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chiaThePet -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/29/2011 10:59:42 AM)


Situational.

Like this morning, I burned my Dominant's toast and you could just sen........

Wait a minute..........where's the blowtorch?

Crap.

Gotta go...........

chia* (the pet)



leadership527 -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/29/2011 1:20:05 PM)

I get frustrated routinely with Carol as I'm sure she does with me. Anger is an entirely different deal. My response to actual anger is cold, calculated, and in some ways sociopathic. I'm generally unconcerned about the costs to the other person seeing them as simply an obstacle rather than a human. I try to avoid this situation as much as possible. Clearly it has no place within my primary intimate relationship since the most obvious way to remove Carol is to divorce her.



littlewonder -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/29/2011 4:05:33 PM)

I shut down when he's angry. So no it's not hot. It's just confusing, frustrating and in the end makes me angry as well.



WillowBayU -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/29/2011 4:27:39 PM)

I think everyone gets or feels angry.  Acting on that anger, though, is different.  Speaking for myself, it is why I am interested in this lifestyle - the structure and exchange of power allows alternative approaches; if he has the right to punish me as he sees fit, what is the point in acting "angry"?  



DesFIP -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/29/2011 6:51:22 PM)

Personally, it's a major turn off. I can't even do make up sex after fights.

In general, however, anger is a passionate emotion. And passion is rare. Most of the time we aren't passionate about things, so we value it when we see it.



honestmistake -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/30/2011 4:09:50 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
[...] or at the very least turn them into a quivery pile of sobbing goo begging me to spare their life."



That much is hot ;-)



PeonForHer -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/30/2011 4:33:42 AM)

No hettie male who's seen Sophia Loren in full furious pouting mode, all heaving chest and fiery eyes, is going to give a resounding 'No!' to this question.



sunshinemiss -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/30/2011 6:16:47 AM)


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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

No I do not find anger to be hot.  Because of my personal experiences, I find anger to be scary, because most of the anger I have experienced led to a loss of control and subsequent violence.



YUP.

I would like to add, though, that I find passion exceedingly sexy. A man who has been painting, exercising, dancing, whatever trips his trigger, and he feels his own power and passion... WOOO HOOOO! That's hot. Smoldering even... And he should find a proper assistant to help him express all that passion.

yes indeedy.
Sunshine,
Assistant Extraordinaire.



sunshinemiss -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/30/2011 6:22:06 AM)

I would like to add...

I had a boyfriend once who got angry. Another guy wouldn't leave me alone. I handled the situation, but a little bit later the same dude was bugging my friend. We mentioned it to her boyfriend. He told my boyfriend, and the two of them went all kinds of after the guy.

It was not the anger, it was not the fight. It was that a man was trying to protect me that was exciting. I felt so valued and precious. That was sexy.





aromanholiday -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/30/2011 7:55:21 AM)


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ORIGINAL: ParappaTheDapper
Is anger a turn-on or a turn-off?


Turn-on, if it's from someone dominant over me. My father was a very angry man. Perhaps I aquired a taste?

Also, passion/emotions are not wild if they are tame. I shall explain. A tame, properly channeled display of passion would strike me as a (yawn) tame, properly channeled display of passion, not the wild, untamed force of personanlity that I love in some dominants. Many submissive women (and undoubtedly some submissive men) crave the wild forces of a storm-like personality, but to truly experience and understand a storm, you have to step outside the tame, warm, protected safety of your thick-walled structure that keeps strong emotions properly channeled into the appropriate forms, and experience the elements, in all their raw force, directly. It is exhilarating, in my experience, to do so.



Asherscorp1 -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/30/2011 11:55:52 AM)

Sometimes. It depends on why He is angry. If He is angry with me there is nothing hot about it. I feel guilty and awful and only want to make it better. If He is angry about something else ... I generally still only want to make it better. Lol. If it's just mild annoyance and it can be relieved by beating me ... that's hot and I am all for it. But to me annoyance is much different than anger.



whiteslavebitch -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/30/2011 1:01:47 PM)


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My fear is a learned response toward anger, and I haven't unlearned it yet.



No, I don't think it's hot. Anger is a normal emotion that everyone experiences, and as long as someone can keep control of their behavior while angry, it's not a problem.

I can't stand to be around someone who loses control while angry, yells, screams, etc. I will shut down and try to get away as soon as possible.



SubmitIt -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/30/2011 1:02:15 PM)

Angry? Not sure, at times when it's passionate, but cold calculating anger can freak me out.



Phoenixpower -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/30/2011 1:09:32 PM)

Anger is not hot at all...arguing can be hot with the right person, yes [:)]

Gosh was it hot at times to argue with my ex or with Mr. A *drool* but anger....nope...not at all [:)]



Icarys -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/30/2011 1:19:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Phoenixpower

Anger is not hot at all...arguing can be hot with the right person, yes [:)]

Gosh was it hot at times to argue with my ex or with Mr. A *drool* but anger....nope...not at all [:)]

I wonder how many men would make a statement like that.

I've never found arguing hot..that only happens in the movies or Jerry Springer like shows.



Icarys -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/30/2011 1:20:27 PM)

Wow.



needlesandpins -> RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? (4/30/2011 2:11:54 PM)

fr

i have been on the receiving end of anger where control is lost, both as a child and as a woman. it's not good at all and now does very strange things to me. it makes me very on edge and tetchy in myself. i hate feeling that there is something wrong with the other person and i don't know what is going on. anger makes people unpredictable and i'm most certainly like that when angry. the quieter i am the more furious i am. if i'm raising my voice it's because i'm frustrated that i either can't really say what i want to, or no matter how i say something i'm just not being understood (or at least the other person is saying i'm not, whether that is really the case or not). i hate anything that is directed at me whether i'm the cause or not.

now then; if the fella happens to get annoyed and passionate in telling me a tale from his day and getting a little shouty, maybe practicing some cursing therapy, then yep that can get me very horny.

needles



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