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How to find the right submissive? - 5/10/2006 10:41:13 AM

FeelinTheHeat

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We are a lifestyle couple of 7 years. He is Dom, she is His submissive. We are looking to find a submissive for fun and adventure with no strings attached. Our question, how does one go about doing this? It seems that the web is full of ppl searching for " the one". We would just like to heighten our fun, basically Master is looking for a part time submissive. We cannot have a live in submissive, we don't want a headcase, we want someone stable, happy, just looking to enhance their submissive side. OK... sounds like an ad, but really, is there a better way to go about our seach? We just may be doing something wrong. Any advice?

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RE: How to find the right submissive? - 5/10/2006 10:43:55 AM

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Be yourself and be patient. The competition you will be up against is enormous against the potential pool that you have. But if you are simply yourselves, know exactly how you want things to go and communicate that, it will happen.

Check out the poly boards also, there's some good related threads for this.

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RE: How to find the right submissive? - 5/10/2006 10:49:08 AM

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Take your time, get to know people on here and if you're involved with the local "community" that helps as well. You'll have to talk to lots of people and spend lots of time looking. But you might luck out and find someone suitable right away. It does happen.

Personally at this time i'm not in a position where I could devote myself to anyone as a full time live in submissive. As I don't like to submit to just anyone I thought i was pretty much out of luck for a year or two, but as it happens I met great couple on here. She bottoms to another Dominant and I submit to her husband. It's not a full time thing, I maintain my own household and life but still get the pleasure of having a Dominant in my life. So it can happen.

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RE: How to find the right submissive? - 5/10/2006 10:56:36 AM

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Have you tried some of the swinger sites? I know that there are single women that post on them and I'm sure there are some up for our kind of kink.

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RE: How to find the right submissive? - 5/10/2006 11:34:39 PM

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We are a lifestyle couple of 7 years. He is Dom, she is His submissive. We are looking to find a submissive for fun and adventure with no strings attached. Our question, how does one go about doing this? It seems that the web is full of ppl searching for " the one". We would just like to heighten our fun, basically Master is looking for a part time submissive. We cannot have a live in submissive, we don't want a headcase, we want someone stable, happy, just looking to enhance their submissive side. OK... sounds like an ad, but really, is there a better way to go about our seach? We just may be doing something wrong. Any advice?

Since you're in Mesa, I would heartily recommend that you join and attend the functions of APEX. Once you're a member of APEX, if you ever get down to Tucson, you can also come to Desert Dominion. At both clubs, you can meet real people face to face, get to know them, and play with them on play party nights.

Links to both club's websites below.

http://www.arizonapowerexchange.org/

http://www.desertdominion.org

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RE: How to find the right submissive? - 5/11/2006 1:33:19 AM

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Copy and paste your post into your profile.

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