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fastlane -> RE: Should age matter for a sub (5/11/2006 12:15:01 PM)
Yes...I don't care what they say SIZE does matter!...........oh, you asked does age matter?...Hell no! Kevin measures again, just to be sure.

cajingrl -> RE: Should age matter for a sub (5/11/2006 12:44:21 PM)
as for myself, i find it very difficult to find a Dom that wants an older sub/slave. i basically look in the age range from 40 on up....and i get a lot of emails from the younger doms, say in there 20's saying that "they love older women" geeeeeshhhhh.. what's a girl to do???? i would really like to meet someone that i can talk to on an intellectual level and be friends with first, so i guess that age does matter...

Bearlee -> RE: Should age matter for a sub (5/11/2006 1:09:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CanadianGuy Met my girl online was she was 14, in person for the first time when she was 16, and she's 17 now. I'm 31 this summer. I've said it in several threads before but I'll say it again. If a person is old enough to experience sex (I'll leave that determination for another thread), they're old enough to explore their submissiveness or dominance. One needn't experience vanilla sex for a predetermined amount of time before it's "okay" for them to follow their instincts. Age is just a number on your driver's licence and matters very little in terms of sexuality. "Age is just a number on your driver's licence and matters very little in terms of sexuality."? Hmmmmmmmm Let's see, when she was 14, you were 28? Here in the states you'd be considered an internet preditor, me thinks... Age may only be a number...but, IMHO the sexuality part makes a HUGE difference when we're talking about children. Even at 16 or 17, personally I find someone in their 30s too old. Having said that, I don't have any trouble whatsoever with an ADULT being with someone 30+ years older (or younger...as long as that person, too, is an ADULT). So I guess for me...age DOES matter.

slavegirl18666 -> RE: Should age matter for a sub (5/11/2006 1:39:11 PM)
I'm 19 and Master is 40, and I'm VERY happy with our situation. We are very great together. We relate well with one another, our age doesn't cause any problems. There is the mental maturity, you have to be able to relate with one another and be mature enough for the situation you are going to enter. You'll find someone who you can relate with who age wont matter to...

akisha -> RE: Should age matter for a sub (5/11/2006 1:59:58 PM)
I think emotional maturity is a lot more pertinent then actual age. I didn't have sex until i was over the age of sixteen but i met my first Master at the age of 17, He was 31. I kinda just jumped in with both feet hehe. But i didn't feel i was ready to take on the responsibilities of a sexual relationship until I was 16. I was very curious and started petting and such at 15 but not before that. I really wasn't that interested in guys in that way. Maybe i was a late bloomer. There is a fine line between what some will consider consenting and what some will consider child abuse though. So you have to becareful of that. Each Country and some states are even different on the age of consent. Here in Canada. you can be sexually active at the age of 14 if your partner is no more the 2 years older then you. The legal age of consent is 16 on the norm though. I don't think knowing you are submissive at an early age is a bad thing. It gives you more time for self discouvery. I bounced between accepting my submissiveness and trying to stay completely nilla for a few years. I'm happy i started the discouvery path at 17 and not at 50. For me it means i've had the joys of knowing and finally accepting myself that much earlier in life. Unfortunately it doesn't mean I've been any luckier in finding a Master just for me, then some of the subs that didn't discouver themselves until later in life. But such is life. The learning is alot of fun too. smiles editted to flog the spelling gnomes

caitlyn -> RE: Should age matter for a sub (5/11/2006 3:38:54 PM)
This will probably be an opinion that isn't very popular, but I feel very strongly that age is an important factor in this, and feel even more strongly that people my age or younger should not get involved in serious D/s relationships or seriously committed relationship, especially with older people. This from someone that dates almost exclusively older men. I just don't think the risk is worth it. It's just so easy to get that idol worship of an older person, and mistake that for something else. Yes, you can say, that if a person is ready, etc ... but the problem with that theory is the difference between thinking you are ready (which everyone does) and knowing you are ready, because you have a wealth of life experiences to back you up. Reading slavejali's post (who is a very good poster in my opinion), she indicated that she had wished a master had gotten a hold of her instead of her first husband. I would counter that by a) asking if her bad experience had perhaps shaped her into the person that today can see the value in what she has, b) how does she know that she wouldn't have chosen an equally bad master, instead of a bad husband. This is one of these issue, that for me, makes me weight the risk verses the gain. A young person may think they are ready, but they may just as easily be convincing themselves that they are. Sure, lots of young people have made a relationship like this work, as you can clearly see from this thread ... but I happen to know quite a few people that have had entirely different experiences, even though at the time, they were with the "love of their life", and just couldn't deny those feelings. I have one friend that threw away a promising future, because she "knew" she was ready. Is it really worth that risk? Is it worth playing that sort of dangerous game with your future? In the end, I think it's smarter to just not take those kind of chances. It's going to be there for you in a few years ... after you have lived a little ... after you have taken care of more important priorities, like education.

Najakcharmer -> RE: Should age matter for a sub (5/11/2006 3:49:03 PM)
There's chronological age, and there's emotional age. There's some young'uns more emotionally mature and ready to be in a D/s relationship than people twice their physical age, and there's some folks who have a lot of candles on their birthday cake who are never going to grow up and be able to assume adult responsibilities, including being in a healthy adult relationship. With age also comes practical issues such as health and longevity. If you know you are going to outlive your partner, there are steps that are wise to take and thoughts that are wise to think before entering into a lifetime committment. Ultimately there is no single formula into which you can plug the nuimbers. D/s is about the relationship, and relationships are about the people involved. Numbers and statistics cannot encompass or describe the whole of a person.

sublizzie -> RE: Should age matter for a sub (5/11/2006 3:53:05 PM)
As an older submissive I have 2 rules about a potential Dom. 1.) He must not be old enough to be my father. (Incest play is just not my thing.) and 2.) He must not be young enough for me to have given birth to him. Why? I really don't want some young man who is furious with his mother and thinks I might be a great punching bag. That's me. If I were Domme I would probably be concerned about being with someone who wanted a "Mommy". Some people are into that, not saying you are, but I can't do that stuff.

Pezzle -> RE: Should age matter for a sub (5/10/2007 9:55:44 PM)
I'd like to add my two cents. The man I am with right now is twice my age and has made things 'interesting'. I feel I had dropped the D/s bomb too early -- though I know that's what he wants too, he feels kind of afraid to go forth with it sometimes. Or is still fidgety should I say. He is afraid that I am "bored with vanilla sex" so to speak and that is why. No, no I'm not and that's not my reason. But becuase I'm 19 (goin' on 20) he's afraid to really jump into it and get back into the lifestyle becuase he doesn't want to scare me away from him. He says so much can change in a person's mind between 18 and 22 that it's hard for him to even be sure I won't leave him It hurts for him to say it but he's right to be cautious. I'm slightly depressed and rambling at this point, I'm sorry. EDIT: Also, I am replying in this ancient thread because I don't want to create another one. Sorry.

Sirandlittle1 -> RE: Should age matter for a sub (5/11/2007 4:52:27 AM)
hello painworm for me, i would not mind younger in a play partner, providing we were attracted to each other, but what about after play? What do you have in common with a person you are twice the age of? In my experience, you change as you get older. You just evolve, grow, become more complete, (hopefully) and i just dont get that vibe from say, someone 20 yrs younger than i. Plus, anything too close in age to my own children, squicks me. But your thread has the feel to it, that it should go in the personals section. Goodluck quote: ORIGINAL: painworm I would like to know if you think age matters.i am a very young sub/slave.I have been unable to serve as i keep getting knocked back and told i am too young to be a sub or slave.i find it hard to get to grips with and i would like to know if anyone thinks it is true.If there are any Mistresses or Femdoms who would like a young slave please let me know as i really want to learn more and serve x

Celeste43 -> RE: Should age matter for a sub (5/11/2007 3:17:07 PM)
There is no should in the human heart. Telling people they should or shouldn't feel the way they do is a useless thing to waste your time with. Just as you would object if someone told you that you shouldn't be submissive, others will object when told what they shouldn't do. You got rejected, deal with it. Demonstrate class and maturity and you will attract someone worthwhile.

WiseCracknSadist -> RE: Should age matter for a sub (5/11/2007 4:53:46 PM)
Everything matters. It's just a mater of to what extent it effects you and those around you.

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