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Should age matter for a sub - 5/10/2006 6:16:29 PM

painworm

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I would like to know if you think age matters.i am a very young sub/slave.I have been unable to serve as i keep getting knocked back and told i am too young to be a sub or slave.i find it hard to get to grips with and i would like to know if anyone thinks it is true.If there are any Mistresses or Femdoms who would like a young slave please let me know as i really want to learn more and serve x

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/10/2006 6:25:14 PM

LadyHugs

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Dear painworm, Ladies and Gentlemen;

Everybody has personal preferences. For me, mature men have always drawn me.
Younger are fine but, too young--well, I am not comfortable. Besides, I cannot chase after young ones like I use to.

Respectfully submitted,
Lady Hugs

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/10/2006 6:25:48 PM

allspicey

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Ermm...just how old are you? And, personally, I think age matters in anything you do. It's a matter of experience, perspective and self knowledge.

spicey

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/10/2006 6:28:20 PM

CrappyDom

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Pain, in my experience, youth is prized in the scene although that fact is a dirty little secret nobody likes to talk about. So, why do you think it is your youth that has been the cause of your rejection?

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/10/2006 6:41:41 PM

piscess

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I don't feel age should matter as much as maturity.

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/10/2006 6:53:37 PM

MsSonnetMarwood

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As long as you are over the legal age of consent, you are old enough to be a sub. That said ~

Yes. Age matters.

The reason I say that is because just about everyone has their personal preferences when it comes to getting involved in a relationship - age is one factor, as is intelligence, education, what kind of sense of humor, if you're a dog person or a cat person, etc etc. You're going to be too young for some people to consider. Sooner or later, you're going to be too old for some people to consider. It's just the way things are. If you're honest with yourself, you have "age" preferences yourself.

Best advice? Keep plugging. Be real. Be respectful if people consider you too young for them, just as you would be respectful to someone who approached you that you felt was too old for you.

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/10/2006 6:54:16 PM

VvShadowspawnvV

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Hi painworm =)

i will assume you are a legal adult. =)

From what you said, it sounds as though the Mistresses you are interested in may be quite a bit older than you are. i am by no means a dominant person, but i do know that i feel as though i have very little in common with most people who are more than a few years younger than i. (i am 32) The frame of reference i use for my life is very different from that of women 10 or 12 years younger. Our general interests tend to be different, our priorities are different... it isn't that i don't "like" younger people... it's only that we usually don't have enough in common to keep us interested in each other for long.

Wow, i sound like a fuddy-duddy. =) Just my two cents.

becca

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/10/2006 7:04:51 PM

LuckyAlbatross

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Reposted:

Age matters as much as it matters to you.

On many levels, age doesn't really mean much when it comes to the individual. There really are lots of mature, ready, and open younger people who fit in very well with mature, ready and open older people.

That being said, one's age IS something of an indicator about them- the culture you grow up in is a HUGE influence on your interests and perspectives, the politics, diseases, education style, music, fashion, art, books, they all get experienced in different ways in different times at different ages.

That's not a killjoy- I amaze people all the time by bringing up movie and song trivia from decades before I was born (my mother raised me right). And for someone older who ENJOYS discovering new things, a younger person is perfect as a gateway into the next generation of cultural discoveries.

As well there IS something to be said for the stability of the old. Younger people have to go through life stages- finding yourself, job, family, establishing yourself as an adult (a process which is much farther extended than in previous generations, again not a bad thing necessarily). They often don't have the same problems and responsibilities as older people- ex's, kids, health care, etc. There's an element of rapid change and instability in being with someone younger.

Finally, none of these has to matter to any great degree at all. We ARE all still people and May'December relationships are a LOT more common than people believe, and they can work out just great. It's not all just older men in mid-life crisis and younger women sponging. We each individually have our own histories, quirks, problems, perspectives and joys. Age won't take that away and it doesn't make it impossible for a relationship to work.

As long as you keep everything in perspective, and really examine things, as long as you can use the strengths that you have together and become a cohsive unit- then age can be just another part of the person, something you sometimes love and something you sometimes can't stand.

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/10/2006 7:24:28 PM

Contesaluv

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I have an age limit because I know that at one point or another there may be a desire for sex and since I'm a mom it's a little squimish to even think of being with a boy that may be close in age to my son. Also, since one of my objectives in this is to find an LTR with an one sub who will be my main stud and then add others just for service/training/BDSM pleasures then a young stud doesn't fit the bill.

Now, that's not to say that I haven't had my little skips into la la land where I would love to be ravished by someone younger but, too young is just too young. As a responsible Domme I want to take into consideration their long-term happiness too. If they just want training and there will be no sex involved then I think I could muster up what's needed for that as it comes naturally but, I just couldn't cross that line.

Think of it this way. If you had the ideal life with an older Domme and then she up and died on you just because she's older. Where would that leave you? Searching again. Not that this couldn't happen with someone closer to your age but let's face it the probability is stronger with someone older.

Hope this helps.

Wishing you the best in your continued search.

Ah, where were these ones when I was young!...lol

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/10/2006 7:29:10 PM

blackpearl81

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Hmmm
Well.. personally age can play one of two parts. A major role, or a minor one.

A major role because, 2 people 10-15-20 years apart, are quite simply at different stages of life, and therefore want/need/ are seeking different things from their partner (or prospective partner) Now, with that being said, you can simply find out the above, by getting to know someone first, instead of writing them off due to age.

( which....has happened to me more times than i care to count... to be honest with anyone who's reading this)

It IS entirely possible, however, that 2 people, with a sizeable age difference( 10-15 years ) could very well be seeking the same things within a relationship.

Now....on the other hand... age, can play a minor role, because if someone *DOES* take the time to get to know someone, and they in fact *ARE* needing/wanting/seeking something that the other exhibits, then by all means, why shouldn't they go for it?

Personally, my ideal partner, would be between the ages of 28 and 37/8. There are a couple of reasons for this, but they are somewhat personal, and not suitable for a public post.( but if anyone has the curiosity, by all means, contact me and I'll be willing to discuss them) Does that make my search difficult? Yes, for the reason mentioned above. My potential partner may or may not be at the same stage in life that I am.

Hope this helps

*Bp*

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/10/2006 8:28:28 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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ORIGINAL: VvShadowspawnvV

Hi painworm =)

i will assume you are a legal adult. =)

From what you said, it sounds as though the Mistresses you are interested in may be quite a bit older than you are. i am by no means a dominant person, but i do know that i feel as though i have very little in common with most people who are more than a few years younger than i. (i am 32) The frame of reference i use for my life is very different from that of women 10 or 12 years younger. Our general interests tend to be different, our priorities are different... it isn't that i don't "like" younger people... it's only that we usually don't have enough in common to keep us interested in each other for long.

Wow, i sound like a fuddy-duddy. =) Just my two cents.

becca

I have to agree with Shadow on this one..You have to keep me interested mentally first and if there is a huge age difference then chances are we have very little in common......another fuddy -duddy...(grin)..be well..tempting

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/11/2006 12:42:05 AM

BitaTruble

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You are the exact same age I was when I first started in r/t BDSM with a Master who was over 30 years my senior. I was quite content and never looked back once I got a taste of what I had dreamed about for so long. My fantasy's were nothing compared to the reality and I've cherished BDSM as a way of life ever since.

Celeste

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/11/2006 2:39:37 AM

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Age matters, but only because each and every person has their own prefrences.

If you are really looking to serve then maybe you should revisit your profile and aim it more in that direction as at the moment it reads as a "Do me" pain slut and not about service at all. If that is what someone is looking for fine, but many are looking for more than just a two dimentional object and you are possibly limiting your pool of prospective mistresses over much with what you currently profile as.

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/11/2006 2:43:01 AM

littlesubjess

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well ... im 20 yrs old and i have had two Doms so far ... they have both been 59 yrs old ... my Mistress is 53 ....

jess xxx

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/11/2006 3:46:35 AM

slavejali

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I wish a Master had got hold of me in my teens instead of my first husband.

Re age gaps: I've had two partners that were over 20 years older than me and I really liked it...it wasnt till I was with Master who is only 5 years older than me that I realised how amazing it is to be with someone around the same age, so when people are saying they wouldnt take on a younger/older partner than themselves I can appreciate what they are saying now.

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/11/2006 3:59:52 AM

CanadianGuy

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Met my girl online was she was 14, in person for the first time when she was 16, and she's 17 now. I'm 31 this summer.

I've said it in several threads before but I'll say it again. If a person is old enough to experience sex (I'll leave that determination for another thread), they're old enough to explore their submissiveness or dominance. One needn't experience vanilla sex for a predetermined amount of time before it's "okay" for them to follow their instincts.

Age is just a number on your driver's licence and matters very little in terms of sexuality.

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/11/2006 5:58:23 AM

littlesubjess

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i could not agree more CanadianGuy

jess xxx

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/11/2006 6:28:23 AM

littleone35

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For me age matters but just because i happen to like older men. I like men with a lot of experience.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/11/2006 7:36:12 AM

SweetDommes

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Just a point - age does not correlate directly with experience (with regard to the lifestyle).

I do agree, however, that we prefer guys who are closer in age to ourselves for compatability and long-term relationship reasons, and we're more likely to go older than younger (our age range has always been 2 years younger than Holly, 6 years older than me, which gives us a 10 year age range).

Karen

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RE: Should age matter for a sub - 5/11/2006 11:38:01 AM

sweetsubie

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I think for some Doms they are just being careful, if it turned out you were younger than you said you were and a Dom had got involved with you it would be a very bad thing for you, but in my opinion no age doesnt matter i too am a very young sub, but that has never really been an issue for me, be patient you will find some one who you can relate with regaurdless of age.

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