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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/20/2011 8:24:47 PM   
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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/20/2011 8:43:30 PM   
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It was also hard to watch him turn into an old man.
Yeah, that aspect of it always has bothered me about my preference as well. It doesn't seem fair to her in some ways.



Me too. For awhile. I realized she was younger but that does not mean she is a child. She is a woman who made a choice with her eyes open. Besides, the risk is mine also when you think about it.



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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/20/2011 8:45:55 PM   
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Besides, the risk is mine also when you think about it.
That's an interesting idea...please elaborate.

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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/20/2011 8:47:18 PM   
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I blame only myself for staying in the situations simply because I was addicted to them both or the wrong reasons.
Being enthralled with someone is no excuse for not seeing them for who they really are.


I concur. I've been having this discussion with a close friend over the last several days and we've touched on the subject more than once. Now that I'm 'looking' if you will, I pay close attention to what he reveals and the realities that "truth" would have on my person. I haven't forsaken the possibility of being addicted, I just exercise better discernment when doing so.

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I would love to be addicted again, but doubt it will ever get to that level again. I am not sure it would be possible to go there again unless it was a very healthy situation.

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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/20/2011 9:18:29 PM   
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I would love to be addicted again, but doubt it will ever get to that level again. I am not sure it would be possible to go there again unless it was a very healthy situation.


A part of me would enjoy it, but I'm not the sort to go landing on my face unnecessarily. It would take a remarkable person to make me leap without question. And a definite complement to boot. The likelihood is slim to none.

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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/21/2011 12:10:33 AM   
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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/21/2011 8:44:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		The fact you still need you parents approval is one thing, the fact you still might trust their judgment is another.

An older person can be more patient and experienced, but there are just as many old wankers are there are young ones, so I'd focus one what a specific person has to offer you rather than how old they are, or whether your parents will approve- if they want the best for you they're ultimately going to want you to be be with someone who cares about you, although in practical sense, on average, with someone much older than you are it may be better to keep it on a mentoring level, as ones goals in life tend to change as one get's older.

An older person might have more to offer in terms of professional advice for example, but not be able to help you out as much if you want to start a family, which at your age is an option, though it's been known to happen.

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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/21/2011 1:30:57 PM   
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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/21/2011 3:17:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		what's wrong with having your parents' approval no matter what your age?

I personally would have always loved to have the approval of my parents. I find it endearing to hear of others who care so much for their family that they seek it.

It keeps harmony and it shows a tight knit family imo.

When I hear of others who say they don't care what their family or friends or anyone else think, it makes me think that they only care about themselves and no one else.

Op, if I were you I would talk to your family and find out what it is that bothers them, look at it with realistic ears and eyes and not just out of a selfish reason. Understand where they are coming from and why they feel the way they do and ask yourself how you view the relationship years down the road, keeping in mind if he can give you all those things...children, career, a relationship that will last for a very long time, energy levels, interests, etc....



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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/21/2011 3:19:19 PM   
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what's wrong with having your parents' approval no matter what your age?

I personally would have always loved to have the approval of my parents. I find it endearing to hear of others who care so much for their family that they seek it.

It keeps harmony and it shows a tight knit family imo.

When I hear of others who say they don't care what their family or friends or anyone else think, it makes me think that they only care about themselves and no one else.


Either you use an outrageously loose definition of selfishness, or I'm missing your point. I can see some kind of desire for approval, but to suggest that it is completely selfish not to live according to the whims of one's family? That seems like a bit much...


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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/21/2011 3:29:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm saying to not want the approval of your parents seems selfish to me and causes family chaos instead of peace. To me when I see a child who wants the approval of their mother or father, I see love.

If this means I'm outrageous, so be it. <shrug>

I find it just as outrageous to not want love from your parents because when parents don't want you to do something it's out of love for their child, not wanting to see harm come to them, not wanting their child to live a life of hardships.



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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/21/2011 3:53:34 PM   
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I'm saying to not want the approval of your parents seems selfish to me and causes family chaos instead of peace. To me when I see a child who wants the approval of their mother or father, I see love.

If this means I'm outrageous, so be it. <shrug>

I find it just as outrageous to not want love from your parents because when parents don't want you to do something it's out of love for their child, not wanting to see harm come to them, not wanting their child to live a life of hardships.





I really can't see that perspective at all, but to each their own. To me it's the person who is trying to force their beliefs on their relatives that is creating chaos, not the person trying to make decisions on their own private life. Of course, to be fair, I see next to no issue with familial chaos in the first place, so that might be simply an ideological difference between the two of us.


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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/21/2011 8:28:22 PM   
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Besides, the risk is mine also when you think about it.


That's an interesting idea...please elaborate.



I risk her deciding after five to ten years that she does not want to stay with an older man and she splits and I am alone at a now much older age with a sense of great loss at a time when I am sure to feel it more so than now.

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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/21/2011 9:32:57 PM   
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I'm saying to not want the approval of your parents seems selfish to me and causes family chaos instead of peace. To me when I see a child who wants the approval of their mother or father, I see love.

If this means I'm outrageous, so be it. <shrug>

I find it just as outrageous to not want love from your parents because when parents don't want you to do something it's out of love for their child, not wanting to see harm come to them, not wanting their child to live a life of hardships.





I hear you lass but I must disagree at least in part.. I was train ed and brought up to take the lead and not to buckle under parentage and especially maternal pressure. Mother was by today's standards a snob, no female and I include casual bed partners were good enough unless Mother could demonstrate that the girl/s had direct blood lines to the British throne or to one of the European Royal Families enough to match my own.. Had I needed her approval she would have cloned me unto her concepts of what i should be.. I would have spent a few years in the Australian SAS before leaving unless I would have been lucky enough to find other areas of combat that the squadron was headed to, and were I lucky I would have died in combat.. I knew my Mother well as did father. I did my own thing and did it My Way many successes and some failures..


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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/21/2011 9:39:19 PM   
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Besides, the risk is mine also when you think about it.


That's an interesting idea...please elaborate.



I risk her deciding after five to ten years that she does not want to stay with an older man and she splits and I am alone at a now much older age with a sense of great loss at a time when I am sure to feel it more so than now.


I understand this risk as I too have a similar one.. However my greatest worry is that I will not have time to lock up the business empire I am growing very quietly so that no arsehole can take it from, my Lady.. I am not in terrible health so theoretically should have another 20 years at least even though there is a 50% chance I lose my left leg this year but there are a couple of contracts not finalized which I must do over the next couple of months and those who issued the contracts need to be ....ermm talked to formerly and finally.


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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/21/2011 9:43:25 PM   
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Mother would personally check each and everyone of my dates to make sure that they were pristine and "intact."

Mother demanded that I excel at every turn. I was to be a God and no woman was good enough for her boy.

Thankfully I became the head of Domiguy Industries and mother passed away from the consumption shortly thereafter.

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RE: Age Differences, and Explaining It To The Family? - 3/21/2011 9:48:35 PM   
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I find it just as outrageous to not want love from your parents because when parents don't want you to do something it's out of love for their child, not wanting to see harm come to them, not wanting their child to live a life of hardships.



not always. some parents want things for their kids as a way of vicariously having those things for themselves. or they DON'T want things for their kids because they want them to do something else, even if it isn't right for them.
every move a parent makes really isn't motivated by selfless love for the child. sometimes it's about selfish love for themselves.


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