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RE: Falling for my Master - 5/12/2006 9:49:04 AM

bandit25

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Of couse, there will be some sort of attachment. What I understood is that she is (or has) falling in love with Him. Love isn't necessary.

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RE: Falling for my Master - 5/13/2006 6:22:22 AM

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You should not have to feel this badly about falling for your Master as its only natural to do so, but if he doesnt think it appropriate for you to feel this way or for him to feel the same for you then maybe you should ask for your release?

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RE: Falling for my Master - 5/13/2006 1:23:57 PM

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Greetings ShivaTS,
this slave is not sure of what rules/guidelines &/or limits are involved in your relationship with your Master, so this may or not be helpful in your case.
When this slave came here & gave itself mind body & soul to its Master it was all or nothing & at first slave thought is was suppose to keep a certian amount of emotional distance from Master. as each day passed, slave had a harder time sticking to just worshipping & adoring Him.
slave decided to ask Master about this and Master informed it that in our case it was not only proper, but expected of slave to love Him, because in order to surrender to Master completely, slave must surrend it's heart as well.
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RE: Falling for my Master - 5/15/2006 12:04:05 AM

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A M/s relationship by its very nature is intimate and intense...I am very fortunate in that my 24/7 M/s relationship is also one of love and commitment...I truly have the best of both world's and know how lucky I am...the fact that your Master is married and that might be an obsticle to the tenderness and intimacy you need is normal...I, however, am concerned about his unwillingness to discuss this with you...for Master and I one of the cornerstones of our relationship is communication... without it, we could never have a healthy and mutually beneficial relationship...He will discuss anything with me as long as I present it in a respectful way...if your Master continues to refuse to discuss this, then you are, unfortunately, on your own and as many have said before me - you have to decide to accept things the way they are or move on...I wish you much luck in you decision whatever it might be....Shy

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RE: Falling for my Master - 5/16/2006 12:54:38 PM

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what does the wife think???

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RE: Falling for my Master - 5/16/2006 9:06:51 PM

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Hi... First post here, so please excuse me if I'm not up on all the nuances. But how in the world is it possible to live with someone for three months, be sexually involved and not develop some sort of feelings? And if you could... why? What sort of person would that be? Seems to me the premise was flawed from the get-go? I feel bad for the original poster, I really do.

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RE: Falling for my Master - 5/16/2006 11:58:24 PM

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How can you serve someone on a regular or perminant basis and remain completely unemotional?? If you submit to someone is there not going to be an attachment of some kind no matter what?

Of course ther would be, but that is not the point. Her Master told her in the beginning what kind of relationship this would be. She accepted, and he is under no obligation to indulge her new feelings.

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RE: Falling for my Master - 5/17/2006 3:50:54 AM

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If a service oriented slave is what she signed on to be, then why is he using her for sex? Sex and emotional love can very often become intertwined, regardless of what we *think* about it or what we've *agreed* to. If he's giving her aftercare, ie, cuddling for 30 minutes afterward, he's doing what's expected of a dominant. She's tried to discuss the problem with him, but he's changed the subject. Smells like someone wanting his cake and eating it too.

Just because humans make an initial agreement, doesn't mean they can stick with it. She's falling for him and he's helping her do it.

Shiva, there's a part of you that wants to love and be loved as much as the part of you that wants to serve. Recognize that and understand you will have to feed both. If this arrangement with this man does not provide for that, then you should beg your release. This cannot be healthy for you and by refusing to talk about it, he is not concerned with your best interests.

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RE: Falling for my Master - 5/17/2006 11:14:29 AM

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Thank you for your responses. I just wanted to make it clear that I never mentioned of him ever having sexual relations with me. I am TS and am not confortable with it. He has thankfully not put me through the humiliation of it. The cuddling I mentioned is just that, some affection. Yes I care for him...alot, he finally talked to me...kinda. He wants to take me to a branding workshop and his birthday is coming up. He mentioned at the beginning of the relationship that when the time was right, he would like me to wear his initials. I am hoping this is a response to my feelings. If not I will continue to serve him the best I can. If it becomes too much for me to handle, I do have a job opportunity in another province, so I have the option to leave and start over.

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RE: Falling for my Master - 5/17/2006 11:48:21 AM

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In my mind, it makes perfect sense to fall in love with your Dominant/Master. It's what I'd hope to do...that's what would work for me.

The idea that it is so expected is reiterated by our laws, is it not? Consider the legal responsibility of 'a person of power'; teachers, priests, doctors, coaches...all are held at a higher standard with regard to how they treat those with whom they teach, support, treat, coach.

JMHO

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RE: Falling for my Master - 5/17/2006 1:12:35 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ShivaTS

I have been living with my Master and his wife for almost 3 months now and am finding I am developing feelings for him. I want to be near him and get cuddly with him. I know this isnt appropriate as a slave to be this way. I tried talking to him about this and am he has changed the subject both times. I watched a Dom being friendly with his sub and found I myself wanting that from my Master. I am really confused because of the Master/slave relationship and the fact that I want the affection from my Master but not really sex. Not that he hasnt had me gratify him, but it is more a humiliation thing than pleasure. This has been on my mind for a week now after a really intense session that left me unable to hold myself up. He craddled me in his arms for 30 minutes till I recovered. I dont think I can have what I want because of how our relationship stands and the fact that he has a wife and therefore will never look at me in anyway other than a slave.

If this is your *main-relationship*, ( and I think that's an important issue) it's not surprising that you desire affection.....You don't seem to be asking for *deep abiding love* but basic human affection.

Slave or not...at some juncture humans desire affection, in maybe a more profound way, than the elusive *love*. If you had children or other relationships that provided that for you, it may not seem quite so significant.

When there are central people in your life, I'd think it was quite a natural response to have this desire......even if you didn't expect so.

Consider that there's a mismatch of feelings after the few months you've been together, that can only be seen now.....you can't have envisaged feeling this way until you'd BEEN there.

Good luck and best wishes, agirl

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RE: Falling for my Master - 5/19/2006 12:23:56 PM

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He may feel that you are only a slave...is that how the relationship started? If that is how he thinks of you, and since he is married, things may not change.

However, wanting to cuddle and be close is perfectly normal. I know that when my dom left me, it was his warmth and presence while we cuddled that I missed very deeply.

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