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Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/3/2011 4:00:54 PM   
mistressko


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Status: offline 		I got a great offer today:

Nice pics you have KO. Do you wish to work with us for $8,000-$12,000 per month, 2-3 hours a day as a finance online mistress for females or males ?

I didn't write back, because I thought the excuse, "Sorry but that pushes my tax bracket up and I can't use any more credits for the 2011 year," would not be understood by them. Wherever they're from.

Sarcasm aside, it's really no great huge deal to send me a message I would WANT to respond to. Here are a few simple tips:

- I like humour
- Ask me something and tell me something about yourself (not BDSM related)
- No peni pics
- Don't start email one about how you have longed for the day when you are able to finally serve a Godess such as myself, and you throw yourself at my mercy and eat the dirt I walk through while begging me to consider sending you a reply
- IF you are interested, read my ENTIRE profile and actually come out and say, "I am interested" and if you are NOT then say what your business is in emailing me, if I don't know what you want I'll probably let things 'hang' until you decide to enlighten me
- Give me something to ask you about or comment on in a return email: you might feel shy, but a "Just wanted to say hi." doesn't give me anything to reply to.
- Value yourself as a person
- USE PARAGRAPHS
- Be patient, because if you can't now you won't be later either
- I do not need your life story copy and pasted
- Fill out your profile
- It's not all about me
- Have ideas, thoughts, opinions - if you can't express them in writing, why not by audio file?
- Be polite and use 'standard' old school writing format: salutation, message, closing signature
- Don't tell me you are smart, in fact don't tell me anything you're good at (I'm good at lost and smart as well, but humility is an excellent trait in any person) show, don't tell.
- Money, cars, occupation don't impress me much so don't bother (you have a beemer? I know a guy with 24 trucks, four vacation homes, three classic Harleys, two converitibles, and one really huge bank account. Big deal. I've seen him fart like everyone else.)
- Be brief. A paragraph or two is lots, even a few sentences. If I want to know more I'll ask. If not, I'll say thanks but no.

See last point, If I want to know more I'll ask. If not, I'll say thanks but no. This meshes perfectly with - Give me something to ask you about or comment on in a return email: you might feel shy, but a "Just wanted to say hi." doesn't give me anything to reply to. If I have no clue why you wrote, I have no reason to write even "thanks but no" back.

I've got a feeling most Mistresses and Dommes and Doms feel the same way. Be a person, preferably yourself when messaging someone. If you don't know who you are, go find out and then get back to us.

-K

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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/3/2011 4:10:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mistressko

I've got a feeling most Mistresses and Dommes and Doms feel the same way. Be a person, preferably yourself when messaging someone. If you don't know who you are, go find out and then get back to us.


Greetings,

There are moments when i really wonder how effective their strategies are offline. Sometimes i sincerely hope they use a different approach and in others i believe that's why they're on the Internet. i can't dismiss what you've stated or deny the profound drought in appealing dialogue from those expressing interest. And i don't feel one should have to articulate how to compose a short note at my age or those far younger to be truthful. So i'm noticeably confused. i assume these people have some measure of responsibility in their lives and they've composed a cover letter or two. At least one would hope. However, the correspondence leads one to think differently. Almost as if you're conversing with a party from a different stratosphere. i hope Scotty's listening and retrieves all his friends he's left behind.

Namaste,

~porcelaine


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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/3/2011 4:14:04 PM   
mistressko


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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: mistressko

I've got a feeling most Mistresses and Dommes and Doms feel the same way. Be a person, preferably yourself when messaging someone. If you don't know who you are, go find out and then get back to us.


Greetings,

There are moments when i really wonder how effective their strategies are offline. Sometimes i sincerely hope they use a different approach and in others i believe that's why they're on the Internet. i can't dismiss what you've stated or deny the profound drought in appealing dialogue from those expressing interest. And i don't feel one should have to articulate how to compose a short note at my age or those far younger to be truthful. So i'm noticeably confused. i assume these people have some measure of responsibility in their lives and they've composed a cover letter or two. At least one would hope. However, the correspondence leads one to think differently. Almost as if you're conversing with a party from a different stratosphere. i hope Scotty's listening and retrieves all his friends he's left behind.

Namaste,

~porcelaine



Yes! It seems almost like an extension of people with University degrees who cannt spel. Or those who say - my hard limits are no children. I guess it comes back to the old McDonald's scandal. Now that they print it on every single cup, the whole entire world knows that, "COFFEE IS HOT".

I probably missed a few points. But anything more obvious than all of that? Probably the sadist in me but I start thinking of people drowning the stupidest (I don't mean mentally handicapped or those without an education, but the actual no-excuse stupid) of their offspring.

-K

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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/3/2011 4:51:29 PM   
porcelaine


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ORIGINAL: mistressko

I probably missed a few points. But anything more obvious than all of that? Probably the sadist in me but I start thinking of people drowning the stupidest (I don't mean mentally handicapped or those without an education, but the actual no-excuse stupid) of their offspring.


FYI, i agree with your earlier comment concerning an admission of interest. The idea of playing games or engaging in some makeshift dance around the subject is very annoying. Men gain greater ground with me by cutting to chase.

There's a dearth of couth on the Internet. To the degree that when you encounter it, you're mildly taken aback because it isn't commonplace. Self-promotion has become gimmicky and the methods some undertake to garner attention are pretty sad. i was always taught that your character says far more than any slogan one can generate. And if there's something of substance lurking beneath the outer covering, people will notice. It's pretty darned hard to dim a light that's genuine. In fact, some of the most effervescent ones i've known did little to sway opinion but trusted in the totality of their person as the proverbial statement instead. Flash always fizzles.

Namaste,

~porcelaine


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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/4/2011 12:20:08 AM   
SexyBossyBBW


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Status: offline 		Great topic. Unfortunately, most people who need this information, aren't going to come by this, before they send completely inappropriate notes,to completely incompatible partners. I guess things would start getting boring if we didn't get the fabulous fakes, and peni pictures though huh?! No, not really, but... M

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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/4/2011 10:15:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SexyBossyBBW

Great topic. Unfortunately, most people who need this information, aren't going to come by this, before they send completely inappropriate notes,to completely incompatible partners. I guess things would start getting boring if we didn't get the fabulous fakes, and peni pictures though huh?! No, not really, but... M


There are the creative sorts that can up the ante in the most original ways. i recall a certain diaper loving lad that suggested dinner at a posh restaurant would be a wonderful way to get better acquainted. Of course the scenario included the cloth adornment and seeming 'release' while dining. As you might imagine, that appointment never made its way to my social calendar.

Namaste,

~porcelaine


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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/4/2011 2:29:54 PM   
SnowRanger


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Hello All,

I recognize that men seem to forget their manners when they first discover CollarMe. I see the problem this way: The atmosphere here has a strong sexual charge. For that reason, a lot of men don't realize that they should conduct them selves as they would on Match.Com (tm).

I remember what it was like for me when I first got here. I was almost overwhelmed by the whole thing. I sure hope that I was never as bas as some of the guys here; but, I am sure that I have much to be embarrassed about in any case.

I'd like to suggest that it might be a good idea to educate these guys. The next time that you get one of those "I want you to (insert kink here) me." posts, send him a link to this thread and tell him to try again. I sincerely believe that if a guy is willing to read a post like this and LEARN from it he might be worth a second chance.

Respectfully,
Mike
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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/4/2011 4:34:24 PM   
NocturnalStalker


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Status: offline 		Going off your picture, wouldn't you just need to swing a sword to get your attention?

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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/4/2011 5:13:13 PM   
mistressko


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ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker

Going off your picture, wouldn't you just need to swing a sword to get your attention?

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That'd be pretty cool. ;-) Long as it wasn't a fleshy, under eight inch sword. LOL It's the Slave Register symbol for dominant woman. Reminds me of the whole knights thing, St. John's cross, etc.

-K

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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/4/2011 5:23:55 PM   
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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/4/2011 9:38:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: porcelaine
i recall a certain diaper loving lad that suggested dinner at a posh restaurant would be a wonderful way to get better acquainted. Of course the scenario included the cloth adornment and seeming 'release' while dining. As you might imagine, that appointment never made its way to my social calendar.

Namaste,
~porcelaine
Oh gross. The kink lists are endless. I don't understand why most men don't realize that approaching a woman, like she's a cheap kinky whore, does not make most of us all hot and bothered... Or I should say, it does, but not in the fun kind of way.
As an adult, I can arrive at any subject with another adult; but it has never been a point of departure, between myself and complete strangers. M

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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/5/2011 11:05:39 AM   
mistressko


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ORIGINAL: SexyBossyBBW

quote:

ORIGINAL: porcelaine
i recall a certain diaper loving lad that suggested dinner at a posh restaurant would be a wonderful way to get better acquainted. Of course the scenario included the cloth adornment and seeming 'release' while dining. As you might imagine, that appointment never made its way to my social calendar.

Namaste,
~porcelaine
Oh gross. The kink lists are endless. I don't understand why most men don't realize that approaching a woman, like she's a cheap kinky whore, does not make most of us all hot and bothered... Or I should say, it does, but not in the fun kind of way.
As an adult, I can arrive at any subject with another adult; but it has never been a point of departure, between myself and complete strangers. M


Speaking of kink lists - so you take the time to fill out what you like and what you hate and what hard limits are for you. Person messaging doesn't read your profile or even bother to skim your kink list and sends you a message about a kink that you HATE and how sexy it would be to perform this for you.

(((shudder)))

-K

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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/5/2011 9:59:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mistressko
Speaking of kink lists - so you take the time to fill out what you like and what you hate and what hard limits are for you. Person messaging doesn't read your profile or even bother to skim your kink list and sends you a message about a kink that you HATE and how sexy it would be to perform this for you.

(((shudder)))

-K
So, they've been emailing you too heh?! I used to feel badly about deleting unread. Now, if someone writes to me about reciting a scenarion with something on my hard limit, I delete. Thank God for the new spam alert the site/mods send on occasion, alerting you of a spamming wanker at times. M

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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/5/2011 10:03:09 PM   
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Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner

You must think anyone cares? Keep it on the other side. Nobody wants to hear about your dating problems.


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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/6/2011 8:54:03 AM   
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You must think anyone cares? Keep it on the other side. Nobody wants to hear about your dating problems.

*blinks* Well how about this... I care and I'm not a male sub.

For ONCE it was nice to read a post talking about how to get the attention of a female dominant in a positive fashion as opposed to the plethora of "Why are all male subs dickwads?" posts.


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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/6/2011 10:04:02 AM   
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I almost never return to a thread, so if you saw my post and want me to hear your reply, please message it to me.
Yes, we'll get right on it. M

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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/6/2011 10:47:31 AM   
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Speaking of kink lists - so you take the time to fill out what you like and what you hate and what hard limits are for you. Person messaging doesn't read your profile or even bother to skim your kink list and sends you a message about a kink that you HATE and how sexy it would be to perform this for you.

(((shudder)))


When one is not a regular or hasn’t spent a great deal of time on this site, it appears an underlining hummer as undetectable as it is to some, equals the ever so prevalent fault finding and criticism.

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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/6/2011 10:49:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Arieno

quote:

Speaking of kink lists - so you take the time to fill out what you like and what you hate and what hard limits are for you. Person messaging doesn't read your profile or even bother to skim your kink list and sends you a message about a kink that you HATE and how sexy it would be to perform this for you.

(((shudder)))


When one is not a regular or hasn’t spent a great deal of time on this site, it appears an underlining hummer as undetectable as it is to some, equals the ever so prevalent fault finding and criticism.


Sorry? I don't understand what you are trying to say.

-K

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RE: Ways to Get My Attention in a POSITIVE Manner - 4/6/2011 10:54:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think hummer = humor, but I'm not sure.  The sentence makes a little more sense that way, but still doesn't seem to relate to the quoted passage.

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