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First time threesome - feeling strange - 5/7/2006 6:17:52 PM

alwaysobeyingyou

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Ok so here is my werid story:
I have never been attracted to women or anyting, maybe a bit curious. I was recently drunk at a club ( i know...) and made out with a girl i had just meant. She just came up to visit me with a friend of ours who we both have hooked up with and last night, we sort of had a threesome. Ok...we DID have a threesome. The funny thing was she has never been with a girl before, and I really didn't have to do anything.
They were both kissing me and touching me, and suddenly she was between my legs going to town, I mean, i really coudln't make her stop. So he is having sex with her, while she is fingering and licking me (and she feels better than most guys have...). But she's really a quiet girl so when everything is over the next day she is so quiet it makes me nervous. But we joked and everything seems alright. I don't know what to...really do about all this.
I feel a little weird, i definately didn't feel any 'special feelings' for her, i was not turned on when I was touching her chest and things like that...it was interesting... (i did not get fucked or give oral...so i obviously got the better end of this deal).
So here is my funny question to ask on this forum...is this normal? Am I OK for doing this? I know we're all open and stuff. I don't feel bad about anything I feel more like, what the heck just happened? How do I talk to her about this, because I did say one thing and her face got soo red. Hm. Someone give me a bit of wisdom on all this.

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RE: First time threesome - feeling strange - 5/7/2006 6:25:26 PM

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Maybe if you both get drunk again, you can talk about it.....just kidding. You have to realize that she may never be okay about discussing it, it sounds like it was as big a surprise to her as it was to you. I don't think it was immoral or anything, but one should always be cautious of STDs, and whether or not your bed buddy has a commited partner somewhere that would be hurt over covert shenanigans in the sack.

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RE: First time threesome - feeling strange - 5/7/2006 6:28:03 PM

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Well now I'm a bit confused, in your profile from several days back , you list your self as Bisexual !And yet here you say you've "never been attacted to women or anything, maybe a bit curious"
Well are you bisexual or no? seems to me you had a chance to have your curosity satasfied, didnt you? As to what should you do now? Its god YOU dont feel bad , but have you tryed to make HER feel ok? Just a thought, might wanna try giving what you'd like to have after exposing a deep part of your soul yes?

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RE: First time threesome - feeling strange - 5/7/2006 6:29:05 PM

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Hey,
Thanks - dont' worry about std's all three of us just got tested and since we have had relations with basically the same guy for the last six months we should be ok. (and no bfs :-))

That last sentence sounded bad. *puts head in hands* Dear god....

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RE: First time threesome - feeling strange - 5/7/2006 6:31:20 PM

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seems pertty normal to me to be feeling strange.
Maybe if you let her know that you're feeling strange too, and tell her when she's ready, you'd like to talk about it, and let her initiate when she's ready.

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RE: First time threesome - feeling strange - 5/7/2006 6:35:05 PM

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I talked to her right after and said are you ok, and she said yes.
It lists me as bisexual cause i didn't see any bicurious button :-). Just because I"m not attracted to women doesn't mean I don't want to see how things feel with them. Thus, my first experience and my description of my feelings thereafter.
My friend who we did this with knows each of us individually very well, and he said that she was ok and woudln't do it if she did not enjoy it. (she is just a generally quiet person...but in the bedroom she gets wild). I guess sex just uninhibits her. I think I will try to talk to her about it online this week, but I will see her Friday so we will see.

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RE: First time threesome - feeling strange - 5/7/2006 6:36:04 PM

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As to what should you do now? Its god YOU dont feel bad , but have you tryed to make HER feel ok? Just a thought, might wanna try giving what you'd like to have after exposing a deep part of your soul yes?

Agreed here and hi BP. Why don't you try asking her to a quiet lunch just the two of you to talk. She is probably having the same feelings you are. Just remember there is nothing wrong with what you both did if you both enjoyed it. Now try doing it sober and reciprocating.

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RE: First time threesome - feeling strange - 5/7/2006 6:40:28 PM

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As to what should you do now? Its god YOU dont feel bad , but have you tryed to make HER feel ok? Just a thought, might wanna try giving what you'd like to have after exposing a deep part of your soul yes?

Agreed here and hi BP. Why don't you try asking her to a quiet lunch just the two of you to talk. She is probably having the same feelings you are. Just remember there is nothing wrong with what you both did if you both enjoyed it. Now try doing it sober and reciprocating.

And take pics and share.........oh, okay, I'll go to another thread lol.

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RE: First time threesome - feeling strange - 5/7/2006 6:42:45 PM

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Well then I hope you all have many more great times together! If she is the quiet type , except in the bedroom , then I might belive shes aware of what she did and might be open to talking Fri when you see each other face to face.

*waves hello to TH*

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RE: First time threesome - feeling strange - 5/8/2006 5:50:01 AM

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I scene with other women with Master present. I do it because he wants me to. Its usually both of us doing things for him, but sometimes he wants me to play with the other woman. I do it.

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RE: First time threesome - feeling strange - 5/8/2006 6:29:09 AM

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Seems very normal to me, and something that plenty of vanillas experience too- the "morning after" syndrome. When the harsh light of day makes you realize that you got a bit carried away and don't really know how to go about it.

Letting it go as if nothing happened is a perfectly acceptable thing to do unless you plan interaction in the future. If you do, then talking it out at least once just to clear the air would be helpful to you both.

You experimented, found out what you found out and are now free to say no thanks.

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RE: First time threesome - feeling strange - 5/8/2006 6:59:04 AM

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The thing that shocked Libby most about her first girl/girl experience was that she enjoyed it so much. After all, she'd always had herself in the mental category of "heterosexual."

What she came to realize is that she hadn't pinned that label on herself, but she'd allowed society to do it.

As with much of what we do, it comes down to taking a hard look at "what I can't do" and deciding if it really falls into the category of "what I really don't want to do because it's me" and "society tells me I can't do this and I've come to internalize it."

It's amazing how many things work out to have come from the second list.

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