For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (Full Version)

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badpaliden -> For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/8/2006 4:22:31 PM)

  I asked this in another forum , but would like to ask it here as well. When your answer this ,WHAT is your first thought that pops throught your brain? What are you to your partner? Did you answer Hubbi/Wife  Bf/Gf or was it  Dom/Slave/Sub? I just thought to put this out for perusal. I know that for me it varies at time and situations.. but underneath it all lies one answer.



losttreasure -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/8/2006 4:41:19 PM)

Wife. 

I don't feel that marriage in anyway compromises the D/s relationship, but in some respects... it does supercede it.  In other words, while 24/7 implies submission on my part at all times, that doesn't change the fact that I would be the partner of my spouse.  The reverse isn't necessarily true if I'm not married to my Dom.

*shrugs*  It's semantics... I know. 



BitaTruble -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/8/2006 4:45:59 PM)

property



slavejali -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/8/2006 4:51:07 PM)

First thing that pops into my mind is I'm Masters partner.

What being a partner means to me is, I'm submissive to him,  I am his slave,  I am his wife, I am his friend, I am his lover,  I am the closest person to him. The word partner has all those associations and realities for me.

I have a stronger association to the word Master than I do to his birth name.

If a vanilla person asked me what being a wife meant, I would answer that I see my role as wife as one that is submissive to her husband, which would be telling them I am his slave without saying the actual word.

I see no conflict at all between different words, most times its just like speaking the language of the person you're talking to, yet what you are saying all amounts to the same thing. 

Slave and Wife means the same thing to me in action. The only difference to me is, which particular word is used as a communication tool to outside parties, neither word change the dynamics of our relationship or my association to it.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/8/2006 5:29:21 PM)

To my owners I was their slave/property.  They never gave me pet names and often just called me by my name.  To one of my owners I was her slave and her neice.

Right now, I use the label boyfriend/partner for all of my long-term committed relationships.  I am not owned by any of them nor do I own any of them.  They use girlfriend for me, among a few pet names.



RapturesDaddy -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/8/2006 5:34:01 PM)

I consider mine, my partnr, she is no less than me because she chooses to submit. We love each other first and foremost.



valeca -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/8/2006 5:37:15 PM)

Depending on the situation, all of the above, for me. 

In this exact moment, I'd say I'd lean more toward what jali said, but in 30 mins, I might lean more toward what celeste said.  It's all relative.



bandit25 -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/8/2006 5:40:16 PM)

sub...cuz that's what I am



juliaoceania -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/8/2006 5:45:29 PM)

Because I have family and friends that I do not wish to know about this choice I have made I would refer to my dom as my boyfriend or significant other except when socializing with others that know. I would also refer to him as my dom when we are in private. If I were married I would refer to him as my husband for the same reason, it takes a lot less explaining to folks then introducing my mate as "This is my dom". I know there are others that are "out of the closet", and while I respect people and the choices they make, not all of us are as free to make them the same choices.

Many of us have kids (I have a teenage son), or careers that preclude us from referring to our sub/dom as that in the eyes of the world. It is a very good question and I had thought of it myself in wondering how people refer to each other when they consider themselves lifestylers. I do not necessarily think that it is important to label your dynamic anyways. I have seen a lot of confusion on this board about labels and those who seek to identify themselves as "real" and they label others as "fake". I really like the anacronym WIIWD because of that. It is just what we do, and labeling leads to posturing about the realness and the fakeness of others. Just because someone values their sub or dom as a spouse does not mean they are not involved in power exchange. At least that is my opinion, and there are as many opinions as there are people I suppose.



mixielicous -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/8/2006 6:20:40 PM)

i am everything. when He talks of the future though, it has literally been put in this order: wifey/slave/mommy/pet

right now its slave-gf/finace, not two or three seperate roles but one.

my point is that, in our relationship they are all part of each other. so i he doesnt call me by just one. [:)]



KnightofMists -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/8/2006 7:14:06 PM)

slave for both of my girls



proudsub -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/8/2006 7:28:21 PM)

Wife popped in first, hard to break old habits.[:)]



PeaceInterrupted -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/8/2006 9:21:08 PM)

My hubby has always been submissive with me, but he is my hubby first and foremost and he only submits to me, but, he enjoys cotopping with me when I play with a female subbie.  We have been married for 20 years, and I have to say finding myself as a Domme saved our marriage.

Peace



perverseangelic -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/8/2006 10:32:45 PM)

Partner/property-"his girl" Partner in situations where property or "his girl" would cause more trouble than it's worth.



OnyxGoddess -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/9/2006 2:50:21 AM)

Cruel Wife as he is my cuck.  but in front of family we're totally vanilla.  he can say whatever he wants but he knows i'm not going to take it lightly and that he'll have to pay for it later.



twicehappy -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/9/2006 3:29:43 AM)

ScooterTrash is my Master

ShiftedJewel is my Mistress

When i asked them this questions Master responded Jewel is my wife, twice is my slave.

Mistress responded Scooter is my husband, twice is my slave.

If you ask what we are as a group you hear we are a family.

When we are in public, even around family or co workers when asked who i am they both invariably respond she is our girl.   



TigerLily23 -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/9/2006 3:34:57 AM)

Wife...slave...and in that order....



CaptiveRose -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/9/2006 3:40:03 AM)

I'm his wife first. the mother of his children second, and slave third. Our vanilla life, right now, for the sake of the children, supercedes the bdsm relationship.



kisshou -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/9/2006 4:18:02 AM)

slave



sabswife -> RE: For the married and 24-7,a gut answer question... (5/9/2006 5:12:10 AM)

wife :)



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