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ranja -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 7:08:40 AM)
after a bit more contemplation i realise that 4 scenes is probably indeed enough to become adickted and i now understand your withdrawls... depression, laying in bed, crying, twitchy fanny... it is a pity that you are not a man with a porn addiction because then you would have got some sympathy and be advised to seek help and use a 12 step plan to get your act together as it stands you are just a horny old woman who should pull her socks up

Rochsub2009 -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 7:41:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BeautifulSufforing i found myself laying in bed sad and crying because i'm needing dick......I don't really have no way to find a boy toy frm my bdrm. Wow, I wish all problems were this easy to solve. Get a babysitter for one night. Then get all dolled up. Wear a short skirt, a low cut blouse (the more cleavage showing, the better), and some 5 inch "fuck me pumps". Then go to a bar or nightclub, and wait for the line of drooling men to arrive. It's like shooting fish in a barrel. Men are such easy prey. You'll have quite a dick buffet to choose from. Just select the one you want. Or, if you're too shy for that, put an add on Craigslist. Write something like "Lonely mom seeks discrete friend for adult fun". You'll have 100 dicks to choose from within 10 minutes of posting your ad. See, wasn't that easy? [;)]

LadyPact -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 7:41:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist On this alt sex lifestyle forum, you will rarely see me agree with the solutions designed for prudes. We aren't dickless, conflicted gay priests in a closet or nuns with dusty cunts where the solution to everything is cold showers, prayer and abstinence. A decent human can go get laid and raise a kid. Somehow I don't see where your OP indicates you have your priorities out of alignment. Yo aren't neglecting your family, your job or your health while you are lost for days on end in some serial cock gobbling quest that has you fucking in allies and bar bathrooms. Auburn, WA population - 70,180 Your bedroom population - 1 Try finding dick volunteers outside your bedroom. Go out to a munch, a party or an event. Hire a babysitter or make your potential dick volunteer pay for it Buy lots of condoms, spread legs, have at it until you smell burning rubber Squeegee yourself clean, go home and get some rest and go back to watching movies with your kid Oddly enough, you just did. LOL. The part where the priorities are messed up is when the OP is having her crying fits and the kid is trying to help the parent feel better. I'm not saying that a parent has to always have a happy face because everybody has times in life that they might experience grief of some such thing, but something like the above is probably pretty confusing for the kid. There's not a thing wrong with the suggestion that we both actually gave. Have that one or two times a month that you go out, have your fun outside of the house, and enjoy yourself. It's still a smaller part of life than the larger allotment of time that's dedicated to being a parent.

IronJamSlave628 -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 7:43:07 AM)
When I replied to you on my introduction I thought you had a Master. I am sorry I misunderstood you. Well, one thing I know, it can't be easy having that need and no outlet. I feel for you, and hang in there; when the desire is strong enough, and you know how strong it can get, sometimes good opportunities open up. I am still squeaky clean new, so I can't really give you any better advice at the moment. I'll send good thoughts your way.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 7:43:52 AM)
I tend to think you can be a great mom AND get laid too. Seriously, how hard is it for a woman to get laid? Sex is usually just a phone call away. Now, if you were of a mind that you wait until you are in love, and in a relationship to have sex that's different, but somehow I don't think that is the case when you use words like dick withdrawal and boy toy. If you are home all the time with kids, then it is probably important that you get some time off to yourself anyway. Get a reliable babysitter and go out. I'm not advocating neglecting your kids just to scratch an itch, but we all need some personal time to relax and breathe and just have fun. Sounds to me like you are going through what a lot of people call that sub frenzy state where you are craving attention from a dominant. That usually calms down, if you let yourself get your head straight.

ResidentSadist -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 8:26:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist On this alt sex lifestyle forum, you will rarely see me agree with the solutions designed for prudes. We aren't dickless, conflicted gay priests in a closet or nuns with dusty cunts where the solution to everything is cold showers, prayer and abstinence. A decent human can go get laid and raise a kid. Somehow I don't see where your OP indicates you have your priorities out of alignment. Yo aren't neglecting your family, your job or your health while you are lost for days on end in some serial cock gobbling quest that has you fucking in allies and bar bathrooms. Auburn, WA population - 70,180 Your bedroom population - 1 Try finding dick volunteers outside your bedroom. Go out to a munch, a party or an event. Hire a babysitter or make your potential dick volunteer pay for it Buy lots of condoms, spread legs, have at it until you smell burning rubber Squeegee yourself clean, go home and get some rest and go back to watching movies with your kid Oddly enough, you just did. LOL. The part where the priorities are messed up is when the OP is having her crying fits and the kid is trying to help the parent feel better. I'm not saying that a parent has to always have a happy face because everybody has times in life that they might experience grief of some such thing, but something like the above is probably pretty confusing for the kid. There's not a thing wrong with the suggestion that we both actually gave. Have that one or two times a month that you go out, have your fun outside of the house, and enjoy yourself. It's still a smaller part of life than the larger allotment of time that's dedicated to being a parent. I guess I'm just an agreeable old prude myself. I thought I took the high road for her. I didn’t mention that staying in her room and screaming for dick like a brat won’t solve anything. As you mention, it must be confusing for the kid(s) when mom gets moody.

LadyPact -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 8:36:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist I guess I'm just an agreeable old prude myself. I thought I took the high road for her. I didn’t mention that staying in her room and screaming for dick like a brat won’t solve anything. As you mention, it must be confusing for the kid(s) when mom gets moody. You did take the high road. I'm not disagreeing with that. What I meant by My statement is that many of us have been parents and had to arrange our sexual or BDSM interests in such a way that it was a workable solution. I've had to do so, Myself. When the kids lived at home, I didn't bring casual play partners to the house. Even sexual encounters with clip were conducted at another location or when they weren't home. It absolutely can be done. You just have to put a little planning into it.

Missokyst -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 8:40:54 AM)
Omg. This is just sad. Lady, you are 41 years old with a 5 yr old kid and you are telling us that you want dick so badly you are crying for it? ...maybe if masturbation does not help you should stay away from sex sites for a while until you can learn a bit of balance.

windchymes -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 8:56:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ranja after a bit more contemplation i realise that 4 scenes is probably indeed enough to become adickted and i now understand your withdrawls... depression, laying in bed, crying, twitchy fanny... it is a pity that you are not a man with a porn addiction because then you would have got some sympathy and be advised to seek help and use a 12 step plan to get your act together as it stands you are just a horny old woman who should pull her socks up [/quote On the contrary, I would tell a man who was raising a 5 year old son the same thing. You're craving dick, but your son is craving love. Horny is only a feeling, but a 5 year old son is a precious gift. He'll be grown and out of your life in a couple blinks of your eye. How about you quit rolling around the bed thinking about how horny you are and take him to the park and then for ice cream. And then when he's in bed asleep, take care of the horniness, however you may do it. Frankly, I would give up dick the rest of my life if I could go back 20+ years and spend a day with my sons at age 5. [:(]

Arturas -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 9:03:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BeautifulSufforing hi , im new to this lifestyle only 4 scenes i found myself laying in bed sad and crying because i'm needing dick . my 5 yr old son saw me upset and does wat he does best put a smile on my face and asked to watch a movie with me so i wouldnt b alone awwwwww he is so sweet . i have been studying and reading discussions which is making me hot and masturbating doesnt help . actually quiet the oppisite any suggestions I don't really have no way to find a boy toy frm my bdrm very well always home with kids what can I do to help me deal with this About your Original Post, nothing abnormal here, nothing wrong about being horney and lonely and this was your post. It's very real world and here is more real world...tammy and I met here and soon we vanilla dated with the kids because it's tough to find a baby sitter. Not an issue because vanilla dates even with kids can be fun if you focus on making it so! After some more time we starting doing dates at home with the kids over dinner she made and movies at home and then enjoyed each other's company after the kids are in bed! When we had a baby sitter the dates were even more special. Hope you find this works for you as it did us, enjoy! I'm not addressing the "boy toy" comment becasue I cannot relate but if you want something quick and temporary you can dress in your best slut uniform go to the nearest lifestyle club as an unattached submissive and snag some there; it's quite common.

ResidentSadist -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 9:04:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist I guess I'm just an agreeable old prude myself. I thought I took the high road for her. I didn’t mention that staying in her room and screaming for dick like a brat won’t solve anything. As you mention, it must be confusing for the kid(s) when mom gets moody. You did take the high road. I'm not disagreeing with that. What I meant by My statement is that many of us have been parents and had to arrange our sexual or BDSM interests in such a way that it was a workable solution. I've had to do so, Myself. When the kids lived at home, I didn't bring casual play partners to the house. Even sexual encounters with clip were conducted at another location or when they weren't home. It absolutely can be done. You just have to put a little planning into it. Yup, I agree - gotta' balance your life so there is room for everything.

rosanegra -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 9:11:09 AM)
quote: Grow up and realize your sexual needs have to take back burner to your other priorities. You appear to be the single mother of more than one child. That's your priority, and you ~~don't~~ shouldn't need a stranger to tell you this. There. Fixed it.

igor2003 -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 9:19:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IronJamSlave628 When I replied to you on my introduction I thought you had a Master. I am sorry I misunderstood you. Well, one thing I know, it can't be easy having that need and no outlet. I feel for you, and hang in there; when the desire is strong enough, and you know how strong it can get, sometimes good opportunities open up. I am still squeaky clean new, so I can't really give you any better advice at the moment. I'll send good thoughts your way. According to her journal entry made just a few hours before her OP she does have a master and she is just upset that she has not heard from him for a few days. At least that is the way I understood it. It seems to me that she actually wants "that" dick and not so much "a" dick. Somehow she found a way to meet him in the not-too-distant past, so it would seem to me that she should also be able to meet some "other" dick in the not-too-distant future. The tears are from not getting the attention she wants, not just the lack of sex. Call me cold hearted, but it seems to me that she just wants sympathy.

Arturas -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 9:33:28 AM)
quote: The tears are from not getting the attention she wants, not just the lack of sex. Call me cold hearted, but it seems to me that she just wants sympathy. Yes and no. Women are not driven by sex the way men are. They must have attention and I am so glad they do. Perhaps you can take this as a lesson in what makes women tick. So, what you said is not cold since it is natural for her to be this way but the reason you said it is.

JstAnotherSub -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 9:44:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arturas quote: The tears are from not getting the attention she wants, not just the lack of sex. Call me cold hearted, but it seems to me that she just wants sympathy. Yes and no. Women are not driven by sex the way men are. They must have attention and I am so glad they do. Perhaps you can take this as a lesson in what makes women tick. So, what you said is not cold since it is natural for her to be this way but the reason you said it is. I would suggest that you not offer advice on what makes women tick. We all tick according to our own clocks. Some want love, some want NSA, some want screaming orgasms, some want it all. Some want none of the above. Some just wanna have a dick. There is no such thing as a typical woman, IMHO.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 9:45:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: rosanegra quote: Grow up and realize your sexual needs have to take back burner to your other priorities. You appear to be the single mother of more than one child. That's your priority, and you don't shouldn't need a stranger to tell you this. There. Fixed it. TY

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 10:16:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arturas quote: The tears are from not getting the attention she wants, not just the lack of sex. Call me cold hearted, but it seems to me that she just wants sympathy. Yes and no. Women are not driven by sex the way men are. They must have attention and I am so glad they do. Perhaps you can take this as a lesson in what makes women tick. So, what you said is not cold since it is natural for her to be this way but the reason you said it is. A lesson in what makes women tick? How incredibly condescending. Please do not compare the rest of us to your current submissive.You two are one of the most dysfunctional couples I have ever encountered online, and a huge part of that is that neither you nor tammy have a clue how screwed up you really are. And yes, I base this negative opinion on your posts over the last few years. They scream arrogance, myopia, self-absorption and faulty logic. That you see yourself as an expert in what makes females tick is laughable, at best. Though I am quite certain you will not take this advice, I suggest you spend a considerable amount of time looking inward at your own flaws before you seek to give "expert" advice to others. I know that what I have accused you of: arrogance, myopia, self-absorption and faulty logic, are all things I can be accused of. The difference between us is I know I can be an asshole, and try to learn from that. Sorry, rant over, it was just time.

Prinsexx -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 11:38:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ranja after a bit more contemplation i realise that 4 scenes is probably indeed enough to become adickted and i now understand your withdrawls... depression, laying in bed, crying, twitchy fanny... it is a pity that you are not a man with a porn addiction because then you would have got some sympathy and be advised to seek help and use a 12 step plan to get your act together as it stands you are just a horny old woman who should pull her socks up The world is full of dicks. And better to still believe a dick will do it for you I suppose than to have had far too much dick and then find that it's not the dick but what the dick's got that matters. Learn to masturbate properly as it will help when the illusion is shattered..

littlewonder -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 4:12:33 PM)
If you're having crying fits and your son has to come over and comfort you because you ain't gettin laid it's time to seek therapy dear. You have more problems than just not getting fucked and I'd advise you to seek help before it starts to affect your relationship with your child. Once it does, unless you're a horrible mother, you'll regret it for the rest of your life. Get help, seek therapy, talk to a dr, a priest, non-bdsm mentor, sexaholics anonymous, etc....

TheShrew -> RE: dick withdrawls (4/5/2011 4:39:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: windchymes Frankly, I would give up dick the rest of my life if I could go back 20+ years and spend a day with my sons at age 5. [:(] This.

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