strangedesire -> RE: Naked/part clothed Pics of Dommes (5/6/2011 8:26:02 AM)
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ORIGINAL: subcurio Ok, I guess, in my mind, clothing is part of domination in, if I am naked and the domme isnt, then there is already an inequality in power. You're assuming that you're in some sort of power dynamic with a profile. Really, you aren't. If you negotiate a power dynamic with someone (even online, I guess) and she does things within that power dynamic that put her at a disadvantage, you might want to question that. *feminist hat* The power dynamics between female dominants and male submissives can be really complicated. In many ways, when you assume that her appearance is tailored make you happy, you show your own privileged and the cultural power you are accustomed to by virtue of being male. (Even with lesbians. Why would they care what you think?) It's much more complicated than even this, of course, but I'll save it for another post. quote:
The reward thing? If I am good, or take a level of punishment, then to be allowed to view (yes we are visual creatures) or touch is a pleasure allowed by the domme. What if she enjoys being touched? What if she enjoys being looked at? You're framing your expectations in terms of what gives you pleasure. (And whether or not you deserve that pleasure.) A good dominant is is generally just as motivated by her own pleasure, if not more so. Asking why it makes her happy will yield better answers than asking why she would do this to you. Some of them are fakes, of course, in the sense that they are scammer profiles, or men hoping to talk dirty with lesbians.
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