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OttersSwim -> RE: Looking to explore a certain side of myself. (4/20/2011 8:41:32 PM)
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Hello Ashley,
So did you know that there are more than 1,800 kinksters in Rochester, including the Rochester Kink Society that has a bunch of folks in it! They hold monthly open houses, and seem to be having an Arabian party on May 14th...so lots of folks! There is also the Upstate Kink Society, that is having a munch in Utica on May 6th from 7-10 p.m. If you go to Fetlife.com, you can find all this and more by doing a search for Rochester, New York.
So yea, you have some girlie desires and that can be fun and good. It will likely be best that you find your way to embracing those parts of you yourself rather than hoping for someone to come along and take charge of it for you - if you think about it logically, you will see that it is really not something that people would do as it is so complex and there are possibilities of untold landmines and hassles...not to mention the fact that it is totally focused on you, and Dominant folk generally are going to want the dynamic focused on them. If however, you are embracing that part of yourself, and making it a fun and interesting of who you are as a whole and well rounded person, then people will be more likely to engage with you. Just like in vanilla life, you go from strangers, to acquaintances, to friends, and on from there. Contrary to popular belief, being kinky does not make people loose, nor easy, nor unwise.
So I wish you luck! Get out into your community there in Rochester! That is your very best chance of getting what you want! Think a lot about it and be as prepared as you can to be fun, engaging, drama free, and -there-. Ask lots of questions, don't be a douche, and have fun! [:)]
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