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beijingboy2011 -> We are thinking about pregnancy (4/1/2011 4:57:36 AM)
We've talked a lot about having a family.While were still travelling the world at the moment and having lots of fun on the way , we are thinking about children.Just wondering if any other couples or mistresses have thought about maybe controlling it? like telling the couple what to do or if they had to introduce any new partners into the equation?

BonesFromAsh -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/1/2011 5:01:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: beijingboy2011 Just wondering if any other couples or mistresses have thought about maybe controlling it? Control what? Do you mean birth control? A little clarification would help.

DarkSteven -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/1/2011 5:02:44 AM)
I'm not following. 1. Is it the pregnancy or babies that you want a Mistress to control? 2. How would introducing new partners affect the pregnancy/children? A suggestion - get the Mistress first, then have the kids. Introducing a new factor into the equation while the kids themselves are new factors will be mind-jarring.

beijingboy2011 -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/1/2011 5:33:04 AM)
We were thinking something along the lines of some dominant mistress to say when to take the pill and when to stop and should anyone else be introduced into the fold as it were.

BonesFromAsh -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/1/2011 5:54:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: beijingboy2011 We were thinking something along the lines of some dominant mistress to say when to take the pill and when to stop "Some" dominant woman or "your" domme? Sounds like you're looking for someone to spin the barrel while you hold the gun and play Russian roulette with pregnancy. quote: and should anyone else be introduced into the fold as it were. Again...unclear. By "anyone else" do you mean other partners or a baby?

OttersSwim -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/1/2011 6:10:16 AM)
Sounds like you want to give a Mistress control over when and how and possibly even with whom pregnancy occurs? Haven't looked at your profile, but am guessing you are a submissive couple? If so, then here is my take...NO. Participation in kinky activities can be fun and add a lot of spice to life. But when you are talking about such an important life decision as bringing a child into the world, the parents of that child need to be in charge of, completely conscious of, and totally ready for, the decisions around having a child - not some outside person with no real stake in the affair. My opinion, leave your kinky interests at the door, and be self-reliant and responsible adults.

thishereboi -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/1/2011 10:25:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: beijingboy2011 We were thinking something along the lines of some dominant mistress to say when to take the pill and when to stop and should anyone else be introduced into the fold as it were. Your talking about a baby that you will be responsible for, for the rest of his or her life. If you want a domme to control you, try having her control your orgasms or your eating habits. Don't drag an innocent child into the mix.

birdx -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/1/2011 12:31:18 PM)
Well, if OP wants to get off on a mistress controlling when he impregnates his partner, or on his partner being impregnated by another, dominant man, I guess that's his own thing. Pregnancy fantasies can be very erotic. Key word though is fantasy. I'm going to take for granted that OP understands he is talking about bringing a human being into the world, possibly not knowing the baby's exact parentage. If you're a committed couple ready to have a baby anyway then sure why not play, sounds like you're on the razor's edge of kink, based on most of the previous responsibilities. If you're not going to be good parents, whether you live in China or America, the kid's and your lives will end up being ruined.

stellauk -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/1/2011 12:52:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: beijingboy2011 We've talked a lot about having a family.While were still travelling the world at the moment and having lots of fun on the way , we are thinking about children.Just wondering if any other couples or mistresses have thought about maybe controlling it? like telling the couple what to do or if they had to introduce any new partners into the equation? Most people settle for a mother in law.

dreamerdreaming -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/1/2011 2:01:32 PM)
ROFL!!! [:D]

DomMeinCT -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/1/2011 2:06:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stellauk quote: ORIGINAL: beijingboy2011 We've talked a lot about having a family.While were still travelling the world at the moment and having lots of fun on the way , we are thinking about children.Just wondering if any other couples or mistresses have thought about maybe controlling it? like telling the couple what to do or if they had to introduce any new partners into the equation? Most people settle for a mother in law. That was utterly brilliant, Stella.

SorceressJ -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/1/2011 2:07:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thishereboi quote: ORIGINAL: beijingboy2011 We were thinking something along the lines of some dominant mistress to say when to take the pill and when to stop and should anyone else be introduced into the fold as it were. Your talking about a baby that you will be responsible for, for the rest of his or her life. If you want a domme to control you, try having her control your orgasms or your eating habits. Don't drag an innocent child into the mix. THIS.

SLAVEBOY32 -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/1/2011 4:41:37 PM)
Hold it, at first glance, this seems bad. Someone else dictating whether or not you can, or can not bring a life into this world is obviously not acceptable. I also have not looked at the profile. But....if this is indeed a couples profile, and they have decided that without a doubt they want a child, and want to get pregnant in the very near future, then I don't really see the harm in someone deciding when that time comes, if it is within an agreed upon timeline. Like I said, it sounds wrong at first, but if the couple is serious and ready to have a child anyway, maybe they are just trying to have a little fun with the conception. I don't see anything wrong with that. Now conversely, if you are literally letting someone else decide IF you can have children, no that is REALLY wrong and taking the control dynamic too far.

Politesub53 -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/1/2011 5:21:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: beijingboy2011 We were thinking something along the lines of some dominant mistress to say when to take the pill and when to stop and should anyone else be introduced into the fold as it were. This may sound harsh. If you are thinking along these lines you are not ready to be a parent.

Killerangel -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/1/2011 8:55:14 PM)
Anytime the subject comes up of bringing children into the world comes up as a way for people to get their kink on it makes me nauseous. Child bearing, child rearing is much too important to be used as an avenue for people to get off on - not to mention, involving innocent lives in a non-consensual manner is wrong. Honestly? Grow up.

stockingdresser -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/2/2011 2:47:18 AM)
Spooky idea........ Keep it as a fantasy....

Arpig -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/2/2011 4:07:46 AM)
Sorry folks. but I read this differently than the rest of you. I did look at the profile, it is a sub/sub couple. They have been discussing starting a family...nothing wrong there. They have pretty much decided that they are ready...nothing wrong there. They would get their kicks by having the decision of when to actually begin to concieve and by whom to be removed from them...nothing wrong there. What is wrong with the scenario? They are ready to have children but wish to have one aspect of that plan to be controlled by another...again, nothing wrong there. Go for it I say, why not. As long as you do indeed want children.

OttersSwim -> RE: We are thinking about pregnancy (4/2/2011 6:15:35 AM)
Honestly, this still feels to me like an area where kink needs to stay well clear...or at least be very clearly limited. I mean, who wants to have -that- conversation eighteen years from now about who and where the poor kid's real father is...to say nothing of the circumstances of his/her conception... I suppose I could see this working with a well-adjusted poly triad where the Dominant would be involved beyond conception. But again, I would advise limiting it to exclude the "who" aspect - let the guy father his own kid and be the one thereby responsible for him/her. I can see issues of patrimony and/or abandonment if things between the sub couple goes bad in years to come and some other guy was the actual sperm donor... All of this is great in a fantasy novel...but for me, in real life, it just feels wrong and unfair to the child that would come out of this union.

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