom's time and energy and capacity to have a real life, and that is just not going to work for someone who isn't independently wealthy and has no kids or family. Good luck holding out for that, if you don't revise your expectations.

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RE: Searching for exreme - 3/20/2011 9:30:23 AM

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My ex-wife and i were always in the life style, but descrete for professional and family reasons...it was always just play between us.

John, this is the part that is confusing Me. I haven't read your profile or had any other contact with you except for this thread, Yet, every woman that has responded here has repeatedly mentioned that you come across as though your ideas came from some kind of porn fantasy. To Me, this seems like a complete contradiction. If you know from your prior experience with your ex-wife what living a D/s lifestyle is like, why are you making mistakes like these?

Didn't you have to have a real relationship with your ex-wife for her to want to have a D/s dynamic with you? When you wanted to submit to her, wasn't that feeling inspired by the connection that you had or could you have done the same for just any woman that passed you on the street? You had a life with her. Back then, did D/s include skipping all of the responsibilities of participating in the world like making sure bills got paid and raising your sons?

It seems to Me that somebody who lived a D/s dynamic with their prior partner shouldn't be making mistakes like these. While not every Dominant woman wants the same things, can't you find a parallel to what your ex-wife wanted in having your submission be used with what other Dominant women might want? Do you really think that just throwing up an ad on an internet site is the way to do this?

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RE: Searching for exreme - 3/25/2011 10:35:46 AM

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You are so needy! You would be a full time job for ANYONE!
Fix yourself FIRST so that someone might want you.

Women aren't bicycle pumps...to pump you up every time you feel deflated...
or whip you so that your self-fulfilling prophesy can be fulfilled so that you can feel more useless.

LIFE ISN'T ABOUT HOW YOU SURVIVED THE STORM...
IT IS HOW YOU DANCED IN THE RAIN.

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RE: Searching for exreme - 3/25/2011 12:14:04 PM

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WoW, that was quick. Only took you a week. Best of luck

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