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LillyBoPeep -> RE: Mentor needed (3/23/2011 1:01:16 PM)
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a mentor doesn't HAVE to be another Dom. you can find pretty great mentors in other more experienced s-types. are you involved at all with your local community? finding an in-person mentor might help you size the person up a little better, and you could see how that person lives his/her life.
people here really like to chit chat, so i second DS's advice on searching and reading topics here.
sometimes it helps to talk to people who have "been there, done that." mentoring isn't the same as learning what your Dom wants/needs -- sometimes it's in answering your own questions, learning new skills, or just having someone to talk to who has an idea of what you're doing. if you have trouble grasping some concept/nuance of submission (like "i need advice on my knee-jerk reaction to X!"), sometimes seeking advice can be helpful. your D can be a mentor for you, but you can also find them elsewhere -- i think good friends sometimes fill that role from each other, from time to time.
are you on Fetlife at all? it might be easier to find the Fetlife arm of groups in your area, and network with people, if you're nervous of meeting people in person.
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