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What should/shouldn't a Mistress have to post when adve... - 5/8/2006 1:24:01 PM

corysub

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Every subbie/slave knows his place with respect to the superiority of a Dominant One. However, should a submissive reply to any Mistress who comes to collarme and does not post a picture (not an immediate requirement, but helpful), give any idea what Her interests might be, Her experience, etc? There are enough phonies here taking a female name to get mail from subs spilling their hearts out looking for a Mistress to serve.
I guess it is an individual thing whether to respond or not but not only would I wonder who was on the other end of the email, assuming She is ligitimate, I would wonder about the person who does reply to such an ad being safe to be around, should they in fact show up for a meeting. It might be ok if it is only online but real is an entirely different no BS situation. Would appreciate any thoughts should anyone want to give them...

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RE: What should/shouldn't a Mistress have to post when ... - 5/8/2006 1:36:35 PM

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Hmmm....well I personally do not approach submissives (male or female), nor do I have a picture posted and have removed my lifestyle interests from my profile. That is not to say wonderful and genuine dominants do not approach submissives, my question would be why do you think that a person that does not post a picture (easily faked) or a list of interests would be a phoney or a dangerous person to meet? Surely you would have some dialogue and an exchange of pictures, thoughts and parameters before meeting with someone?

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RE: What should/shouldn't a Mistress have to post when ... - 5/8/2006 9:40:02 PM

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Well, personally, I feel no need to post a picture because (a) I'm not really looking, (b) I don't want any more of the type of mail that having my profile featured would bring, and (c) I figure they can find out what I look like when they meet me.

That (c) might worry some folk, but the fact is that the way to meet me is to simply show up at a munch (if you tell me that you're showing up I make a point of attending myself). No danger for you or me of even being socially bored cause if you decide I look like a dog's breakfast you can simply say "Hi" and move on to more interesting game. If we do click (I give great conversation), we can do some social stuff later. By the way, I generally try to answer all mail that comes from a local source, if only to make sure they know how to contact the community.

As to the "list of interests", I'm sorry but the reaction to that from most of the fellows who approach me is like I'm offering a menu of activities. The thought of doing any of this stuff with a total stranger just squicks the heck out of me. Nothing of anything is on the table until I get to know you better in a vanilla way.

In short, I don't need the aggravation that I know would follow my posting a profile with a picture and a list of interests.

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RE: What should/shouldn't a Mistress have to post when ... - 5/8/2006 9:45:31 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Alixandria

The thought of doing any of this stuff with a total stranger just squicks the heck out of me.

ooooo yes yes yes

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RE: What should/shouldn't a Mistress have to post when ... - 5/8/2006 11:00:59 PM

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Personally, I see no harm in responding to a message from a Domme with little to no profile. I havent been here long, but I've replied to everyone whos messaged me, even if my reply is simply 'I'm flattered but not seeking what you are.' As far as meeting someone goes, assuming youre intelligent enough to make it a public place for the first meet, the only real risk consideration is a time issue. Just becuase she has no profile doesnt mean you cant get to know her online before your willing to meet her in public. Just my 2 cents.

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RE: What should/shouldn't a Mistress have to post when ... - 5/9/2006 3:20:31 AM

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Aside from an occasional response to something I've written, the few unsolicited communications I've received here were from pros covertly offering me "therapeutic" experiences.

It didn't bother me but I never reply to unsought commercial emails or personal ad spam.

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RE: What should/shouldn't a Mistress have to post when ... - 5/9/2006 4:48:21 AM

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I've actually found a couple of standards when it comes to profiles:

The less my profile says, the more email I get. The more it says, the less mail I get (and even then, many of those clearly have not actually *read* the profile). Suprising? I don't think so - I think the shorter a profile is, the more likely the "masses" are to read it, and the less specific it is, the more likely the fishers think they might have a shot.

I'm fairly average looking, but if there's a pic posted on my profile, the volume of email triples. A friend of mine who is absolutely gorgeous (and posts a pic of herself in fetish-y wear) gets a huge amount of email when she has a pic up, and next to none when she doesn't. She notes that most of the email is wanker oriented (which is why the pic isn't always posted).

I pulled my pic recently because I currently have a position in student leadership at college. I'd just rather not run into any issues. I am not, however, paranoid about sending a pic out to people - if I've exchanged a pleasant email or two, then I have no problem sending one. Alternatively, they're welcome to meet me at the munches I go to.

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RE: What should/shouldn't a Mistress have to post when ... - 5/9/2006 7:29:39 AM

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You're not required to reply to any email on collarme. Some people feel differently about this issue, but realistically, your simply not obligated to respond to anything. If you want to be a bit nicer about not responding, just say so in your own profile "I won't respond to people without pics, profiles, and interest lists." Then they'll know ahead of time and (theoretically) not waste anyone's time in the first place.

But the title of this thread wasn't "should subs respond?" it was "what should Dommes have to post when advertising for a sub?" And the answer to that is: whatever they want.

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RE: What should/shouldn't a Mistress have to post when ... - 5/9/2006 10:25:44 AM

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Thank you for the replies to my question. My thought in posting the question was that I felt it might be easier for a sub to pick who he responds too if there was more information available on Her profile and not wasting the time of a Mistress who just advertised for subs.
I thought it would be a better way for a Mistress to "filter" the hundreds of emails She gets from just random replies with no interest in ever really meeting or from trolls getting some kicks out of getting an email back from a Dominant. Guess I was wrong and will try to be better informed before posting.
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RE: What should/shouldn't a Mistress have to post when ... - 5/9/2006 11:05:31 AM

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I think you should send notes to those people who you feel some attraction to.

Can you have an attraction to someone with little information in the profile? Without a picture?

If so, is is really an attraction to that person or the role they've checked off in a box?

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