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Fishing ... - 3/26/2011 11:03:45 AM

Asherscorp1

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Master is taking me to a "play party" tonight. He has said he plans on stripping, beating and tying me up infront of everyone which is standard behavior at these things but I have never engaged in it. I am intensely shy and needless to say awfully nervous at this point. So, I am just fishing for some words of encouragement and also hoping some others would share their own experiences with bondage in "public" settings or infront of others.

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/26/2011 11:07:22 AM

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You probably won't be the only person naked, tied up, and getting done unto. Try to remember that no matter how much it looks like it to you, you're not the center of everyone else's world. At most you'll be a bit of a spectacle among a wide variety of other spectacles. People will probably look a bit then move on to whatever other things there are to look at or their own activities.

Also try to remember that you trust him to make it all be "safe" -- that includes emotionally. If you can't cope with the pragmatic statement I made above, then hang onto your trust.

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/26/2011 11:48:05 AM

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Thank you! Your posts are some of the ones I always enjoy most.

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/26/2011 12:10:56 PM

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Carol adds: Try to remember that they call it a PLAY party for a reason.

Carol and I are pretty vanilla in most every way so we had (and still do have) some hesitations about "play parties", "clubs" and the like. One of the biggest AHA's for us when we actually went to someone's "lifestyle party" was that the general vibe was not "ooooh, bug-eyed kink!" Rather, it was more like "We're a bunch of adults playing adult games". It really was "play" in every sense of that word and there really wasn't much to be shocked by. What bits of discomfort we did have mostly had to do with not understanding the rules of this situation so having to be a bit careful.. all very normal in any new situation.

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/26/2011 6:19:18 PM

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I was nervous as hell the first time I played publicly (which was also nude). It was at a HUGE event in Chicago .. thousands of folks..

I had the TIME OF MY LIFE!!! Seriously..

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/27/2011 4:33:05 AM

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From you not being challenged enough by your master and you wondering if your master might be afraid of his own sadistic desires you have now within a week jumped to him taking you out to a public party and stripping and beating you in front of everybody
Good progress there i would say... what is your secret?
Or is he mindfucking you?

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/27/2011 4:39:42 PM

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Why does he not care about your feelings about this play party?

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/27/2011 5:04:20 PM

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Who on earth said he didn't? The OP said 'awfully nervous'; I feel 'awfully nervous' before I get onstage to sing, doesn't mean anyone organising a gig doesn't care about my feelings...

Sometimes the determination of some people on this forum to assume the absolute worst possible scenario really starts to irritate me.

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/27/2011 5:14:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Asherscorp1

Master is taking me to a "play party" tonight. He has said he plans on stripping, beating and tying me up infront of everyone which is standard behavior at these things but I have never engaged in it. I am intensely shy and needless to say awfully nervous at this point. So, I am just fishing for some words of encouragement and also hoping some others would share their own experiences with bondage in "public" settings or infront of others.

Try this... if you fuck up, he is sending you to me.

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/27/2011 8:01:07 PM

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You are entitled to your interpretation of the OP's words. I am entitled to mine.

I also get irritated here that someone may speak about a fear that she has about something that her high and mighty "master" insists on, and the problem is perceived as hers, not as his; and that his need for a particular kink is more important than her fear of it, or, in some cases, her aversion to it. But you know, maybe I have different ideas about what a relationship is, even a D/s relationship.

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/27/2011 9:48:51 PM

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rember that you are doing it to please him and that is the best reward for any task or duty that is assigned. i was a bit unsure of myself the first time i went to a public party not shy about nudity just unshure what i wanted then(not collared then) you have the advantage of going with someone on your first time so relax and enjoy

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/27/2011 11:49:22 PM

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quote:

Try this... if you fuck up, he is sending you to me.

Im trying to see the punishment in that.

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/27/2011 11:53:14 PM

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While you are worried about being naked and tied up in front of others, remember what you thought while you were watching from the sidelines.

There will be Doms there intent on what is happening... not intent on you.. but on the action, technique, reactions.

There will be other subs there either jealous that you are getting that special attention (and I dont mean that in a bad way). They will aso be intent on the action.

I guess what I am trying to say is this is the moment for your Master to show his stuff... and you are the means he will show it. Relax, enjoy, and allow him to shine. They will be more interestes in those stripes he produces on your breasts than your breasts themselves.

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/28/2011 4:26:23 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking

You are entitled to your interpretation of the OP's words. I am entitled to mine.

I also get irritated here that someone may speak about a fear that she has about something that her high and mighty "master" insists on, and the problem is perceived as hers, not as his; and that his need for a particular kink is more important than her fear of it, or, in some cases, her aversion to it. But you know, maybe I have different ideas about what a relationship is, even a D/s relationship.

And I still have no idea how you jumped from 'awfully nervous' (her actual words, because I'm treating her as an adult and not making wild assumptions that she doesn't mean what she says) to being in fear, or even being averse.

Nobody is perceiving this as 'her problem'; she asked for support to make her less nervous, and she got it. I can't see what's wrong with that picture. But you know, maybe I have different ideas about not randomly attacking people's relationships when they ask for help, even kinky relationships.

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/28/2011 5:39:02 AM

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And you are assuming that here "really nervous" means that she really wants to go, and is asking for help for her being "really nervous". I am suggesting perhaps she really doesn't want to do this. Maybe she does, maybe she doesnt, perhaps the OP will say what her real intent is. (I have heard people, mostly female subs here, saying they dont want to do something, for example, because of an association with a highy traumatic event in their pasts, and they are trying to do it to please master. I dont agree with that.)

I am not assuming this is the case her. Just suggesting another interpretation.

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/28/2011 5:44:29 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking
I am not assuming this is the case her. Just suggesting another interpretation.

This is what you said originally:

quote:

ORIGINAL: Firebirdseeking
Why does he not care about your feelings about this play party?

These two statements of yours are not consistent with each other.

You're piling other people's issues onto this thread when you have no knowledge of whether or not they belong here.

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/28/2011 7:34:18 AM

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Right A-corp, how was this party?
See i don't believe he took you there at all... i think he just told you some 'scary' stuff 'cos you wanted to be challenged and thought that he was scared of his own sadistic side...
So what? have you had to step up to your own plate and did you get flogged in public did you have to safe-word your way out of it or are you now relieved that he was only bluffing... or are you dissapointed that it was only a mind fuck...
what is next?

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/28/2011 10:40:51 AM

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Well, thank you all for the responses. :) We did go to the party and it was ... interesting. First M had me just watch the other subs while they were tied and whipped, which made me naseous to the point where I almost threw up while kneeling on the floor. After that he just had me sit at his feet and breathe for awhile. Watching anyone being whipped or in pain does that to me, even if it's a movie. In fact reading about it makes me sick if it's really graphic. Don't ask me why, I don't have any idea and it's something Master and I are working on to get me past. Anyway, after that I was told to strip down to my stockings and underwear ... heart-pounding, nervous, dreadful feelings while I was getting undressed ... and then the most glorious, wonderful, amazing thing Master could ever have told me to do! I posed. That's all. For the rest of the night (a few hours) I was directed in how Master wanted me to stand, kneel, or sit on a table toward the middle of the room and was just a piece of "living art" that everyone could enjoy as they liked (as they liked meaning look as they like, no touching, lol). Since that is something that I am good at, comfortable with at home and enjoy doing for Him it was a really wonderful way for Master to help me forget that I've never been undressed infront of a roomful of people. I've never been an exhibitionsit (I have a shy-streak a mile wide) and I could have been terribly uncomfortable but in reality it was almost meditative to just focus on postures, breathing and how my body felt. Actually the Dom who's house we were at asked M if I could give lessons to his new slave. Lol. Now I know this might not sound like much of a challenge to some of you and yes Master could have pushed me farther if that were in his character, but for me ... it was a big deal just being there. As for what he told me the night before, he had considered putting me up in "the chains" with the other subs but decided in the end that he would rather just sit back, watch others doing their thing and enjoy me being on display. All in all it was an extremely enjoyable night where I was absolutely challenged even though it wasn't what I had expected.

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/28/2011 11:53:19 AM

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quote:

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Now I know this might not sound like much of a challenge to some of you

A "challenge" can only be understood in context. Everybody's challenges are their own. Carol is afraid of heights. It is a serious challenge for her to climb a ladder. It is not for me because I don't have the fear. I'm afraid of being eaten by sharks (despite a ridiculous three million to one ratio in who eats who). It is a challenge for me to get into the deep blue whereas it's not for Carol. She doesn't have the fear.

It is never the specific challenge that matters. What matters is how we face our fears.

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RE: Fishing ... - 3/28/2011 12:51:35 PM

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I just do my very best to forget anyone else is on the planet, much less in the house. It irritates the holy hell out of me when they talk loudly (it happens, people forget to be quiet in the play spaces), so I just try very hard to get back to that "alone" place.
Sounds like you had a great evening, though, so kudos to you and yours!

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