rosanegra
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I am hoping I can answer this coherently, given my current state of sleep deprivation...
I think there are many different angles from which to approach this question.
I would start by defining the word, "collar."
Like many words in the dictionary, it has multiple definitions.
To some it is simply some sort of band that could be made from any number of materials, and it can be used as a means of securing or leading [insert preferred being here].
To some it is nothing more than a piece of jewelry, or an accessory.
To some it is a symbolic item.. a collar in this sense isn't even necessarily what we traditionally think of as a collar. In this sense, a wedding ring could be considered a collar... it is a symbol of commitment. It is like any item we attach a sentimental significance to. That item may not be a necessary reminder of whatever sentiment we attach to it, but it is a nice way of having a tangible symbol of whatever feeling or emotion we are trying to hang on to.
Shortly before his year long deployment, my husband surprised me with a pair of "Forget me not" earrings. They weren't anything fancy, but the meaning behind them was touching. It was thoughtful.. it had significance. The earrings themselves were cheap.. The little colored stones in them began falling out about a month into the deployment.. but I *NEVER* took the earrings off... I was determined to wear them the whole year long. A couple of my friends actually teased me over it.
A collar can mean any one of a number of things to someone... it can even be all of those things to a particular person, depending upon the context.
The reason it matters to some people? It is a physical representation of an emotional binding. Not everyone needs or wants that. Some who need or want it don't even need or want it all of the time.
Heck.. I would even go so far as to say that the physical item we are referring to isn't even the "collar." The collar *is* that emotional binding. The physical item is just a symbol. In the BDSM sense, the real collaring is on the inside, not the outside. And *that* definitely matters!
Just my $0.02
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