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ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Clarify "natural" submission? (4/19/2011 2:56:25 PM)
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl
I'm an alpha. I do not have a submissive personality. However when faced with someone that I feel is more dominant than I am, I have the urge to submit. I've heard it compared to a lion's pride. Among lionesses there is an alpha female, and she only submits to the head of the pride.
Agreed. I consider myself an alpha female.
Part 2: No one is A natural submissive. Being A submissive is a learned behavior. You can naturally have a submissive personality. They are two different things.
Disagree. Within the context of BDSM, they are *not* two different things. Some natural submissives like to submit within that BDSM context.
I like this definition very much, though I do not believe it to be universal.
I think "natural" is a term people use to signify that their submission (or dominance) isn't just an adopted role for the purpose of D/s kink or intimacies. That it's natural to them to submit in just about all ways to their partner's choices - in and out of the bedroom.
And I'm fine with that. It's desirable to me, actually, which makes "natural" a relevant piece of the communication puzzle.
Focus.
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