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RE: regular punishment - 5/10/2006 6:09:23 PM   
yourMissTress


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Status: offline 		In My home there is nothing regular about punishment.  If punishment is needed on more than an occasional basis there is a problem that punishment won't fix.  I punish to change a behavior that I don't like.
 
To remind My girl of her place in My heart I love her, cherish her, and care for her.

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RE: regular punishment - 5/10/2006 6:20:56 PM   
CAROLF


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Status: offline 		my Master doesnt' always call it "punishing" it's more of a reminder, like i've read here.  When we go out, and my bottom burns like fire, i remember who owns me.  we may be out on a very Vanilla evening, but as far as my bottom is concerned it's very M/s.  i do get punished to change a behavior. these can vary from spankings to closet time.  The bottom line for me is, He knows best and if I get punished, it's because He thinks it will make me a better slave or somehow serve him better.

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RE: regular punishment - 5/10/2006 6:24:56 PM   
apb


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quote:

ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

To remind My girl of her place in My heart I love her, cherish her, and care for her.



Yes, She does.  i would not want to be punished routinely without "earning" it.  If, on the other hand, i have digressed in some way from what is expected or asked of me then i expect to be punished (sooner or later) in whatever way MissTress sees fit.

Routine punishment would only lead me to think i am a bad sub, and leave me wondering how long it will be before my Domme gets tired/bored/frustrated with me and moves on ...  

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RE: regular punishment - 5/11/2006 3:48:39 PM   
daddysprop247


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Status: offline 		i am punished by my Master when he feels it is necessary...when i have committed some infraction, or caused him some sort of distress, etc. the punishments may be physical or they may be something else. it is effective for the both of us...i suffer for my wrongdoing, and he gets the release of causing me to suffer for my wrongdoing, as i have made him suffer by needing to punish me in the first place.
however, "routine" punishment, such as being spanked or paddled every tuesday night just because, would not be effective and doesn't fit our definition of punishment at all.

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RE: regular punishment - 5/11/2006 5:54:54 PM   
MasterR001


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Status: offline 		For me punishment is part of training and should  be used to help the sub learn and grow.  I beleive in rewards and punishment. 

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RE: regular punishment - 5/11/2006 6:08:07 PM   
feastie


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Status: offline 		Since I am not supportive of "punishment" for adults, I certainly am not supportive of punishment just for general purposes.  I wouldn't treat my children that way, nor my dog, so why would I treat another adult that way, or expect to be done so?  I find "punishment" to not serve any purpose that another method of expressing and resolving an issue would do just as well.

I have offered myself as a whipping post in times past, but that's a COMPLETELY different issue.

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RE: regular punishment - 5/11/2006 6:24:01 PM   
kyraofMists


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Status: offline 		In the time that I have known my Lord, I have not been punished.  He does not use corporal punishment as a rule.  Pain is generally reserved for play and sex and not correction of behavior.

Pain as punishment was not really effective when my parents used it and I could not imagine it being very effective if my Lord used it.  I am sure there could be exceptions to this, but in general I respond better to different types of behavioral correction.  The best to use with me is simply for him to let me know which behavior pleases him and I will strive to do it. 

Knight's kyra

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RE: regular punishment - 5/12/2006 5:59:31 AM   
mixielicous


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Status: offline 		Hmmm i wonder if the fact that i was never physically punished as a child is what has created part of my affinity for CP

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RE: regular punishment - 5/12/2006 8:16:03 AM   
twicehappy


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Status: offline 		I neither receive it nor believe in it, at least for me. What would be the point? I am a masochist, that would be like rewarding me. Pretty much i am the one hardest on myself for a screw up. It only takes that look that tells me i was displeasing; trust me i beat myself up for days. And my owners know it.

I serve and try to do it well because i love, not because i am afraid. 



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RE: regular punishment - 5/12/2006 8:25:34 AM   
becca333


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Status: offline 		It's effective because you know it gives him pleasure to do it, it shows he's thinking about your needs. 

Besides, it feels wonderful.

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RE: regular punishment - 5/12/2006 4:38:17 PM   
scotty918


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Status: offline 		As a submissive male, I feel that regular non-play punishment sessions are very effective. I have just began seeing another male who gives hard spankings. I asked him to give me a severe paddling for purpo0sely pissing on the bathroom floor. The initial punsihment was to be 40 licks as hard a she could hit me on the bare ass. He then gave me about 20 more very hard licks with thiws wooden paddle with holea. My ass had bruises on it for about 2 weeks. I am hoping to get another even more severe paddling from him soon.

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RE: regular punishment - 5/12/2006 5:50:17 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		Punishments once a week because he said so  when I had done nothing wrong, since punishments are in my opnion when I have messed upwould quickly loose effect on me when I had actually messed up.  for me it'd be like the kid who was constantly yelled at, so then when people yelled to get their attention they tuned em out lol

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RE: regular punishment - 5/12/2006 6:14:56 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		becca if it's a you fucked up I am disapointed so you'll be beat beating it does not feel good. nor should it.

Being in true disgrace and not I beat you cause I am Master it pleases me is not fun nor feel good nor should  it.
quote:

ORIGINAL: becca333

It's effective because you know it gives him pleasure to do it, it shows he's thinking about your needs. 

Besides, it feels wonderful.

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RE: regular punishment - 5/12/2006 6:21:16 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		If you enjoyed it and look forward to another one then it is play not punishment.

When someone messes up enough to require punishment it's not like oh goody I enjoyed that I want you to punish me harder.


A subs been disgraced when they've messed up enough that their one has to take pychical action over them. It's not playfull it's not enjoyable and it's certaintly not something a sub would look forward to again.


quote:

ORIGINAL: scotty918

As a submissive male, I feel that regular non-play punishment sessions are very effective. I have just began seeing another male who gives hard spankings. I asked him to give me a severe paddling for purpo0sely pissing on the bathroom floor. The initial punsihment was to be 40 licks as hard a she could hit me on the bare ass. He then gave me about 20 more very hard licks with thiws wooden paddle with holea. My ass had bruises on it for about 2 weeks. I am hoping to get another even more severe paddling from him soon.

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RE: regular punishment - 5/12/2006 7:20:51 PM   
mixielicous


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quote:

ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

If you enjoyed it and look forward to another one then it is play not punishment.

When someone messes up enough to require punishment it's not like oh goody I enjoyed that I want you to punish me harder.


A subs been disgraced when they've messed up enough that their one has to take pychical action over them. It's not playfull it's not enjoyable and it's certaintly not something a sub would look forward to again.




i agree. while it is not as severe as a 'real infraction' type punishment, it is not enjoyable. if it were, as she states, it would be play. the only punishment i feel should be derrived from non play punishment is the pleasure to know that you have learned your wrong.

this is also not a thing i deliberately go out of my way to seek [pissing on the floor on purpose] if i want a spanking, i most certinaly have the privelage to ask for one. i never seek out the cane though.

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