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My Mistress said she will always be a whore in the bedroom. So she is no different from 99% of all women.

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ORIGINAL: collarworthy

When my sub Urantiam told me he was posting threads on this site for advice, I was glad to see he had an audience to help answer the questions that plague  him, even tho I knew he was opening himself up to potential ridicule. But Urantiam is a very "by the book" kind of sub; he  lives for the written word; whereas I'm more of a "fly by the seat of my pants" kinda gal. I learn something new about myself every day, such as the fact that my need to be dominated is purely sexual. In the bedroom, I cry like a kitten and beg to be used; in the business world, I go toe to toe with management and would rather die than be told what to do. let alone get on all fours and accept a whipping for someones personal gratification. . I'm grateful that I made this discovery before it was too late. Therefore, when Urantiam told me he wanted to ask you people online their advice on this subject, I saw no real harm.
But after reading the responses he's gotten, I'm a little disheartened at some of the feedback he's been receiving.  I dont think anyone is intending to hurt his feelings, but I fear they are nonetheless. Urantiam is a very emotional person. He feels things deeply. I dont see what can be gained by poking fun at his genuine quest for advice, and while I thank those who have answered him sincerely, I would suggest that those who have nothing nice to say should say nothing at all. In particular, the concern about us having spent any " real time " together, altho warranted, shouldn't be the main issue here. We have spent hours and hours on the phone, and webcams are a wonderful way to prove whether a person is "real" or not. While I can understand those who question the viability of "love" on his side in such a new relationship, I have to ask:  in a world where people use others as human toilets; where subs / slaves are beaten and tortured in their quest for " happiness";  where people are shoving ponies tails up their butts and allowing themsevles to be branded like cattle to prove their worthiness, how can anyone question whether its possible for a sub to love someone so quickly. I will plead guilty to the fact that this relationship is moving at a fast pace, but that certainly didnt seem to bother any of the potential Doms I spoke to before realizing I wasn't capable of lasting in that arrangement. They had me hogtied and collared after the first five minutes. Suggestions of piercings and whippings and torture...oh my! 
I dont have a Domme bone in my body, and Urantiam is aware of that fact.. I cant even punish my puppy when it pees on the floor. I would be just as happy for him to call me by my given name instead of Mistress, but it makes him happy to address me that way so I dont question it. Urantiams' feelings, altho intense, are stemmed merely from a desire to serve, and mine in return to his, are based on the need to be worshipped and cared for. He has no problem accepting the fact that I still seek dominants for sex, and I have no problem accepting the fact that he isnt capable of fulfilling me in that department.  His relocation here will either work or it wont. But as no children or family are involved in this decision,  neither of us can see where anyone can be hurt if it doesnt work out. And on a site where people hurt people every day, physically AND mentally, how can that be wrong? In closing, I ask that if you have to poke fun at someone, then please,  poke it at me. My skin is much thicker than his, and the only place I can ever be hurt is in the bedroom. Urantiam  is guilty of nothing more than being a complete submissive and seeking someone to serve.  I  only hope Im able to do him justice as his Mistress

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ORIGINAL: Proprietrix


First of all Urantiam, you are not a moderator, so you have no right to tell her what she can and cannot post on any thread on any forum, regardless of whether or not you were the OP.

Secondly, she hit the nail on the head when she said that she ALREADY DID tell you what she thought. We all told you what we thought, and you didn't give a rat's ass anyway, so why should anyone bother repeating themselves?

And Reflectivesoul brings up a valid point. (Although I wouldn't expect you to even come close to understanding since your value system is relatively opposite to most people here.) You fit ever so neatly into the portrait of what this lifestyle does NOT stand for, that your presence is merely tolerated, not enjoyed. A lot of people put a lot of hard work into trying to get BDSM at large to a point where safety is valued. A lot of people invest their time, energy, money, and skills into teaching safety techniques, setting up safety networks, being people's safe-calls, educating newcomers about safety, and holding seminars and workshops on safety. Then people like you and your lady come along and do things with total disregard to safety, and set everyone back 10 paces in trying to portray this as a lifestyle comprised of cognitive adults who adhere to principles of safety and emotional well-being.

Even those regarded at first glance as unsafe, such as no-limit slaves, can cognitively sit down as rational adults and explain how they look after their well-being by choosing Masters whose morals are in conjunction with their own. People who do edge-play are constantly looking for safer ways of doing it. People who weild whips often recall certain safety techniques their teachers instilled in them. Needle-players use sterilized needles. Masters who view their slaves as property still make sure those slaves are tended to, heathly, and happy in their stations. You and your lady defy one of the basic principles of this lifestyle, and furthermore, you're doing it in a way that screams that you want attention for doing so. What do you really expect to gain from us at this point?

If you don't give a shit about our advice here, why do you give a shit about someone posting a little face icon? Go about your merry way already. You've burnt most any bridge here that would be helpful to you in your journey. Go enjoy your life with your bedroom submissive, cyber-love-Domme, telephone sex operator, non-Dominant Mistress and the rest of us will be perfectly content to sit here and post little faces on any thread we wish.

With that being said ....

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ORIGINAL: Proprietrix


First of all Urantiam, you are not a moderator, so you have no right to tell her what she can and cannot post on any thread on any forum, regardless of whether or not you were the OP.