RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies)

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texasbutterfly -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/10/2006 5:30:53 PM)
at this point i will take any input i can get. i am a sponge soaking up opinions and knowledge and coming to my own conclusions. amazingly, i am having a good time doing it too...lol.

DaimonDog -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/10/2006 6:47:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: texasbutterfly so are you saying that my inexperience is not the hindrance that i have been seeing it as? i feel like everyone is looking for someone who has experience and knowledge of their limits, likes and dislikes and of how to serve their master. i have been searching for a dom that is willing to take on someone with no experience...if i am reading this right, i should just be looking for someone compatible with me...not my submissive side. is that the way i should be looking at this? i know this probably sounds like a stupid question but it is one that i have struggled with. i look forward to your opinion. No sweetie, (if I may) your inexperience is not a hindrance for you to find a Dominant. Just wishing you the best of luck.

dogobedience -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 3:02:23 PM)
Thank you one and all for the great replies......now back to my topic. I am here to meet girls (woman/female/ lady/gal/etc) as are many of us who can correctly spell BDSM and the word DOM! Some of us,both male and females, are simply here for kinky sex . Others are here for friendship. Still others to learn and share knowledge. Then there is the smallest group in this fantastic lifestyle on the internet, the one's who need to live this 24/7/365 and seek out the knowledge and abilities to accomplish it. This is were it gets poluted.....how and what does it take to seperate the real from the fakes online!! I send tons of pics with each email, always show my face and or some identifiable part of me to show I am real. Most pics will show a current play partner or past property. BUT even that does not show my abilities, it only seperates me from the one's totally in cyber fantasyland. HELP!!!!!!!!!

JohnWarren -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 3:19:24 PM)
It may well be the "tons of pictures" showing "some identifiable part." Most women I know don't like to be bombarded with that sort of thing. From what I've seen, women aren't so concerned that a person is a "real dom" as they are that he's a "real person" with whom they can identify and trust. Oh, and part of that trust is that he's not going to show pictures of them to strangers." If I were you, I'd be looking for a relationship and let the kinky part come as it will. After all, there aren't all that many non-BDSM women looking for partners here.

dogobedience -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 3:22:58 PM)
ALWAYS great advise, ALWAYS. TY.

dogobedience -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 4:20:35 PM)
One last topic, why is it that even one's with true face to face experience fall for the cyber dom? Is it that you want to believe? OR WHAT?

Wulfchyld -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 4:25:30 PM)
You nailed it again John. You have to seduce the mind and the body will follow. If they (subs/slaves) wanted to fetch and carry beer and be ignored they would stay Vanilla.

dogobedience -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 4:28:07 PM)
Spoken from wisdom, one day I hope to call you my friend

cuddleheart50 -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 4:30:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld You nailed it again John. You have to seduce the mind and the body will follow. If they (subs/slaves) wanted to fetch and carry beer and be ignored they would stay Vanilla. Amen!!!!!

dogobedience -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 4:33:36 PM)
Texasbutterfly, said a great thing.....at this point i will take any input i can get. i am a sponge soaking up opinions and knowledge and coming to my own conclusions. amazingly, i am having a good time doing it too...lol How many of you girls think this way ?

FirmhandKY -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 4:41:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: dogobedience Texasbutterfly, said a great thing.....at this point i will take any input i can get. i am a sponge soaking up opinions and knowledge and coming to my own conclusions. amazingly, i am having a good time doing it too...lol How many of you girls think this way ? No offense, "Tiger", but while I see you agreeing with a lot of people, I get the impression that not much of it is sticking. I could be wrong. FHky

Wulfchyld -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 4:43:02 PM)
That is a very welcome prospect. What I think would be beneficial for everyone to realize is that it is the forum posts that are the window to the soul in this medium and not so much the profile. You can discern through the posts how loquacious, humorous, strict, sincere, and so on by the posts made here. Every time I get mail I look at the profile then read their posts. That is what weighs heavily on whether or not I respond. I do get very impressive letters from members who do not subscribe to the forums but the intensity of those letters make me deliberate heavily on my replies. Hence the delay in replying. I don’t think it is fair to send a curt response to a very well thought letter and work diligently to give a well thought reply to a very worthy letter.

dogobedience -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 4:49:47 PM)
You are wrong wulfchyld, however it is because of my inability to properly convey who I am via the internet........my loss, and perhaps others as well

Wulfchyld -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 5:16:12 PM)
Sorry you feel that way. Perhaps I should have added the "YMMV" disclaimer. For me the forums are the medium I use to garner insight into people. I find that the fun threads introduce their playfulness and the serious threads give you insight into their views. That is my approach and again YMMV.

dogobedience -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 5:49:17 PM)
As those who know me, I am a polite man. I praise those I like. I remain quite to those who can only offer negitive energy. You Wulfchyld, IN MY OPINION, temper domination with the ability to have fun also, I like that. I am always agressive, but I always have fun. I often say, a boring man is a boring dom. Have fun and always be in control of those who have earned the right to be so. Back to me being me, ty everyone for your replies, I am constantly seeking knowledge to better my abilities to facilitate my NEED to own and control.

Reflectivesoul -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 5:58:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL:Wulfchyld What I think would be beneficial for everyone to realize is that it is the forum posts that are the window to the soul in this medium and not so much the profile. You can discern through the posts how loquacious, humorous, strict, sincere, and so on by the posts made here. Every time I get mail I look at the profile then read their posts. That is what weighs heavily on whether or not I respond. I do get very impressive letters from members who do not subscribe to the forums but the intensity of those letters make me deliberate heavily on my replies. Hence the delay in replying. I don’t think it is fair to send a curt response to a very well thought letter and work diligently to give a well thought reply to a very worthy letter. I have to agree with you on this one. Its also something kind of touched on in the other topic thats been created. People gain an oppinion of who you are by what you post and how you behave and your mannerisms with others. ~RS~

feastie -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 6:06:56 PM)
Absolutely one's posts give others a bit of insight into one's thoughts and personality. More often than people realize, their written words speak much more loudly and strongly than their verbal ones. Word choices, phrasing, sentence structure all lend themselves to readers forming an opinion about someone. With that thought in mind, it would behoove many of us to re-read our posts before we hit OK.

feastie -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 6:09:07 PM)
Tiger, I have to tell you, I did not find anything of value in receiving the multitude of pictures you sent with your email. I don't care what you've done with another person and I've no need to see photos to prove that you're "real". You will indicate that to me with what you have to say, far more than what you have to show.

dogobedience -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 6:22:48 PM)
I believe it all began when I came back on this site. I was asked if I was real, I sent a few pics, and it went from there. We are now friends/play partners, she said it all started for her with the pics of past girls, then the im's and phone. What I should have understood was each person has unique and different ways to be approached. Because of my success in sending pics and meeting girls was good before and now again, I continued this practice. Positive results sometimes can be misleading. I do these threads to better my ability to seek out the one I want. Your reply has offered me additional insite. I am here to meet, and even though I do so, I must modify my tact to achieve my desires results.

Reflectivesoul -> RE: the "PERFECT DOM" (and other cyber lies) (5/15/2006 6:24:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL:feastie Tiger, I have to tell you, I did not find anything of value in receiving the multitude of pictures you sent with your email. I don't care what you've done with another person and I've no need to see photos to prove that you're "real". You will indicate that to me with what you have to say, far more than what you have to show. ok I think that might have been better served in a private fashion like e-mail.... but shrugs whatever floats your boat....

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