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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/15/2011 9:51:05 AM   
tj444


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Gee... whats the rush? Anything worth having is worth waiting for, imo.

I have always met in public and to be honest, some guys were much more cautious than I was. A girl can have a boyfriend that she could be working with to rob (or worse?) guys that want her to come to his place first time they meet. Or she could be working alone and drug the guy... guys can be at risk too...

.. but of course, if she says no at any time, then stop, cuz if you dont...

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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/15/2011 11:16:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

I can see it if I ever catch a court case "why yes your honor, ResidentSadist did stick 90 needles in her tits, cut a bloody corset shape in her back, shove a sharp knife up her cunt and fuck her in the ass using her own blood as lubricant" . . . "but he did it in a loving way and she liked it, I swear."


*books ticket for Florida*


OP, dating a potential sub isn't that different from dating a potential vanilla partner.  Either can cry rape, it's not unique in bdsm.  Use your common sense, meet in public first, and get to know the person before going to bed with him/her.  It's really that easy.

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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/16/2011 11:40:46 AM   
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Thank you all for your responses. I am in agreement with all of the posts here. I was already taking my time, but I think Ill take a lot more. Again...thanks a lot.

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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/16/2011 2:01:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: jon1979

How can you know that person will not cry rape or battery?


I think perhaps that is the least of worries.

Could it be the wierdo neighbour who is grotesquely overweight, smells like a Chilean miner, whose breath makes my dog jealous?

Could it be my primary school teacher, or one of a number of people I know in vanilla life that totally freaks me out?

Could it be a teenage boy who nicked a pic off the internet and now has me completely fool into thinking he is a 40 something professional who is rational and sane?

Could it be a man that thinks it is still fashionable to wear his sweater tucked in.... or God forbid someone with fuckinguglyshoes (it hurts less when you say it that quickly!)?

jon, there is more to life than dipping your wick...



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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/16/2011 4:58:59 PM   
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Since the OP effectively closed this thread and thanked us, I am going to indulge in a hijack.


quote:

ORIGINAL: MaxsBoy
quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist
I can see it if I ever catch a court case "why yes your honor, ResidentSadist did stick 90 needles in her tits, cut a bloody corset shape in her back, shove a sharp knife up her cunt and fuck her in the ass using her own blood as lubricant" . . . "but he did it in a loving way and she liked it, I swear."

*books ticket for Florida*


Dear fox,
I have been hetro by educated preference for over 30 years.  But, if your pretty ass did show up in Florida, I would cut your cute little retro panties off and wrap them around your neck, choking you as I threw you to the ground.  Then I would take you from behind like you were a bitch in heat. 

After the product of my lust was planted deep in your plump little ass and a hot pool of cum was leaking down your quivering legs, I would carelessly pull you off the ground, tying your hands up to the cross.  With your ass throbbing, now bound, blindfolded and helpless, I would take out my knives . . . the big knives. 

Blind, in the dark, you can hear me hold the knives by your ear.  The blades rubbing together create a metallic ringing and it gives you a deep chill.  Goose bumps form and move across your skin in waves when.  Cold steel . . . you feel me press the cold steel knife tip against your nipple.  Slowly the chilly blade lays against your chest revealing its true size, inch by inch.  Your body is shuddering as your mind realizes just how large this sharp knife in my hands really is . . . a sadist’s hands . . . which you are bound and helpless to resist. 

I see you shudder and quell the potential for a scream by jamming the panties in your mouth.  Then, and only then, would I cut a line up your tender inner thigh and across your crotch.  The bloody blade in my hand, I press it to your lips and command you to “kiss it”.  Your lips stain red with blood as you obey.  You can taste the coppery flavor in your mouth. 

Tracing thin lines with the sharp knife, I would cut your moist tender parts . . . your under arms, your sides, your armpits.  One hand cutting you while other pets your bloody wounds soothing you. Contrast fills your mind and stimulates your flesh as one hand hurts you and the other comforts your wounds.  Ahhh . . . I can just picture you shuddering and squirming under the blade as your passions grow and you get sexually excited. 

You feel blood dripping down your thighs, when the explosive sting of my hand slapping you burns an imprint.  Carelessly my hands explore your thighs and your sex while smearing blood everywhere as they migrate to the cum soaked cheeks of your ass.  Then silence . . . more silence . . . a quite calm comes over you, like the calm before a storm. 

The calm lifts when you feel a knife pressing in your back and hear my command, “move away from the cross” (you are face out).  When you lean away from the cross you feel a woosh between your legs and hear a “thwack” as I plant a knife deep in the wooden cross member.  My voice is deep, calm, and engulfing.  Somehow soothing but the tone of it is unwavering and definitely in command.  There is no room to disobey . . . and no escape.  You are my object of pleasure to do with as I please.

I lean into you and speak into your ear.  You feel my warm breath as I say, “back up until the knife handle penetrates you”.  Then you feel my a hand on your hip gently guiding you.  You also notice a knife at your throat . . . which further inspires you obey completely until the hard cold handle is jammed fully up your ass.  You are not only bound, blindfolded, bleeding, drenched in cum . . . but your throbbing ass is now impaled by a knife handle. 

Blood?  The scent of blood?  The smell of blood and cum fills your mind as you realize my bloody hand is inches from your face.  Bloody fingers pry your lips apart and penetrate your mouth playing with your tongue, then several fingers slide down your throat . . . your air is cut off.  You feel my other hand take your sex as you get light headed from asphyxiation. 

. . . I leave you here with this story.  I am sure you can fill in the blanks.

The point of all this wank fodder?  Just my way of thanking you for being such a flirt, showing you appreciation for the cute little panty shot in your profile and vent some energy about knife play.  I do love it so much.  My regards to Max for letting you play on the forums.  It’s been a pleasure responding to you.

Best wishes and sweet dreams,
Kalon Eric



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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/16/2011 5:00:40 PM   
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I have always been fortunate with the few I have met...and yes we played...what can I say -L-
THAT being said there was always a little part of me that worried about what your asking, especially being sadistic...
They ALWAYS talk about how much a sub needs to trust the D/Mistress/Master...its not a one way street...if I dont know I am safe I will not go certain places...jail sounds nooooooooooo fun.
Many meet in many different scenarios,etc...Public play is definatly safer...I do not ever see me meeting anyone again just to...play, it was for darn sure exciting -L- There are people here I would LOVE to meet and get to know over a nice supper,etc...
Stay safe whatever you....do!

Good luck...

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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/16/2011 6:43:13 PM   
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Could it be the wierdo neighbour who is grotesquely overweight, smells like a Chilean miner, whose breath makes my dog jealous?


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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/16/2011 10:30:49 PM   
MaxsBoy


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Dear fox,

****

. . . I leave you here with this story.  I am sure you can fill in the blanks.

The point of all this wank fodder?  Just my way of thanking you for being such a flirt, showing you appreciation for the cute little panty shot in your profile and vent some energy about knife play.  I do love it so much.  My regards to Max for letting you play on the forums.  It’s been a pleasure responding to you.

Best wishes and sweet dreams,
Kalon Eric




THUD


Good night everybody!

< Message edited by MaxsBoy -- 4/16/2011 10:32:57 PM >


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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/16/2011 11:40:54 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: jon1979

When meeting someone for the first time from an online source, and not the local community, how can you know that person will not cry rape or battery? Is there a worry for this? I tend to be very careful, and want to cross my ts and dot my eyes before I meet someone from this website.



jeeeze sounds like you want them to go to your room, drop their clothes, lie down and spread their legs?? If this is what you want, better be ready sooner or latter to face rape charges.

Sometimes they might want this, but just like in the vanilla world, NO MEANS NO! (unless you know them well enough that it means PLEASE DO NOT STOP!)

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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/17/2011 10:14:55 AM   
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Hell, at least 1/2 the women I've met from this site over the years have hoped that I would perpetrate rape and  battery on them.
Shit, that's WTF they were meeting me for.



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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/17/2011 10:18:41 AM   
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Why does that not surprise me?

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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/17/2011 1:58:47 PM   
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Dear fox, I have been hetro by educated preference for over 30 years.  But, if your pretty ass did show up in Florida, I would cut your cute little retro panties off and wrap them around your neck, choking you as I threw you to the ground.  Then I would take you from behind like you were a bitch in heat. 


/Turns on the printer and gets out the eroscillator/

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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/17/2011 9:25:37 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: jon1979
how can you know that person will not cry rape or battery? Is there a worry for this?

Umm, there are no guarantees in life except for death and taxes. I would meet someone in a public place for coffe/dinner/drinks and stay in public places until you know them better. Not much else I can say. There's always a chance of this even when your first meeting is offline in the real world.

~Hisprettybaby~

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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/19/2011 2:05:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss


quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

I never rape or beat a bitch on our first date... its a rule I have.

BadOne







On which date do you succumb to that?


Once Im sure she can take it.

BadOne


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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/19/2011 9:30:40 PM   
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As mostly everyone here as said, get to know the person first before playing with them. I have a sub friend who had a very bad experience and it happened at a party with other people around. She made the mistake of going to a room alone with the guy and even though he agreed to her use of a safe word and she expressed her limits to him, he did not respect those limits or safe word and took advantage to her.

I would say NEVER play without knowing someone, but not every does that. If you are meeting strictly to play, then meet at a BDSM club or party and be within either site, or earshot of others

Thats my story and Im sticking to it!!

Tyson

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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/20/2011 9:57:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: jon1979
how can you know that person will not cry rape or battery?

So the first concern to pops into your mind when meeting a total stranger is whether or not they will cry rape or battery?  Ummmmm, that says something very scary about YOU, Mr. Dahmer. 

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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/27/2011 8:56:08 AM   
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My usual precautions are:
When meeting someone from an online source, I first have messaged them for a while, on the site I met them on, emailed them off the site at one of their email addresses, talked to them on the phone at least a time or two, more often longer, gotten to know their kink interests, fantasies and have them in written form (from the messages, emails).
The first meet is in a public place, usually for coffee or drinks, and for a specified time period, I tell them to have a safe phone call established with a friend (someone they must call by a certain time), the next meet we may go to a BDSM Club or event, I usually talk in detail about what will take place during our first bdsm encounter long before it happens, and make sure we are both in agreement on hard limits, what will happen, etc.
There is the rest of your life together (if it works out) to be spontaneous, in the beginning one needs to take care.  And still there are no guarantees.
All of this said, I have tossed caution to the wind on any number of occasions, met someone after only a message or two and just went with my gut.

"Keep your friends close, keep your enemies closer, as for the unsuspecting…"
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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/27/2011 10:02:08 AM   
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Yeah. Ok. Nice textbook answers here. Very good. "Get to know them ..." sure. The reality is we guys meet them for coffee at Starbucks and if things click at all then they click fast and by the time I get extra napkins for the coffee I spilled she is already touching and laughing and leaning into me and preening and I would be blind to not see she is ready to do more than just have coffee and to be a Dom is to be aggressive. Surely I'm not the only guy whose meetings all have started much the same way in much the same timeframe, so it is amusing to read all this great advice like we guys who actually meet offline spend time getting to know them, right, we get to know them with our fist full of their hair and not one has ever even thought about crying rape or something the next day, in fact, they are even more eager the next day. Here's what real Doms do, on the very first meeting in the car after leaving Starbucks, we tell them the safeword and let them know if they use it all things will stop. This way we retain the power because we never have to guess if we are going too far, else, the submissive has the power on that first meet by keeping us guessing if we are going too fast and they will use it to test our resolve, promise, all of them! Nubee Doms, if you don't take anything away from this thread, take that advice and use it and remember, she is expecting a Dom so don't be a textbook answer quoting sheep in wolves clothing, be a wolf.


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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/27/2011 10:19:37 AM   
Arturas


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All of this said, I have tossed caution to the wind on any number of occasions, met someone after only a message or two and just went with my gut.


Damn right,

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RE: Live meet ups from online encounters - 4/27/2011 10:24:35 AM   
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you meet subs, they come into town.

I try not to bang the crazies.

Although the crazies quite possibly are the best fucks.

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