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Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/1/2011 4:23:25 PM   
SLAVEBOY32


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Status: offline 		I know it goes against the grain so to speak, but I LOVE the look of a collar on a woman. Not too often, but every once in a while I see a Domme wearing a collar. What's your opinion on it? Like it? Don't think it's right because of the statement it might make?

Personally I could care less what statement it makes, it's an awesome piece of fetish attire on a woman. Not to mention I love irony.
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RE: Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/1/2011 5:16:43 PM   
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RE: Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/1/2011 5:23:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have a mauve suede chevron collar my pet gave to me at my first foray into Black Rose 2001
I dont feeel any the less Dominant when I wear it, in fact it makes my pet go weak in the knees, so I truly I dont care what anyone else thinks or feels.


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RE: Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/1/2011 5:31:07 PM   
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Authority does not change with attire...


I would agree, however, I don't make it habit of walking around with an article that would be misleading to the observer.

There are many pieces of fetish fashion wear and styles of jewelry, that give the same 'look', but without sending mixed signals about the 'intent'.

Take a neck corset for example....depending upon the material, and the accouterments it can look submissive, or uber Domme. I love this look!

Likewise, I just purchased a piece with multiple strings of gray pearls (fake), short, in the 'form' of a collar, but again, paired up with waist-cincher, black velvet catsuit, and a riding crop, wouldn't give off a submissive vibe in a million years.

I moved away from the leather collar with the big D rings, because Otter wears those now! <grin>


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RE: Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/1/2011 5:36:59 PM   
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I would agree, however, I don't make it habit of walking around with an article that would be misleading to the observer.


That is more what I was referring to. Giving off the wrong impression, not how a person felt by what they wore.

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RE: Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/1/2011 5:43:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm indifferent.  I know too many Goths and other folks who participate in alternative cultures for it to matter one way or another.  However, I don't wear collars because I don't like anything tight around my neck.  Even turtleneck shirts are an issue until I get them stretched out a bit. 

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RE: Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/2/2011 11:14:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not goth.  I'm not a fetishist.  I don't do collars for 'decoration'.  I'm still of the mindset that collar = owned.  Other people don't see it the same way that I do, which is fine, but you won't see Me wearing one.

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RE: Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/2/2011 4:54:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with Otter. It's just jewelry until it'gets invested with meaning. The only reasonable meaning is the one put there by the wearer, not me.

Insofar as "what statement it might make", anyone who worried about such things would not be anything I'd consider as "dominant".

And yes, there is the love of the unexpected.

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RE: Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/3/2011 1:07:13 PM   
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I agree with Otter. It's just jewelry until it'gets invested with meaning. The only reasonable meaning is the one put there by the wearer, not me.

Insofar as "what statement it might make", anyone who worried about such things would not be anything I'd consider as "dominant".

And yes, there is the love of the unexpected.

Baloney.

It's the very same thing as saying, if I were a single woman, I would probably not wear a gold band on the third finger of My left hand, which would lead a number of people to assume that I was married.  Same thing goes for a diamond solitaire ring on that finger that would imply that I was engaged.  Both of these are very common assumptions that people make that, if I would choose to wear that type of jewelery, I would have to spend My time explaining to people that the items didn't mean what people would likely think that they did. 

I would see wearing a collar on My neck the very same way.  Not only would I have to waste My time telling people that I wasn't owned, I'd have to also include that I'm not submissive.  A small thing on a case by case basis, but that time adds up when you put it all together.  It's far less time consuming the other way around.


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RE: Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/3/2011 11:28:18 PM   
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I have to agree whole heartedly with LadyPact, I'd never wear a collar either.

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RE: Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/3/2011 11:37:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		A domme can wear whatever she likes. Collars are pretty on women... And men. For myself, anything other than gold, feels annoying/heavy, and I cant keep it on. M

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RE: Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/4/2011 8:35:29 AM   
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Baloney.

OK, I take it back. As humans pretty much all of us worry to some degree about the image we present to whatever our chosen community is and that's a good thing. I suppose that if I had chosen a community where standards didn't allow me to dress as I chose AND if I valued that community above my own personal dressing freedom then I'd make the same pragmatic choice you are talking about.

I have to admit that in my head I was thinking more about "submitting to a faceless John Q Public" than submitting to a specific set of people (whom I value) and their sensibilities.


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RE: Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/4/2011 9:01:14 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		It's not the image so much as the confusion.  That's the intent that I would prefer to avoid.

While I understand completely that a collar on someone's neck doesn't mean the same to everyone as it does to Me, I still have to go back and say....... "This is what it means to Me."  I, Me, Myself, would see it as a misrepresentation.  I would specifically be projecting something that I felt wasn't the truth of it.  It has far less to do with what John Q Public thinks than what I think of Myself.


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RE: Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/4/2011 9:17:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SexyBossyBBW

A domme can wear whatever she likes. Collars are pretty on women... And men. For myself, anything other than gold, feels annoying/heavy, and I cant keep it on. M


I agree.

Female slave keepers can look pretty in certain types of fashion collars. (Minus the ring perhaps? )

That said, it's petty enough; the Female keepers I know would consider the disapproval others may have as insignificant, anyway.

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RE: Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/4/2011 9:45:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		I adore jewellry and wear it daily. Some of my jewellry collection is in the form of necklaces.

Some submissive women have beautiful necklaces they consider their collar.

When I wear a necklace I do not consider it a collar, only a lovely necklace.



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RE: Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/4/2011 10:10:14 AM   
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"This is what it means to Me."

*nods* yet another spin and one I didn't even consider in the context of this question. I just naturally assumed that if a dominant was wearing it then they must feel that it means something relevant to them.

So now I'm wrong on two counts. Can I cry uncle or do we need to go for three strikes and I'm out? *chuckles*


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RE: Dommes wearing collars....opinions? - 4/4/2011 10:31:29 AM   
LadyPact


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Just you wait until we are sitting by the pool again.  We'll have long talks that good memories are made of.


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