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Mercnbeth -> RE: Attending lifestyle functions is mandatory??? (5/7/2006 8:22:58 AM)
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First you ask a question: quote:
Are there people here who actually believe that one is not truly in the “lifestyle” if one does not attend lifestyle functions on a regular basis?
You're question implies you haven't met, don't know, or are unsure, if this sentiment exists; but you condemn it anyway, and while doing so denigrate those who do enjoy attending functions in the company of like minded people. quote:
My stance is that this is absolutely a bunch of nonsense
Fret not, at these functions we don't open the "meeting" by saying; "All those not here aren't worthy of being called Master or slave." I've been to many functions, I was never there when any vote was taken. Those that lurk by the door, obviously at such a event for the first time, aren't told; "Enter or forever be know as a poser!" The first time you go, you may have to sign some disclaimer paperwork and get an ID card or number; but no one greets you with; "Welcome to the home of the righteous."
No one cares what you think. And, sorry to take away any self imposed sense of importance, no one wonders why you aren't there or considers you at all. Except in one aspect, where it's similar to a gym membership. If everyone who "signed up" actually showed up - there wouldn't be enough equipment. In that respect, maybe it's better that a large group with lifestyle identification limit their participation to the home. It's crowded enough with the vanillas wandering/wondering around Folsom.
Why anyone would have the opportunity to be with people who enjoy the same things as they do and not take advantage of it is beyond me. Having the luxury of a nicely equipped home dungeon, there is no need to go to the "gym", I mean dungeon, as often as we used to. We go now to functions, and club events, simply because we like being with the people. And here's another secret, we don't exclusively talk about BDSM, or the latest perversion we want to try. Ignore the "costumes" the collars, the naked bodies, and document the chat and it could be occurring at a PTA meeting. Wait a second...at PTA meetings there is much more talk of sex.
The energy of being around people confident in who and what they are is enjoyable. You can learn and see more at one seminar/workshop filled event than you can imagine. As good as the interenet and other written sources are for reference, you can't get interactive sensation based feedback. Maybe you learn about something you want to try, maybe you see something you always wanted to try and decide it's not for you.
One of the main reasons that I recommend to people new to public events to go to one, is that, unlike the internet, you RARELY if ever see the judgment you've implied by the question and prejudicial response, you provided and I quoted above.
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