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a potential? - 5/10/2006 5:49:05 PM   
fastlane


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lover, slave and wife,,,but she lives on the opposite coast. Can this work or is this a pipe dream?
Any submissives/slaves? met thier Master like this and did it work?
Curious and thanks

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RE: a potential? - 5/12/2006 9:06:22 AM   
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I never limited my search to my geographical area.  Well...ok, I tried it, for like half an hour, but...uhm...let's just say, I didn't see any real possibilities.

I have met the most wonderful people, and became very very close to one on another coast.  It could have worked, except...I don't know...I think our styles were a bit different.

My Master only lives 100 miles away...(soon to be zero!) but...

Life has a funny way of bringing people into our lives.  Sometimes it really is fate.  Geography is one of the last reasons I'd dismiss someone. 

I say go for it!

Best of luck to you!

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RE: a potential? - 5/12/2006 9:07:51 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

lover, slave and wife,,,but she lives on the opposite coast. Can this work or is this a pipe dream?
Any submissives/slaves? met thier Master like this and did it work?
Curious and thanks

It can work, if both people work to make it so.

However, odds are against them.  And if we're talking about YOU and your own relationships, you've crashed and burned on this before- stay local.

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RE: a potential? - 5/12/2006 9:19:20 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

lover, slave and wife,,,but she lives on the opposite coast. Can this work or is this a pipe dream?
Any submissives/slaves? met thier Master like this and did it work?
Curious and thanks


You a romantic? I am impressed!

I do not think a long distance can work forever. But i was on the West Coast when i met my owners online, they live about an hour from Indy, and here i am as happy as, well as anybody named twicehappy can be.

If you think it is right try it.

There's a saying that pertains to racing but it also applies to life;

"I would rather have raced giving 100% and lost than been a spectator all my life."

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RE: a potential? - 5/12/2006 9:24:52 AM   
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Go for it.  Who knows?  You may be one of the lucky ones.  But, yeah, you're gonna have to, eventually, move near each other.  Otherwise, you're pretty much doomed.

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RE: a potential? - 5/12/2006 2:22:01 PM   
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I tried long distance twice, and it never worked out.  But, thats not to say it won't work for you..Good Luck.

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RE: a potential? - 5/12/2006 2:33:31 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

lover, slave and wife,,,but she lives on the opposite coast. Can this work or is this a pipe dream?
..........


I have seen it work out. If love is there, you make things work, it just takes more effort and a LOT more patience; besides, you have to also factor in who will relocate to whom and how you will see each other to see if you can makes things work and are compatable [on various levels] before one of you moves to the other coast. Thats a big move and decision.

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RE: a potential? - 5/12/2006 2:51:30 PM   
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I did..my owner was in CA..I lived in Mass..literally the opposite coast. It worked out fine. I did A LOT of flying at first. It started with once every two months, then every 4 weeks, then every other week..then finally he just said its time to move lol. I was lucky my son's father was cool with me moving him and I'm an RN so I can work anywhere..have an active nursing license and a pulse and you can get a job as a nurse these days. I went per diem at my job to allow myself the time to fly out there so much. I still got plenty of hours at work to support my kiddo and stuff so really it was a blast. The move was OK..he took care of all the details and I found a job and the rest was history. I say go for it. Be flexible, be patient, keep your eye on your goal. Good luck Kevin..it really can work out!

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ORIGINAL: fastlane

lover, slave and wife,,,but she lives on the opposite coast. Can this work or is this a pipe dream?
Any submissives/slaves? met thier Master like this and did it work?
Curious and thanks

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RE: a potential? - 5/12/2006 3:12:49 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

lover, slave and wife,,,but she lives on the opposite coast. Can this work or is this a pipe dream?
Any submissives/slaves? met thier Master like this and did it work?
Curious and thanks


Kevin what have we told you about jumping into the deep end without your life vest. It might be a good idea to actually MEET this person face to face before you start wedding plans and making composite sketches of what your kids will look like.

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RE: a potential? - 5/12/2006 3:22:16 PM   
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it will work if one of you moves. 

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RE: a potential? - 5/12/2006 6:07:13 PM   
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your wife lives on the opposite coast?  *confused*

becca

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RE: a potential? - 5/12/2006 6:28:54 PM   
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no silly, he met some girl online and has all this new relationship energy going and all his endorphins are going bananas in his body so he is thinking maybe she is The One!, soulmate, lover, wife.

the only problem is so far this is all online (maybe phone too) so everyone is telling him it is probably a good idea to meet in person first before getting all swept up in your feelings and making public announcements because it can be embarrasing to have to say two days later that she wasn't what he thought

PS i mean silly in  a good way and i love your avatar

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RE: a potential? - 5/12/2006 6:33:39 PM   
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um... yeah, i knew that.... i was just, uh... testing the rest of y'all *nodnodnod*

Thanks kisshou!  'Tis Master's avatar- He's a scary bad man.  =P

becca


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RE: a potential? - 5/12/2006 11:01:30 PM   
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Master and I made 14,000 miles disappear between us, if we can do it, anyone can...given enough cash, commitment, honesty, perseverance, understanding, umm lets so what else *grin*

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RE: a potential? - 5/13/2006 12:45:46 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: fastlane

lover, slave and wife,,,but she lives on the opposite coast. Can this work or is this a pipe dream?
Any submissives/slaves? met thier Master like this and did it work?
Curious and thanks


About 11 years ago, my best friend in the world moved from SF, CA to Orlando, Florida where he met Himself. For almost a year, my friend was a huge pain in the ass telling both of us that we should meet.. we'd be perfect for each other.. yadda, yadda, blah, blah. Yeah, right, sure.

Anyway, Himself had to fly to the SF area for a medical conference, so we decided to go ahead meet each other just to shut up our mutual friend. I made the arrangements, we'd meet at a private dungeon but still a public enough place to be safe and both of us thought that should do the trick because neither of us was actually looking for a partner at that point in time. I think we both enjoyed playing the field too much to want to settle down.


It was at this bed and breakfast called House of Differences which had a very small space in the basement equipped with toys, a wheel, spiderweb etc. So, there I was, playing with a male bottom, having a grand time when Himself came down the stairs and just watched me until the session was done. He had a picture of me, so he knew who I was, so that wasn't a problem. Packed up my personal toy bag and bottom boy and I started to go up the stairs where there was a lounge area to relax and talk, get snacks and things of that nature. Himself sort of stopped me on the stairs.. ::which are very narrow:: and asked me if I was a Domme. I said no, I was a sadist, but the man I was playing with was a submissive and had some special needs so serving as his Top was the only way I could meet those needs. He sort of stared at me and said.. 'that's the most submissive thing I've ever heard'.  Damn if I wasn't hooked right then and there. I think my heart literally skipped a beat. Recognition of my true nature.. just like that.. and from a complete stranger. ::chuckles:: The bottom I was playing with stopped on the stairs and turned to look at me. Himself didn't bat an eye, nor did he turn and look at the bottom. He just quietly said to me.. "Send him away.. I want to talk to you."

Fuck. YES, Sir! ::laughs::

To make a long story short, hundreds of hours spent on the phone, ::to the tune of around a $1000.00 a month::  dozens of plane trips.. both of us moved away from our friends and families to Utah, then to MN and here we are, 10 years later, Master/slave, married and digging on each other like we're teenagers in love for the first time.

So, yeah.. it 'can' work.

Celeste

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RE: a potential? - 5/13/2006 5:09:59 AM   
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Kisshou's quote     "the only problem is so far this is all online (maybe phone too) so everyone is telling him it is probably a good idea to meet in person first before getting all swept up in your feelings and making public announcements because it can be embarrasing to have to say two days later that she wasn't what he thought "

Fastlane frowns..."she wasn't what I thought."
Alas, back to the phone lines as Fastlane says "never say never!"   winks and follows up with "You know, I tend to act on impulse and often make a post or begin a thread such as this, then read how ludicrous it is for me to jump to such an elusive expectation. The truth is, that I am a true romantic at heart and when the endomorphins kick in, the chemistry appears right and the conversations seem to be in alignment with the stars, I do believe that this can come true. Unfortunately I am also a realist and know what the odds are as well. I've been in this postition before and it crashed and burned before it got off the ground.
Still, thank you all for your comments and sharing, I loved reading them all.............
Now, where'd my phone card go?, Kevin


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RE: a potential? - 5/13/2006 6:12:47 AM   
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there would be difficulties involved but if you both really want to make it work then with some sacrifices, time and energy it can work.

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RE: a potential? - 5/13/2006 6:37:11 AM   
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Fastlane,

have you ever thought that maybe you are setting yourself up for failure subconsiously. Being a romantic is great unless by being a romantic you set up grandiose expectations for a partner or a relationship that no one can live up to. It can take alot of time and introspection to realize you are sabotaging yourself. Why is being in some kind of committed relationship something you are striving for? That is the hardest thing of all, knowing what you want and what you hope to acheieve by gaining it. Remember happiness comes from within.

luv ya
kiss

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RE: a potential? - 5/13/2006 1:33:00 PM   
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And here I pay a Psychiatrists $150 a session........when you just repeated everything he said during my last session.....You missed your calling and hence forward I'm listening to my bartender.

Luv ya too, kevin

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RE: a potential? - 5/13/2006 2:20:02 PM   
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Kevin, you do know we say these things because, for some reason, we care about you, right?

Keep up the phone calls, arrange a meeting, and please, as impossible as it way seem, try not to think any further than that. You can still show your heart without ripping it out, and displaying it on an altar. There's a middle ground here.

We're here for you.

Cin

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