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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/7/2006 10:52:32 PM

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perhaps i'm just too hard to handle for people here...LOL

Or to bright.

For goodness' sakes, is this love I see brewing? Ms MacComb, you are a fem domme, and can afford to take Michael and train/play with him. Please, I beg of you, do it; I centainly would take a boy who fit my desired submissive, and I thought him bright. M

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/7/2006 11:09:42 PM

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unfortunately, even if She and i were compatible, the distance makes it impossible. which goes to figure that, when/if the One does appear, They are way to far to have a meaningful, productive relationship...i don't do online...not anymore. it is not fulfilling...for either person.

as it stands, there are:

2 FemDoms
2 MaleDoms
3 FemSwitches
1 MaleSwitch
1 femsub
2 malesubs (including myself)
1 male slave

in the Columbus Georgia Area

across the river in Phenix City, Al:

2 MaleSwitches
1 malesub
1male slave
1 fem slave

since i do not get into males and wish no contact with them and i'm not a Dom, that leaves 5 people in my area to have contact with, yet...none would give me the time of day...even if i met them in person.

so, you can see...the choices are somewhat limited.

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/7/2006 11:40:24 PM

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Wild sub ... Sounds like a non domesticated sandwich.

coming soon to Carl's Jr or Jack in the Box....

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/7/2006 11:58:13 PM

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Michael,

Google BDSM and first Georgia and then Alabama, there are more than five groups.

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/8/2006 1:45:03 AM

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yes, but none local. most are out of Atlanta, Birmingham, or Montgomery

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/8/2006 2:22:15 AM

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I think it takes the right person also.

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/8/2006 3:17:32 AM

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Hum...I've been called, "Hard to tame"...but what my One did not realize (nor did I)...at the time was that that I was manipulating Him. Why? To get what I wanted and that was wrong. I learned that game playing was not the way to be submissive. I learned that I needed a Dom who was wise enough to see and could call my manipulation "out" and not be swayed by my actions. My manipulation was a way for me to 'test' boundaries of my own and His as well.

Lesson learned.

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/8/2006 3:20:32 AM

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Is it that you're wild?.....or that you just haven't come across anyone that has got to know you well enough to find what makes you tick, and how you work? It takes time to really know someone, not a list of likes and dislikes on a profile.

I had to smile at MsMacComb's one worded response...*.Caning*....... How true ....It's amazing how tame one becomes when faced with a man with a big stick ......lol

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/8/2006 3:26:39 AM

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I've been told that I top from the bottom. I'm not sure HOW that can be.. unless the man who is supposed to be my Dominant is weaker (in mind or spirit - not body) than I am.

If a submissive isn't permitted to be wild.. she can't be. It's all about the INSPIRATION to behave, to trust, to excel, to strive for 110% of her best.

Are there bad days? Hell yes. But the norm is that feeling of a nitch, a place where my purpose is solidly understood by Him and by me. No inconsistency, no ambiguity, just inspiration.

(and ps... I have to inspire Him, as well.. that's called reciprocity!)

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/8/2006 3:37:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: michaelGA2

unfortunately, even if She and i were compatible, the distance makes it impossible. which goes to figure that, when/if the One does appear, They are way to far to have a meaningful, productive relationship...i don't do online...not anymore. it is not fulfilling...for either person.

as it stands, there are:

2 FemDoms
2 MaleDoms
3 FemSwitches
1 MaleSwitch
1 femsub
2 malesubs (including myself)
1 male slave

in the Columbus Georgia Area

across the river in Phenix City, Al:

2 MaleSwitches
1 malesub
1male slave
1 fem slave

since i do not get into males and wish no contact with them and i'm not a Dom, that leaves 5 people in my area to have contact with, yet...none would give me the time of day...even if i met them in person.

so, you can see...the choices are somewhat limited.

It's the same way here, Michael. But you know, I keep bumping into people on CM that are in my area that don't participate in the local group. Patience becomes a sub.

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/8/2006 5:03:40 AM

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the count i've listed ARE on CollarMe...there's one Mistress i find fascinating, but it is not meant to be...i don't fit Her criteria (PrincessinLatex) and, no...i do not bother with messages to Her due to this incompatability.

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/8/2006 5:24:17 AM

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Ah I see...this thread really isn't about how to "tame a sub"....just yet another "why can't Michael open his door and find a domme on his doorstep" thread.

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/8/2006 5:28:05 AM

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thank You for Your humble support. ( in know, sarcasm is not an attractive trait for a submissive, but sometimes...it's appropriate...LOL)

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/8/2006 6:24:26 AM

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my previous (and first) Dom used to tell me i was wild ... and that i was a "crap sub" .... i was naughty and often disrespectful, but then again, i was brand new to the lifestyle, and due to insufficient training on his part, my behaviour never improved. he released me in the end ...

i am now Owned by a couple (m&f) and they also struggle to cope with me sometimes ... however they are better are trainign and so do not have as many problems with me.

they call me "a little hooligan" and "threaten" to "slap and ASBO on me" lol ... i find this amusing and respond to it much better than being called a "crap sub" ....

although to be honest, i have always been wild .. even to this day, my dad calls me a wild child, and i have been sacked from various jobs about 5 or 6 times... lol

jess xxx

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/8/2006 6:33:05 AM

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There's the old saying that "submission isn't when you drag them by a leash, but when they crawl to you with a look."

A bit oversimplified and romantic, but it makes the point. Anyone can be "tamed" if they choose to be. The question is- is it worth it to convince them they they want to be tamed, or do you value them making the choice on their own more?

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/8/2006 6:54:07 AM

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ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood

Ah I see...this thread really isn't about how to "tame a sub"....just yet another "why can't Michael open his door and find a domme on his doorstep" thread.

Precisely. Michael is not a "wild sub". He's a hedonist who only wants his own way and expects Dommes to buy into his "wild sub" story as if to make him sound like a challenge rather than a nuisance.

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/8/2006 7:26:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: wytchywoman

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ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood

Ah I see...this thread really isn't about how to "tame a sub"....just yet another "why can't Michael open his door and find a domme on his doorstep" thread.

Precisely. Michael is not a "wild sub". He's a hedonist who only wants his own way and expects Dommes to buy into his "wild sub" story as if to make him sound like a challenge rather than a nuisance.

::laugh:: My comments were a show of MY sarcasm.

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/8/2006 7:55:01 AM

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Michael,

How far away are those cites in either miles or driving time? The two farthest cities, Montgomery and Atlanta are only 160 miles apart, so you can't live much more than an hour away from any of them. Are you saying your deep seated desire is overcome by an hour drive? People who live in LA drive an hour for DINNER!

Lastly, if for some reason you really can't make it and there is no local group, start one for people in your area, or make it one designed to be for people who can't easily get together, but DO something about it.

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/8/2006 8:03:42 AM

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There is no litmus test, or dna test as to if you are a sub or not, god I know we all wish there was sometimes....

Whether you are a sub or not is directly proportionate to whether you desire to submit, and if the person you submit to inspires greater submission as time goes by...

Things always seem so black and white in your perception Micheal, where as if you allowed for some wiggle room, you might find that there is no either or, only chemistry and respect that makes one a tamable sub

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it has been said that a wild sub cannot be tamed because they are not a sub at all. besides myself, are there other subs out there that people view as untameable?

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RE: how do you tame a wild sub? - 5/8/2006 9:04:02 AM

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I am going to take a stab at this---I see two things coming from a single thread--

michael--I have seen you mention in threads before the fact that you cannot find a Mistress due to many reasons and on any occasion it varies from your location to you thinking you are untameable---so I am going to try delicately and address a few statements:

1. your location--unfortunately your location is what it is, it can't be changed and you don't have transportation---well hon, what do you expect? I can assure a submissive living in Bono, Ohio doesn't have access to Mistress' either---but it is what it is--the fact is that you may never find a Mistress until one moves into town--or feels you offer what they are seeking. Many submissives deal with no One, if you choose this life--well that is what it is.

2. Untameable---as it relates to your avowed and published bouts of depression--- again I am not faulting that ( as My mom spent her life battling those mood swings)--but michael that is a huge task for someone to want to take on--I for one have not taken submissives on who have lives filled with those swings--I don't have the personal wherewithall to manage it effectively, let alone watch and be able to deal with it--so that in itself can be a hinderance--its to Me just too scary. And that comes across in your writings--and it is many times pretty difficult.

3. An untameable sub---<smiles>--now that is a different story--what I have always wanted is no tug of war--that doesn't mean he's a doormat--but the tug of war isn't there---the strain of i want, i want---yes but--I don't have time---My world is My way--now that again does not mean he has no rights---but to deliberately be difficult, set "subbie paramaters" moment to moment--nope, I'm not there--and I've deferred many a submissive who behaved that way.

To Me, training and taming are two different things--you come to Me submissive and I will train you--come to Me to be broken--nope sorry, not there. I break horses, I train men----but they both get the crop!

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