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Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 11:05:13 AM   
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I find kissing to be profoundly intimate and it is one of my favorite things in life. I could kiss away an afternoon, sex is optional, but YUM the kissing.

  Kissing is always the first thing I miss when a relationship is over… (wonder if you can actually file for kissing palimony?) but it is the first thing I want to explore in a new partner(s). A kiss tells me a great deal about the potential new toy and use the barometer of how intense the relationship can/will get for me. A girl that loves to kiss as much as I do is a dangerous ninja assassin in my life cuz I get a lil goofy over a good kisser.

  In my dynamic I have the “furs” or the “rug”, mainly the furs cuz my sheep skin tends to go every with me, but when I am camping I take this big Persian rug with me and lay it out in the SoulPad. In my dynamic, D/s or nilla, the “furs/rug” is sacred and the rules of the “furs” are as follows:
 
  • Anyone can lay out the furs at anytime.
  • When the furs are laid the people shut up and get on the furs.
  • There is no talking allowed.
  • The /s controls the kissing session and where it goes.
  • You are committed to the furs for a minimum of 30 mins.
 
I use the furs to fulfill my hyper-abundant need for kissing, petting and cuddling. I am pretty notorious for taking kisses when I want them, and I do want them a lot, however the “furs” were like the holy grail of intimate connection for me. It was the moment the /s is in control of the physical intimacy, I am committed to being on the furs for 30 minutes and as much as I may want to fuck her right there, she is in control of that for that 30 minutes.

  I was catering to my needs when I started the kissing fur/rug play, but I stumbled on this wonderful tool for connecting or reconnecting. I have, over the years, talked couples through the virtues of the rug/furs (any small rug or fur will do), and when things would get the most tense in the relationship one or the other would “throw down” the rug or furs and as long as they played by the rules they engaged in the reconnection with each other. The issues surrounding an argument or disagreement would loose their fury because of the intimate reconnect of the fur/rug, and after the half hour of kissing and petting was over all the anger or irritation would be washed away and the issue could be discussed from a point of value (them).

  Do you find kissing to be as powerful as I do, or am I just being a goofy Troll again?
  YMMV
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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 11:19:22 AM   
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That is a pretty damn awesome ritual, Troll.



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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 11:22:10 AM   
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Jeez, FT, you are killing me....

Kissing is amazing. When people speak of being sensual, it all starts with kissing for me. I have known men who were great in bed, but bad kissers and I lost interest.

I agree with you that taking the time to savor kissing as an act unto itself is sublime. I find that when men rush through the kissing to get to the good stuff, they lose my interest as well.

Kissing to me is like fine wine, you don't guzzle it, you sip it.

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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 11:24:15 AM   
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I do find it that powerful Troll, which is why I rarely kiss anyone. I am just the opposite of you. I do not kiss in the beginning, only after I established a bond with someone. It is to me the most intimate of acts and one which I hold in reserve. I have to have a connection before I can.

The furs sound like such a nice idea. I can see where it would be a wonderful tool.

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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 11:31:08 AM   
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If someone is not a great kisser and is not open to learning, then it's a no-go.  I have, however, successfully taught some people to be great kissers.


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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 11:32:55 AM   
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We don't have a rug or anything but when we get into an argument, I'm not someone who can stay up all night to settle it. Sleep deprivation just makes me even crankier. So I started in the beginning of asking him to just lie down with me and hold me. Skin to skin contact relaxes people. And once we're relaxed, we will reconnect with kisses.

And always after we've finally gotten some sleep, we are then able to explain what we meant. Inevitably things end with us discovering that we misunderstood each other.


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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 11:53:54 AM   
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I've been told I'm a great kisser.  But I hatehateHATE being limited to kissing on lips or kissing with lips.  There's so much more territory to explore!  In fact, kissing on/with the lips is sort of boring and I never stay there, no matter how many times I return.  I like to include teeth and tongue along with it.  Often, I'll start at the wrists and nibble my way up the arm to the elbow before moving to the neck.  I usually save lips for last and I take my time getting there.  One of my favorite things to do is flick the tip of my tongue across their lips, starting at the corner and working my way inward before they finally get the reward of a full-on lip lock.  Once that happens, I prefer slow, sensuous kisses to that darting lizard tongue, tonsil swab thing a lot of people do.
 
If the other person can't (or won't learn to) kiss well, it's a deal breaker.



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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 11:59:30 AM   
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I am with ya Syl. The rug/furs is no holds barred, however the /s has control. It is power exchange after all. Kind of brings me back to RS's walkman thing. The furs/rug is where the /s has all the power, even though it is for only 30 minutes.

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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 12:05:46 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Jeez, FT, you are killing me....



Okay, so maybe I have a teeny tiny minuscule touch of sadism.

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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 12:11:16 PM   
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I don't ever give up control, but I enjoy the "if you want it, you have to come get it" game.  The s-type can have anything s/he wants, but s/he has to take it.  This works best with switchy guys but it can be fun with D-types too. 

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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 12:24:48 PM   
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If I am not interested in kissing someone I am not really interested in doing anything else.

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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 12:29:37 PM   
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Love to be kissed by him. Last time I asked for a kiss as he was above me, he spit on me. It was just as intimate.
I like kissing his neck whenever I walk by him.
It would be very hard for me to be in a relationship with someone that didn't like to kiss.

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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 12:33:40 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: flcouple2009
If I am not interested in kissing someone I am not really interested in doing anything else.


THIS. Also what Aileen said; I would not be into someone who was not into kissing. Kissing ROCKS! XO


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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 12:46:03 PM   
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Kissing is good, very good.  It used to be an indicator that you were not "friend-zoned" by the opposite sex.  The one thing that does suck is if the person does not believe in mouth-wash and is a smoker at the same time.  Then it turns into survival mode.

With that said, I have one of those overly-dramatic kisses.  The whole caressing cheek with hand thing and such.  I know what you're thinking, shut up.


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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 1:08:00 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

If someone is not a great kisser and is not open to learning, then it's a no-go.  I have, however, successfully taught some people to be great kissers.


Cali
(and FT is crazy if he thinks he's getting alimony kissing as well as alimony pussy)



Good to know Cali... now it is a little off topic, but since everyone is here... I am having this friend over for dinner... who happens to be a judge, any pointers on making sure my baked Alaskan turns out perfect? I am kinda buttering him up for some business after dinner with some Asbach Uralt Brandy.

Thank you

Sir SlurpsAlot


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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 1:11:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker
With that said, I have one of those overly-dramatic kisses.  The whole caressing cheek with hand thing and such.  I know what you're thinking, shut up.


Then Kiss me, Big boy!!!!!!!

I love to kiss, and I'm with Syl on how I do it....I love to kiss the entire body, hitting all those sensitive, tickly spots....just dodging around the obvious "OOOOOOOOHHHHHAAAAAAHHHHH" spots, cuz I'm evil that way!



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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 1:22:53 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

Good to know Cali... now it is a little off topic, but since everyone is here... I am having this friend over for dinner... who happens to be a judge, any pointers on making sure my baked Alaskan turns out perfect? I am kinda buttering him up for some business after dinner with some Asbach Uralt Brandy.

Thank you

Sir SlurpsAlot



Well, if you want your Alaskan golden-brown on the outside, then I'm sure butter will do it.  You may wish to cover him with foil though, until close to the end, so he doesn't get overly-browned or even burnt.  Does baked Alaskan taste like... chicken?

On another note, I had to go back 3 years to find my journal entry on kissing.  I knew I had one back there somewhere:


Kisses.  Sigh.  I love kissing. 

It starts as a tingle, an ever-so-slight tingle, around the edges of my mouth.  When I am with the one, and I feel the tingle, it grows and builds and becomes an all-consuming urge.  An urge I must act on. 

I reach up with my hands, on either side of his face.  Slowly sliding them down his cheeks, the darkness starts to creep into the edges of my vision, until I can see nothing but him.  I feel the pulse quicken in my throat as I part my lips.  They tremble slightly and I cannot help the low moan that escapes me as I gently brush across his mouth.  A slight taste of the tongue, then a gentle sucking on his lower lip.  Then more, harder, my pulse races, the heat builds, I lose all track of time. 

Sigh.  I love that.  BIG SIGH. 

And there is another type of kiss, in the midst of rough, primal, raw passion, that is hard and fast and frenetic and... bruising.  That one is especially delicious for entirely different reasons. 

Oh and the "after kisses".  How could I forget about those? The hot lips pressed to glistening skin, every touch a reminder of the sensations imprinted there.  And the soft exhale that follows, flowing over the back of my neck like cool water, sliding over the hills and settling into the valleys. 

I had a thought about this, I'm sure I did.  Where was I?  Oh yeah.  LOL.  I have heard that some people do not kiss, as it interferes with their dynamic.  I have found that my desire to kiss someone is a direct barometer of my true feelings for them.  If I just want to "throw down" without even thinking about kissing them, well, hmmm, does it really matter who they even are?



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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 1:26:41 PM   
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Kisses. Sigh. I love kissing.

It starts as a tingle, an ever-so-slight tingle, around the edges of my mouth. When I am with the one, and I feel the tingle, it grows and builds and becomes an all-consuming urge. An urge I must act on.

I reach up with my hands, on either side of his face. Slowly sliding them down his cheeks, the darkness starts to creep into the edges of my vision, until I can see nothing but him. I feel the pulse quicken in my throat as I part my lips. They tremble slightly and I cannot help the low moan that escapes me as I gently brush across his mouth. A slight taste of the tongue, then a gentle sucking on his lower lip. Then more, harder, my pulse races, the heat builds, I lose all track of time.

Sigh. I love that. BIG SIGH.

And there is another type of kiss, in the midst of rough, primal, raw passion, that is hard and fast and frenetic and... bruising. That one is especially delicious for entirely different reasons.

Oh and the "after kisses". How could I forget about those? The hot lips pressed to glistening skin, every touch a reminder of the sensations imprinted there. And the soft exhale that follows, flowing over the back of my neck like cool water, sliding over the hills and settling into the valleys.

I had a thought about this, I'm sure I did. Where was I? Oh yeah. LOL. I have heard that some people do not kiss, as it interferes with their dynamic. I have found that my desire to kiss someone is a direct barometer of my true feelings for them. If I just want to "throw down" without even thinking about kissing them, well, hmmm, does it really matter who they even are?


THIS!


Yup baby, that should have been a part of the OP. YOU FUKIN ROCK!

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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 1:37:12 PM   
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Oh hell...no one told me we were writing erotica. 

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RE: Let's talk about kissing - 3/20/2011 1:38:25 PM   
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oh FT, the more i read your stuff the more i like you!

kissing is a huge thing for me. it can be so many different things at any one time. what i really love is being in a very public place and being kissed with alot of passion, the ones that leave you breathless but not for lack of breathing lol. i also miss kissing alot, same as skin to skin contact and leading upto meeting it's what i think about the most. i mean the sexual tenion is already high anyway, but kissing is the first thing we do as soon as we meet. i could spend hours just kissing.

kiss me like you missed me, and fill it full of passion. but in the moments before goodbye, fill them full of heart.

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