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How do you recover quickly? - 4/3/2011 12:42:16 AM

badboymichael

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There are basically two aspects of this, and I would appreciate any feedback on either or both.

I enjoy receiving long, hard spankings with a variety of implements and would like to get it a lot more often than I do. It's only been in recent months that I"ve been able to find guys to give me the kind of spanking I'm looking for, without my being so drunk by the time I asked for it that I could barely feel it anyway. I would also like a woman to do it to me some times, but that's another subject altogether. Having finally received these spankings, I became aware of a couple little issues (two sides of the same issue, whatever) that could cause a big problem.

I can take only so much without stopping, but want more just a few minutes later. Guys don't seem to mind, as long as I communicate it to them. But I would really like to know how to take the spanking without taking these frequent breaks.

ONe of the first times this arose, I didn't take a break. I told the guy I needed to stop, but he didn't believe I was serious and did a bit of domination role-play. It turned me on enough that I was able to enjoy more without taking a break. But in the end, I coldn't take nearly as much of a spanking as I could have if I had just taken breaks. It was thoroughly enjoyable, but not quite satisfying. Just a few days later, the same guy and two others teamed up and thoroughly tore my ass up. We took frequent breaks, and made an evening of it.

I had a "date" (for lack of a better word) the next day for a different kind of session with another guy. Rather than him dominating me, we take turns paddling each other. He starts out paddling me in my underwear. When he pulled them down, he expressed shock at how red my ass already was. What can I say?
I had heard about people needing time to recover between sessions, and this was the first time I became aware that I needed it. We had fun, and he respects my limits, but I could tell he was disappointed in how little I could take compared to how much I took when we were together before.

MOre recently, I had to postpone one of these dates with another guy. It's frustrating, because I was really looking forward to it. I had thought that two days would be long enough to recover between sessions. But this was not the case at all, I was still far too sensitive.

I had eaten some fresh pineapple and drank the juice, and even applied some vitamin e cream that touts itself as "deep healing," hoping this would help me recover faster. Am I on the right track at all? Can anybody suggest anything that would work better?

It looks like four days is my minimum recovery time after a thorough session. I would like it more often than that, if at all possible. What I am finding to not be possible is scheduling them four or five days apart. It's been five days since I was supposed to have that session, and, despite my best efforts, it's looking like it's going to be another six days before I can get another. The guy was ok with rescheduling, this was just the earliest he could do it. Calling guys who have given it to me before, fishing on this site and another, and bringing it up to guys at the bathhouse have netted me nothing.

Well, next to nothing. A guy at the bathhouse did paddle me a little, but got a little freaked out when I kept asking for more and just walked away. Another smacked my ass a few times with his hand, and that's all he would do. And the guys I"ve contacted just want to schedule stuff for further out still, except for the one who simply didn't return my call.

Waiting isn't that big of a problem. It's just frustrating that I had a session scheduled, and for all purposes missed out on it because it takes me too long to recover. Any ideas?

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RE: How do you recover quickly? - 4/3/2011 2:51:15 AM

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arnica will help with bruising, prolly better to put it on before a session rather than after. redness is inflamation - treat it like you would a sprained ankle, cold then hot water in the shower initially, hot the next day - helps to reduce the inflammatory response and clear the congestion of blood in youre arse.

but generally its going to take a few days for the tissues to recover anyway.

maybe you should start thinking about enjoying the anticipation of a spanking instead of focusing on the need so much, might make the wait a little more bearable.

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RE: How do you recover quickly? - 4/3/2011 7:19:25 AM

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master uses belts on me but he alwasy waits a few days till i am healed and not sensitive the skin need to recover and heal. either as lally said enjoy the anticipation or find a different part to play with so to speak and leave the bits that are tender.

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RE: How do you recover quickly? - 4/3/2011 8:30:58 AM

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Dear bbmichael

I also play very heavily with my Sir--and I get spanked, paddled, belted, caned--our sessions last for several hours over the course of a day. You have two questions really--how to lengthen the session....and how long to "rest" between sessions.

So for the question---this is how it works for me. Everybody has different bodies, limits and tastes--so the real answer here is you'll need to figure how what works for you, and communicate that with your Sir so that you find something that works for him as well. I'm assuming that he enjoys paddling you as much as you enjoy receiving it, so its a win-win for both of you.

First--I find a few things that help my pain tolerance and increase the length of the session--
I don't masturbate the day before/day of the session. If I do, it takes the edge off and my pain tolerance drops significantly. I make sure to apply lotion to my bum for at least a week before I play--it keeps the skin soft and prevents my skin from drying/cracking and causing it to bleed or seep, which often shortens the session. Next--my Sir builds it up--first over briefs by hand, then he works up to harder spankings.

We do take frequent breaks--but that's often to allow me time to finish my duties at the house (cleaning, errands, etc.) If it's going to be a particularly harsh session, we remain in role and do not get "casual". He also switches implements up--after a really hard paddling, he'll then break out the canes. Then return to paddles later--I don't surface bruise easily--my bruises form underneath. He can't see them--but I can feel them, and he can usually tell from my reaction. If either of us needs a longer break, he'll put me in the corner to keep me in subspace, but give his arm (and my bum) a rest. We also change positions--this is as much for his comfort as mine--and he makes sure I'm fed and hydrated.

Your second question--the effects of my Sir's session can often be felt for a good week. I'm usually extremely sore the next day, and can't take more than a moderate hand-spanking. I let my body rest for the week--apply antibiotic ointment to any cuts/broken skin, lotion to the rest of my bum and rest it. It's rare that I play more than twice a month. My hide has gotten tough from regular discipline, so that has made my skin less pliable. A good diet and vitamins, lots of water and I do not drink alcohol ever as is my lifestyle--but I especially discourage it from when you play. (The endorphin high is far superior to any drunk I could obtain anyway)

It sounds like you're having fun--be safe and enjoy

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RE: How do you recover quickly? - 4/4/2011 11:48:53 AM

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Thank you. Many good suggestions here.

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RE: How do you recover quickly? - 4/4/2011 4:02:07 PM

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One thing in regards to bruises is avoid hot baths, and long hot showers for 24 to 48 hours. If you take a shower knock down the temperature a few degrees. The heat promotes swelling, and thus can result in worse bruising. Lotion is another good idea. Staying hydrated, and well fed the day after is also really important. I tend to eat a lot of protein, vitamin rich, and greasy foods on drop days. A greasy burger and a salad (with lots of fresh veggies) is like heaven the day after.

Regarding the need for breaks, try and figure out what is going on for you. Is there a way you can incorporate the breaks into the scene? Do you need to lower your anxiety before the scene? What about switching up types of hitting, or doing more warm up? What about hitting somewhere else?

I'm also the kind that needs breaks, I like lots of hard heavy pain and my system goes into overdrive very fast, and I need to stop for a few and key myself back down. So I tend to go for short but extremely painful scenes, or as I normally do take a little bit and rest a little bit and incorporate that need into my routine.

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RE: How do you recover quickly? - 4/8/2011 7:50:15 PM

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Thank you all for the advice. It's still a bit early to tell, but I think it's working. One side note - A couple of people have emailed me, talkinga bout how I mention being drunk in the original post, but say that I don't drink in my profile. Just to clarify, I used to drink a lot, and I quit in late September last year. I've cheated a few times since then and had some drinks, but basically I don't drink.

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RE: How do you recover quickly? - 4/9/2011 9:09:19 AM

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Seconding the arnica suggestion, you can also get homeopathic arnica pills that should help.

Comfrey gel as well.

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