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first toys! - 4/28/2011 10:49:17 PM   
Craves2Devote


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Status: offline 		hello, im new to the scene but i love it already. i want to get into the lifestyle, but i kinda want some toys...

what toys would be the best to start out with? i was thinking: vibrating buttplug, ball gag, and handcuffs. what does a Domme suggest?
-thanks!
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RE: first toys! - 4/28/2011 11:41:12 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		Until a submissive has a Dominant, he/she can buy all the toys he/she wants to own.  When owned the Dominant will inform submissive about what personal toys he/she should own.  I'd shy away from handcuffs as they can be fairly dangerous, even while being used by trained professionals such as the police department.  Otherwise, get what you think you'd enjoy. 

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RE: first toys! - 4/28/2011 11:43:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		My favorite first toy: a willing/compliant/trusting man/boy. M

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RE: first toys! - 4/29/2011 6:04:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		Please do yourself a favor and avoid some classic mistakes.

*  Don't run out and buy a bunch of stuff that you have no idea if you will ever use.  I literally know people who have things that are still in the package from buying them three years ago. 

*  Don't buy items that are specifically purchased with the vision of another person in mind.  Biggest pitfall here are the people who buy a strap on before they have ever met the person who might want to use it on them.

*  Don't spend a ton of money.  Start small and work your way up.




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RE: first toys! - 4/29/2011 6:40:36 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Status: offline 		Forget the handcuffs and ball-gag, I suggest (1) a serving set: well made leather wrist and ankle cuffs, and since you are into cross dressing, perhaps pink, (2) a blindfold: again, well made leather with a comfortable fit, (3) I agree with others about not buying your own personal insertables until you know what your domme prefers, however, feel free to buy the vibrating butt plug to amuses yourself with.

Re-read LadyP's post concerning common pitfalls.

Best of luck in your journey.



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RE: first toys! - 4/29/2011 9:25:16 AM   
Craves2Devote


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quote:

a serving set: well made leather wrist and ankle cuffs, and since you are into cross dressing, perhaps pink,


wow i love this idea, and thanks for the advice everyone. im still looking for ideas, so more input would be great!

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RE: first toys! - 4/29/2011 9:28:28 AM   
MaxsBoy


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Status: offline 		I like to send newbs to Blowfish for their toy purchases.  They have a limited selection, but give a good review of pretty much every item, and describe who it's good for (newbs or more experienced players).  They also issue recomendations based on price and quality, and have information of how to choose and care for your toys.

OP, pick just a couple of things that look appealing to you, and branch out from there.  Start small (literally and figuratively).

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RE: first toys! - 4/29/2011 3:30:52 PM   
Focus50


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Craves2Devote

hello, im new to the scene but i love it already. i want to get into the lifestyle, but i kinda want some toys...

what toys would be the best to start out with? i was thinking: vibrating buttplug, ball gag, and handcuffs. what does a Domme suggest?
-thanks!


Only you can know what desires drive you. That necessity truly is the mother of invention (and motivation).

As previously stated, a quality set of leather wrist and ankle cuffs is an ideal first choice. But I'd stay away from gags for now - I tend to regard them as "advanced" toys. That is, until I know my sub's reactions and general body language, I'd consider it unsafe to block such an important line of communication.

Most subs go nuts (in a good way) when blindfolded so I'd substitute a tailored leather blindfold for the ball gag on your list. You can usually acquire them from whoever makes the cuffs. Check out ebay if you don't know someone....

Focus.

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RE: first toys! - 4/29/2011 3:42:46 PM   
Craves2Devote


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Status: offline 		ok, second question:

what are a good sissy shoe to start out with? i have no idea what to choose when it comes to womens shoes, but i would love a pair, maybe some underwear and bras too. can anyone link a good sissy shoe to start though?

thank you!

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RE: first toys! - 4/30/2011 9:25:14 AM   
DeviouslySimple


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Status: offline 		um...heres some links

http://www.odgirl.com/item--Locked-Ankle-Strap--INDULGE-534-PL.html
http://www.odgirl.com/item--Ankle-Strap-Spiked-Heel-Pump--DELIGHT-686-PL.html
http://www.odgirl.com/item--Ankle-Strap-Wide-Width-Pumps--Dream-431W-PL.html

but if your just starting out, you may just want to start with the wrist and ankle straps like most other ppl are suggesting (sry about underline, it won't stop!!!)

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RE: first toys! - 5/2/2011 5:26:50 AM   
Sylverdawn


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Status: offline 		Start with the frugal domme... great ideas and resonably priced items.. my first toys where prevertable.. low investment great reward...



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RE: first toys! - 5/5/2011 1:59:14 AM   
LadyConstanze


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Craves2Devote

ok, second question:

what are a good sissy shoe to start out with? i have no idea what to choose when it comes to womens shoes, but i would love a pair, maybe some underwear and bras too. can anyone link a good sissy shoe to start though?

thank you!



Starters would be knowing your shoe size in female shoes, pretty often sizes in some countries differ between males and females (a friend here takes a size 6 shoe for guys, not a chance that he will fit into a size 6 for women), then start with a low heel... If you are too embarrassed to go to a shop and try them on, I suggest you invent a fancy dress party and ask a shop assistant for help, good way to figure out your actual size, once you got that, I'd check eBay and such.

Bras are fairly easy, measure your ribcage, the underbust size will tell you what you need, if your underbust is 34 inches, you will need a 34 bra, I'd suggest you start with a modest B cup and see how you get along with that. Panties - well guys tend to have smaller hips than women, so buy something cheap and go for a medium, if that is too large you take a small, make sure you don't spend a lot before you got all your sizes right.

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RE: first toys! - 5/5/2011 9:43:56 AM   
pantyslave2suk


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Status: offline 		Sissy friend, just to give another advice on shoes. Im a crossdresser that wears a guys 10, but in women's I wear an 11. As LadyConstance says, stick with a smaller heel to start. I started with a heel of 3inches and gradually increased to 5inch. Thx

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