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LaTigresse -> RE: Have you told your Family yet? (5/10/2006 7:35:01 AM)
A little domina in the making, Jewel that is priceless!!

sensiia -> RE: Have you told your Family yet? (5/10/2006 7:45:35 AM)
Some of my friends know but as far as my family is concerned a big HELL NO. My folks are very conservative and what I do is my business though they rasied me to be independent and have my beliefs does not mean they are ready to hear of my interests. Now, if they discovered what I do then I would be as delicate as possible, my family means the world to me and I wouldn't do anything to disappoint them, which I have no problem with keeping certain information hushed. I tried to talk with my brother who I thought was open-minded but he got all flustered so we quickly changed the subject, once in a while he will address me as the freak of the family but we all know he is lol. If I need to talk with someone I have a few vanilla friends that are understanding and also have many lifestyle friends I get together with in a vanilla setting fairly often. As far as my daughter knowing umm NO.

ShiftedJewel -> RE: Have you told your Family yet? (5/10/2006 8:13:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse A little domina in the making, Jewel that is priceless!! *I'm doing my part.... lmao* *Jewel*

GddssBella -> RE: Have you told your Family yet? (5/10/2006 9:53:54 PM)
G'morning all: I came out to my mother some time ago. It was over lunch, very matter of factly. She wasn't shocked or outraged, she was simply curious if it made me happy. What really made me chuckle happened after lunch. We were rummaging around a 99 cents store nearby for some household items. (BDSM on a budget.) She walks up to me with a plastic flyswatter in her hand and asks me "Think you can use this?". I blinked several times, snickered appreciatively, swished it through the air several times and thanked her. Needless to say, it went into my toy bag that night. Just for history's sake; I'm an only child, none of my own, my mom is the last of my known maternal family and my paternal side of the tree has never kept in touch. Most of my friends are lifestyle oriented. The entire staff of my base either knows, suspects, or wonders. chuckling I'm NOT timid about it if asked! It's a remarkably refreshing sense of freedom to not hide who I am. I only wish that everyone could be so free, for their own peace of mind. Stay safe, play nice, & share your toys w/ others... [:D] Bella

MadameDahlia -> RE: Have you told your Family yet? (5/11/2006 5:18:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GddssBella She walks up to me with a plastic flyswatter in her hand and asks me "Think you can use this?". -laughs- That's how I got my lovely purple one! I've told my closest family (mom, dad, sibling). All of the friends I know and care about know who and what I am as well as what I do. Every last one of them is okay with the bisexual part. My dad went so far as to comment (not to me, but to my mother), "At least I don't have to worry about her getting pregnant!" He's... somewhat of a pill. From time to time. And he doesn't altogether -get- BDSM. He's tried talking to me about it several times... and I always get the feeling that he's falling just shy of really understanding the psychology behind it. I'll give him points for trying at any rate. However, I recently found out that he hopes I'm not "influencing" my sister too much. That stung a bit. And then it just pissed me off. That really took a lot of nerve. Or maybe he didn't have enough nerve... Instead of talking to my mom about it he should have talked to me. I don't smoke anything. I don't do drugs. I don't have wild, crazy sex. I don't drink alcohol. I don't have a criminal record. I don't aspire to ever obtain one. I'm not out at night engaged in some sort of felony! I certainly hope I'm influencing her! But I digress... My mother trusts my judgement. She's happy as long as I'm safe, happy and responsible. I strive to stay all three. The happy bit comes and goes... but such is life. Same goes for my friends. All of them are happy for me and supportive. I don't lie or hide who I am from other people I meet. And if I get any sort of an "interested in more than just friendship" vibe from someone I might be interested in I'll test the waters to see if opening a conversation about BDSM would creep out or disgust the person. Interested or disgusted... I'd slowly introduce who and what I am, making it clear to them that... I am what I am... and I'll stay what I am! They are then at liberty to take it or leave it - hopefully before having invested too much emotion should they decide to leave it. I feel everyone should make an informed decision. And the sooner possible roadblocks are out in the open the better in my opinion.

cuddleheart50 -> RE: Have you told your Family yet? (5/19/2006 9:39:37 PM)
If any of my family had a clue, they would have me put in the looney bin! In the "lifestyle" that is...

Slipstreme -> RE: Have you told your Family yet? (5/19/2006 10:24:53 PM)
I am open to my family and my friends. Hell, I have converted a few of my friends! (Muahahahahaha!) I tend to be a bit of a flamer. Simply because if it is brought up somehow, I can't lie. I just can't. People tend to see that I am hiding something and question until I own up. I tend to tell the whole truth, even if it is TMI, unless someone requested me to keep whatever silent. Hell my Publix knows! And now I am at the brunt of penguin (my safeword) humour at work too! :P

amativedame -> RE: Have you told your Family yet? (5/20/2006 12:23:55 AM)
My mother found out about it a few months ago after snooping around through my things. Curiosity killed the cat? She eventually got up the nerve to mention it... but had no desire to talk about it nor understand it. Of course it hasn't caused any problems between us which is something I am quite happy about. One of my close friends I'm sure has an inkling (he is my safe call), but considering his very tight-laced christian upbringing it wouldn't be comfortable conversation for him, and not one I would instigate. I don't have a problem with friends or family knowing, but it wouldn't be something I would ever really bring up in conversation considering the fact that I am a very private person. Of course if I was ever asked or the subject come up... I would be more than delighted to add my share.

Rumtiger -> RE: Have you told your Family yet? (5/20/2006 12:27:59 AM)
Mom knows, shes cool with it, it's not like she hasent been around the block herself.

Evanesce -> RE: Have you told your Family yet? (5/20/2006 6:44:14 AM)
My entire family knows. Mom worries that I'll get injured, but other than that, she's met Master and knows He's a good man, so she's happy for me. The siblings don't really care one way or the other. My younger sister gives me a hard time about it sometimes, thinking she'll get a rise out of me, but she knows me well enough to know I'm nobody's puppet. Most of my friends are either in the lifestyle or lifestyle-friendly, so they clearly know. And my boss and co-workers just suspect, after I casually mentioned a large steel contraption we were building in the basement last year. I think the curiosity is killing one of 'em. She keeps bringing up my basement as a topic of conversation. And finally, my young ones. The high-schooler knows I call Him "Sir," and has used the word "slave" to me, but he really doesn't know much about it, and doesn't want to know, and I'm happy with that. The 24-yr-old seems proud of the fact that her mom's "a freak," and is actually attending a munch in Indy with Master and me tonight. She's experimented with the lifestyle a bit, herself.

talmar -> RE: Have you told your Family yet? (5/20/2006 9:15:55 AM)
Most of my close friends know. But I have not...& probably won't tell my family.

forluvofmaria -> RE: Have you told your Family yet? (5/21/2006 11:54:10 AM)
They have a need to know? They can ask....Do I broadcast or air my dirty landry, no. My personal life is my own business. I hide nothing about who I am and never have...Make sure you can handle the answer though Before you ask the question! Explain your need to know my business which determines what response you will get. M.

openmindedslave -> RE: Have you told your Family yet? (5/21/2006 4:07:36 PM)
Does it sometimes bother anyone , that you know you can't discuss your interest with your family ? Not to say you would talk about it for the sake of bragging or what not. More the fact that you can't because they might not view it as good for you or judge you differntly somehow than they already see you ?

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