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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/3/2006 5:55:49 PM   
Sinergy


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ORIGINAL: urantiam

Thank you for your reply. All the advice is appreciated, but the original question was, will my presence in the life of my Mistress intefere with her sex life. My Mistress is new to this also and she will always love to be dominated in bed. I will be her slave, therefor, my purpose will be to serve as a domestic. She is attracted by strong alpha males and I am not of them. Yes! She is now considering owning many subs and she will need a master in the bedroom from time to time.. SO! Will a dominant male mind if her house as male servants present.

urantiam


Hello urantiam. 

I want to offer a dissenting viewpoint with the general negativism and prophesizing of the impending train wreck.  Despite the couple following whatever advice Dr. Phil or Dr. Ruth or whoever give people, relationships are a tremendous amount of work and frequently fail.  I dont personally think there is a magic formula which will determine the success or failure of a relationship.

As Graham Norton said about gay marraige.  "I dont know what all the problem is with gay marraige.  Marraiges almost never work when there is only one man involved."

Some things are meant to be.  Some things arent.

Hey, it might work out.

On the other hand, that old adage of "Good judgement comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgement" may apply.
Whatever happens, learn from the experience.

To answer your question, I imagine it would depend on the Dom in question.  I am not sure how I would feel about doing the nasty with a Domme who had a slave in the household, but as I have never been faced with that as an option, I cant really make a definitive statement.

Good luck.

Sinergy

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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/12/2006 10:22:07 AM   
urantiam


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Status: offline 		Thank you Sinergy. Just read your reply. Sorry I did not answer before.

Urantiam

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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/12/2006 10:27:52 AM   
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but don't you think you are over reacting


Do you know how often we see people professing their love and affection (loudly, yet fleetingly, what makes you think you are any different)?  I don't think anyone is overreacting.  Be sure to write something in the "positive experiences" forum and keep us updated.


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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/12/2006 11:16:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: urantiam

Thank you again for all your advice.

I do not want that kind of negative attitude. I just want advice to make my Mistress happy. I have taken the decision to serve her for the rest of my life and I will not change it. So please, if you can help us fine, if not, than please do not try to break a loving relationship.


urantiam 


What folks are saying, quite simply, is to slow down....at least actually meet one another before rushing into things you may not be prepared to handle.  When my husband and i began to uncover and explore the true dynamics of our relationship we just about crashed and burned.  At the time we had been married, and VERY CLOSE for 17 YEARS. 

i haven't seen where anyone is "trying to break a loving relationship".  There is, as yet, no REAL relationship to break.  Just because what they offer doesn't mesh with what you want to hear doesn't mean it's NOT advice.

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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/12/2006 11:45:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ok, this is the problem when i catch a thread that has already gone for 11 pages, i tend to state the sentiments that someone else already has.  Chalk it up to my short attention span and the fact i grow bored rather quickly.. so i apologize in advance, if my opinion has already been expressed.

With that being said; urantium, the title of your thread is " mistress is worried", however, i think it should have been titled, "sub is not only worried, but really confused to the point of being terrified".  And to be honest, you would be in all rights to feel this way.  Bearing in mind, i know nothing of the Woman in question, only the bits and pieces of information that you have felt comfortable enough divulging, i have to say that she is not worried, she is just really confused.  I think if it were me, i would have to sit down and have a real honest heart to heart with her, ( not on the phone, not online, but in person.. there is something to be said for one on one contact in situations such as these ) .

Good luck with this and i really hope you keep us informed....


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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/12/2006 12:01:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: urantiam


The problem today is that people do not have a word anymore.

Urantiam


This simply is NOT true.  Only fools base "their word" (a promise or verbal agreement) on something about which they know NOTHING.

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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/12/2006 12:07:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: urantiam

Reflectivesoul.

If you are going to reply to my thread, don't just post a little face, tell me what you really think.

Urantiam


She IS telling you what she thinks!...and i definitely agree.  To folks who understand that you simply cannot be flippant within this lifestyle, your lack of judgement (naivete, perhaps) is exasperating. 

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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/12/2006 12:21:53 PM   
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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/12/2006 12:26:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: urantiam

The reason I have been single for so long is because I do not rush into relationships.
Get a life.

Urantiam


I can do nothing but scratch my head and laugh at this! 

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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/12/2006 12:43:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: urantiam

Using the word WHORE is just a way of saying she enjoys to be fucked.

Urantiam


i'm a pretty smart woman, yet i have NEVER seen this definition of "whore".   Hmmm, can someone point me in the right direction for the research?

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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/12/2006 12:47:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: urantiam

4000 hits and only about 200 replies. If I count the repeats, not to many members have gave me their opinions. It would be nice to hear from the 3800 others who read this thread.

Urantiam


They are dead from laughter.

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RE: In Urantiams defense.......... - 6/12/2006 1:03:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: feastie

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ORIGINAL: collarworthy

When my sub Urantiam...

...I dont have a Domme bone in my body, and Urantiam is aware of that fact.. I cant even punish my puppy when it pees on the floor. I would be just as happy for him to call me by my given name instead of Mistress, but it makes him happy to address me that way so I dont question it. Urantiams' feelings, altho intense, are stemmed merely from a desire to serve, and mine in return to his, are based on the need to be worshipped and cared for. He has no problem accepting the fact that I still seek dominants for sex, and I have no problem accepting the fact that he isnt capable of fulfilling me in that department.  His relocation here will either work or it wont. ...


Enough said.



Yes, I noted that, too. I wish them all the best, but as a sub, I can't understand wanting to be submissive to someone who doesn't want to be dominant. I fell in love with a switch -- and he with me -- and that was too hard for us both. Not saying my experience encompasses all, but this one is basic for me.

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RE: In Urantiams defense.......... - 6/12/2006 1:20:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		Now see.. this is where i am totally at fault, by NOT reading on furthur.. shame on me!! Wow. Not only is this thread over a month old, ( and we all know how things can change in a month ), collarworthy has been nothing but truthful with him.  She has, totally identified herself as being a switch, never saying those words, but in reality, isn't that what she is?

Now, the next statement is going to be offensive to SOMEONE, if not both parties involved, and probably to others that are not involved.  I have read and re-read collarworthy's post.  She is constantly talking about *not* saying things to upset "her sub", yet, i just have to ask... how is your needing to only be cared for and worshipped, knowing in reality that this relationship will never work, ( only from what i have derived from your own words ) making him feel?  Yeah, so kids aren't involved, however, this poor guy ( said with a slight chuckle ) has totally given himself over to you... in more ways than one.  The pain, eventually, is going to be there.. Someone in this relationship is going to get burned, and not in a good way, here.  collar, may i suggest that you learn more about yourself, your abilities, your needs and your wants, before taking on such a guy that is willing to be at your beck and call 24/7....

Once again, my mere opinion.....

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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/12/2006 1:34:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		i as a dom of over 25 years can say if someone has a  problim with you being there ,IT is there problim NOT your or hers

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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/12/2006 5:06:48 PM   
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< Message edited by enigmabrat -- 6/12/2006 5:58:01 PM >

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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/12/2006 5:22:01 PM   
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I cannot believe this post has been ressurected...
Man, where are the flying monkeys when you need them?

C

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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/12/2006 5:23:43 PM   
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Ahhhh...there they are.

C

Edited to add: Never mind, even they were smart enough not to show up here...

< Message edited by CERCKL -- 6/12/2006 5:25:54 PM >

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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/12/2006 10:47:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have read your posts urantiam and you insult me and your "mistress" insults all dommes.... I will behave better than the two of you have, even though the fact you think women that enjoy sex are whores really speaks to why you havent been laid in 20 years.. I thought I would define whore as someone who sells sexual favors for money.. something I have never done and your "mistress" does all too well.. Dont speak for me either of you, you are both insulting.


The next thing I have to say is probably more generous on my part seeing I am not insulting you, because I thought you should know your "mistress" is a bottom, not a domme or a sub.. she is a simple bottom in need of kinky sex. There is nothing wrong with being that... but that is exactly what she is. She needs a service top, not a factory of Oompa Loompas to give her manicures, facials, and do her online banking for her while she basks in the glow of being flogged by someone else she is using nonconsensually since she is probably not going to tell him about the army of Ommpa Loompas she has tied and caged in the basement. The sad thing is I doubt she will even let you make chocolate or everlasting gopstopers...pathetic.

Now I am not going to change your mind, and I am really not posting to try to like all the other well meaning folk on here... I think that you deserve every last thing you put up with...But to call that woman a dom is like calling a crackwhore a Geisha.. it is insulting to real doms who do a real service to submissives... yes D/s is SHARING.... it is a two way street. I have read her profile, and hun, she is a BOTTOM plain and simple..she insults real dommes by her profile alone.

So if you expected kindness from the other 3800 posters that read this thread.. think again, not after you insult submissives and dommes with this farce of a power exchange.. and I have never been so hard on anyone on these threads... but your bottom mistress really ticks me off.



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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/15/2006 1:04:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		HELLO AGAIN!

No matter what we are, ( collarworthy and I) are very happy. SO! All of you members posting negative advice are just losing their energy. I am the kind of man that is not influenced by the opinions of others.

Merry Christmass to all of you.

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RE: Mistress is worried - 6/15/2006 1:09:01 AM   
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