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Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 7:24:24 AM   
ParappaTheDapper


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Status: offline 		I've spoken to a surprising number of subs both male and female who say they think it's hot to see a powerful, dominant type get angry. This is such a weird idea to me! I've always associated getting mad with losing control, losing face, and admitting weakness. My reaction to seeing someone angry is a mixture of revulsion, amusement, and pity. I guess it all comes down to whether you perceive anger as a display of power or of weakness and I wonder how other submissives feel about this....Is anger a turn-on or a turn-off?
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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 7:29:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		While I think violence and viciousness in a sexual manner is hot,
seeing anyone angry is an emotion I'm not comfortable with.
My instinct would be to try and make everything better.

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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 7:31:26 AM   
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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 7:32:42 AM   
ParappaTheDapper


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ORIGINAL: poise

While I think violence and viciousness in a sexual manner is hot,
seeing anyone angry is an emotion I'm not comfortable with.
My instinct would be to try and make everything better.


Yes! I feel the same. Violence, viciousness and savagery are all crazy hot. Anger though is just unsavory and embarrassing and icky.

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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 7:51:46 AM   
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< Message edited by Kana -- 4/29/2011 7:52:49 AM >

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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 8:35:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		No anger is quite distressing for me. I want to make it better when people are angry which tends to make people ummm angry lol

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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 8:36:32 AM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		No I do not find anger to be hot.  Because of my personal experiences, I find anger to be scary, because most of the anger I have experienced led to a loss of control and subsequent violence.

I have yet to see the Mister angry.  I've seen him frustrated and irked but not flat out mad.  I suspect if I did, I would become frightened - not because I fear HE would lose control, but because of a trauma trigger being pushed.  My fear is a learned response toward anger, and I haven't unlearned it yet.


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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 8:41:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		Anyone that digs that stuff is not for me. I rarely get really angry and on the very rare occasion I do........I am pretty sure NO ONE wants to be around me. Not because I toss a tantrum or anything. I do exactly the opposite. 

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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 8:48:31 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
I rarely get really angry


I now know what it feels like to have my eyebrows go through the ceiling.

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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 8:52:49 AM   
ranja


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Status: offline 		yes there is an element of excitement in seeing Him angry, it does make me a bit fearful and i love to feel His passion at the same time

if He would lose the plot and start throwing a tantrum i would probably think it was quite funny... like that time He had a bit of a swearing match with another bloke by a petrol pump... something to do with the parking, they were calling each other cunts... i managed not to laugh but it was so funny
anyway if He would lose the plot so much He would start battering me i am sure i would quickly lose interest in His temper too and demand anger management

But to see Him wound up... it seems the passion is more real and He handles me with more feeling than when He is lovey and gentle and patient

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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 8:56:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
I rarely get really angry


I now know what it feels like to have my eyebrows go through the ceiling.


Ah well.....perhaps your definition and mine vary. For me......angry is "I want to see blood, I want someone to die a horrible agonizing death, or at the very least turn them into a quivery pile of sobbing goo begging me to spare their life."

The last time I felt that, was several years ago when someone was trying to destroy the life of someone I love dearly. At that point, it was game on.

Otherwise, I may get a little pissy or annoyed, usually at something I screwed up, or something not even worth being bothered by. Most of the time, I do a speedy self check and analyze just what the hell my problem really is. Then force myself to switch gears. Or, if I seem determined to hold onto the mood........I spend some time alone....usually outdoors doing something productive and physical.


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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 9:10:49 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think too many people mistake anger for passion.

Passion is hot, anger is not.

Once you have been with someone who has anger management issues, no one would ever ask this question.

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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 9:12:32 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Yeah, but it is like spanking for instance, if done in the right tone of violence, sexy.

If done in rage.............

So, if one know that another goes off and is still not truely dangerous.......

And those things are some of nuances this is all about.

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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 9:15:16 AM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I think too many people mistake anger for passion.

Passion is hot, anger is not.

Once you have been with someone who has anger management issues, no one would ever ask this question.


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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 9:17:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		It is the nuances that this is all made of, for me at least.

Behaving angrily during a scene, is simply hot. Passion can manifest itself as looking like anger, as you referred to above in the spanking analogy.

However, the OP may be asking if people just think it is hot whenever a Dom is angry simply because it seems to convey power, when in reality, it conveys only weakness and lack of an ability to communicate.

As I said, there is a clear distinction for me at least. Someone could act angry at me, drag me by the hair, throw me down, spank the hell out of me and perpetrate other fun acts on me without me thinking they are an angry asshole.

And then we have people who get infuriated if someone cuts them off driving and they rant and curse impotently.

That kind of anger is just immature.

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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 9:20:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, but our case is a little different because Max doesn't get angry like most (ime) other people do.  When he's angry he becomes all the more cold, methodical, and controled in his behavior.  A "scene" (in quotes because we don't actually scene) based on his anger leads to deliberate torture, not thoughtless violence.

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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 9:32:41 AM   
NuevaVida


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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

That kind of anger is just immature.


I can respect controlled anger (although it still makes me nervous).  The "blow up in your face because I'm mad" kind of anger is an entirely different beast for me.  We all get angry, it's what we do with it that counts, in my opinion.  When it begins to escalate, it becomes closer to being uncontrolled, and that's where I have issues with it.


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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 9:49:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		Anger is just an emotion and to me, cannot be respected or disrespected. It is how it is expressed that inspires respect or disrespect.

We all get angry, to say we don't would be a lie. But we do not all act either violently insane or withdraw and become horribly cold for days on end.

That is the type of anger that I disrespect because it shows disrespect for one's partner and the world in general, as well as lacking the ability to talk things through.

The OP's question was whether subs thought it was hot when a Dom is angry and I think I made my point clear enough somewhere up above.

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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 9:58:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		i Have never seen Master angry. Frustrated yes as a matter of fact just yesterday he was frustrated, because he was trying tioexplain somethng to me i i just was not getting it. He was happy when i finally got it. I do not find anger a turn on or turn off it is what it is. If Master was angry i would try to see what made him angry (if it was not me) and try to take care of what ever made him angry. If Master was ever angry enough at me that i was going to get a pnishment, he would walk away. After he cooled down he would come back, and deliver my punishment, i know he would never strike me in anger. Master has a lot of self control. I don't have as much.

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RE: Do you think it's hot when your partner is angry? - 4/29/2011 10:21:53 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sexyred1: I agree anger is just an emotion. My point was that I respect *controlled* anger, meaning when one controls his/her anger. I agreed with your point above.

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