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Mistress for Sale - 5/6/2011 6:07:17 PM   
Noosed


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Status: offline 		Do all Mistresses do this for money?

Is there anyone who is interested in just a realtionship?
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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/6/2011 7:01:59 PM   
PeonForHer


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ORIGINAL: Noosed

Do all Mistresses do this for money?

Is there anyone who is interested in just a realtionship?


There are plenty, Noosed, but it takes a some experience to be able easily to distinguish those who are interested primarily in money from those who aren't. It doesn't take long to get that experience, though.

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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/6/2011 7:12:56 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Yes, there are.  They're known as lifestyle Dommes, as opposed to financial Dommes.  That said, you may want to change that part of your profile where you refer to "mutual benefit" because that sounds like you want a financial arrangement.

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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/6/2011 7:34:18 PM   
cloudboy


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There are plenty


That would not be my word choice.

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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/6/2011 7:41:38 PM   
mummyman321


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Status: offline 		In my experience on CM, I would say there are plenty of both but I have run into more who are lifestyle versus financial. But that is most likely due to that is what I seek and what I look for. Its rather easy to spot the financial ones.

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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/6/2011 9:06:24 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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Status: offline 		Noosed-I'm a lifestyle Domme. I am interested in human relationships first, D/s bdsm 2nd as are most lifestyle Dommes here. I read the narrative of your profile; you automatically disqualified yourself because you present indiscriminately as kink and nothing more...then you pound the last nail in your coffin with the unflattering statement "any Mistress" as though you don't give a single fig who a woman is as long as she satisfies your kink. It's no surprise you're only finding Pro-Dommes. You would do yourself (and every woman you contact) a great service to read and heed every last word of the FAQ in Ask A Mistress here before proceeding.

< Message edited by MistressDarkArt -- 5/6/2011 9:13:41 PM >

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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/6/2011 9:55:34 PM   
Killerangel


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ORIGINAL: Noosed

Do all Mistresses do this for money?

Is there anyone who is interested in just a realtionship?


Your profile is about blank and you really don't seem interested in a relationship by saying in your profile that you are looking for ANY Mistress. Bleah. You said anyone will do, so you are hearing from anyone. The any ones who want your money. The women who would want anything else, like a man for a relationship, won't want anything to do with you.

It's not that hard to figure out. I wouldn't touch someone with a ten foot pole who had nothing to say except he'd take any Dominant woman at all.

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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/6/2011 10:00:57 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		There are quite a few lifestylers. However, they are in far higher demand than the financial Dommes, so they are way less likely to contact you unless you are exceptional. Blank profile an sparse information doesnt make you stand out, an so the ones who arent picky and who might even mass mail because they ont really care who you are as long as you play along are more likely to contact you than someone interested in a relationship.

But, we do exist

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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/6/2011 10:02:22 PM   
BonesFromAsh


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Noosed

Do all Mistresses do this for money?

Is there anyone who is interested in just a realtionship?


Blah, blah, blah....

That's what I got from your profile. "Anything goes"....why not paying for your kink? If you want more, why not try to articulate your needs and focus on being someone a Woman would want to be with....not just "any" mistress.

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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/6/2011 11:25:12 PM   
SexyBossyBBW


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quote:

...dominant female anything goes.
Looking for any Mistress for mutual benefit
If you, at 59 years of age, don't realize what might be the problem with these statements, as the sum total of your profile, I doubt people doing it for money, is your biggest issue.

You say "anything goes," and "Mistress for mutual benefit." I guess, you didn't quite mean "mutual," or "anything goes" huh?! Male sex toys are plentiful, as far as I'm concerned, so yah may need a stand out factor. M

< Message edited by SexyBossyBBW -- 5/6/2011 11:30:27 PM >

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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/6/2011 11:35:50 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Lifestyle here, too.  I've said that so many times in the last four years on these boards it's almost gotten ridiculous.

OP, I'm not trying to be mean to you, but unless you're bringing something more than "sex toy" to the table, the younger set is going to beat you out of the running on that score unless you are kick ass fine.  It is way too easy for a lifestyle Dominant (any woman really) to find a male body to play with if that is what she wants.  You'd have to be the hottest damn near sixty year old on the planet if you're trying to appeal to women based only on the sexual play partner angle.


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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/7/2011 12:48:34 AM   
CynthiaWVirginia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Noosed

Do all Mistresses do this for money?

Is there anyone who is interested in just a realtionship?


LOL, about the money issue.  Noosed, after being here at CollarMe in the chatrooms and mailroom for five years...all you have found are ones who want your money?  Within my first year here I met dozens at least once, no money was exchanged, no gifts bought.  People from CM sometimes do that.

What you get depends on what you are looking for, as well as what you have to offer.  If you want a relationship with vanilla type dates, hearts and flowers as well as kink and/or D/s, then make your profile reflect this.  If all you are offering is for someone to make use of your dangly bits...there are scores of men in my area that could offer the same and many who would drive or fly to my state just because I am a kinky female, not because they like me as a person or even find me attractive.  Even in my tiny town, some of the kinky guys offering no strings sex are in their low twenties and thirties, just saying, yanno?  The relationships offered by most men who place ads at kink sites...I would not define them as "relationships".  The term fuckbuddy would cover it better. 

Yes, I am looking for a relationship.  My definition of one.

(Except that I am taking a break from looking for several months.)

Read the FAQ, and Google for BDSM munch groups in your area.  If you are not interested in those who expect tribute, financial domination, or payment...you can block these people from writing to you again.  If they seem too extreme for your tastes, just tell them that you are not compatible.  Good luck in your search.

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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/7/2011 3:05:31 AM   
Ariane23


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Status: offline 		I do hope this guy is listening. I had a glance and could only say FFS, do you have any idea how many clones of that profile on on this site...?

What's worse is when they write to you and you ask them to talk about themselves. Some rise to it and talk about their personality and interests. More get stumped and give a physical description.

If you're looking for a relationship, tell something of who you are, your likes and dislikes outside of bdsm as well as your interests within bdsm. A random dick that wants playing with is of little interest, they are far too common.

The scammers will pounce on you, because it is easy to see that no one else will. Including your dream Domme who enjoys many of the same things you do, but won't know that from looking at your profile.

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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/7/2011 10:26:21 AM   
LadyNTrainer


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Noosed

Do all Mistresses do this for money?


No.  There are far more non pros than pros in the real life BDSM community.


quote:

Is there anyone who is interested in just a realtionship?


Yes, but not with you. 

You have some huge red flags on your profile that identify you as someone that a lifestyler would probably NOT want to spend time around.  I'm honestly not surprised that only the pros are interested; you're just not offering anything that is the least bit fun or appealing to someone who is looking for a human relationship.   You appear to be indiscriminately looking for anyone who will have an immediate shallow encounter with you, with absolutely no interest in who she is as a person, getting to know her as a human being, or sharing your real life and non kinky interests.  

In short, you seem to be looking for a drive-through McDomme's who will serve you what you want on a toasted sesame-seed bun.  Except you don't want to pay for it, and you also don't want to bother getting to know someone as a human being before jumping right to the kinky sex part.  Ain't gonna work.  Either compensate a professional fairly for catering to your kink, or seriously revise your profile and be prepared to spend a lot of time making friends, dating, socializing and attending local Munches and gatherings to get to know people as human beings. 


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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/9/2011 11:58:11 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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Status: offline 		Anybody notice a common theme in these 'why can't I find a Mistress to do this or that to me for free' threads?

The OPs get all sorts of useful feedback on their profiles and approaches. If they actually took some of this to heart they might have a chance at being successful connecting with someone other than scammers and professionals, but days, weeks, months or years go by and absolutely nothing changes on their profile. They still have the same crappy pictures, same do-me narratives, and same kinky laundry lists as though any lifestyle dominant worth her salt would give a flying fart they're into diapers, llamas, large rubber balls and buckets of eels. I wonder what would happen if nobody responded to them when they post here? They eventually disappear into the woodwork no matter what, so maybe it would save some effort?


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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/10/2011 1:56:38 AM   
Delilya


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Status: offline 		Never mind, you've received all the good advice you need.

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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/10/2011 3:27:35 AM   
LadyConstanze


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Noosed

Do all Mistresses do this for money?

Is there anyone who is interested in just a realtionship?



So you got this irresistible profile, as several people have mentioned...

quote:

Looking for dominant female anything goes.

Looking for any Mistress for mutual benefit.

Very interested in being a sex slave or toy.


Please do tell me why I would want a short, near obese sex toy of advanced age who obviously isn't interested in me at all but just wants to have his kinks on? You mean we should be delighted that you want "any Mistress" as long as she gives you sessions that would cost between $200 and $350 for free?

I guess I should put an add out that reads

"Looking for a repair man.

Looking for any repair guy for mutual benefit (your benefit would be that you get to do all the odd jobs in my house)

Very interested in somebody who can do wiring, plumbing and building"

Then I come back and complain loudly if nobody is interested or the people who approach me actually want to get paid...

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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/10/2011 3:37:33 AM   
BonesFromAsh


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

Anybody notice a common theme in these 'why can't I find a Mistress to do this or that to me for free' threads?

The OPs get all sorts of useful feedback on their profiles and approaches. If they actually took some of this to heart they might have a chance at being successful connecting with someone other than scammers and professionals, but days, weeks, months or years go by and absolutely nothing changes on their profile. They still have the same crappy pictures, same do-me narratives, and same kinky laundry lists as though any lifestyle dominant worth her salt would give a flying fart they're into diapers, llamas, large rubber balls and buckets of eels. I wonder what would happen if nobody responded to them when they post here? They eventually disappear into the woodwork no matter what, so maybe it would save some effort?


You're right...same shit, different day.

It reminds me of this little child throwing his temper tantrum... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KpSfThUv_pc ...no matter how many times we walk around the corner, they follow!

You're also right that the best response would be no response...but sometimes it's hard to not poke at them just a bit.

Of course, that could be playing right into their game of "negative attention is better than no attention."

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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/10/2011 9:10:24 AM   
Zonie63


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

Anybody notice a common theme in these 'why can't I find a Mistress to do this or that to me for free' threads?



Yes, I've noticed them. My impression is that such questions may be misdirected when addressed in this forum as opposed to the section where all the profiles are located. There are worlds of difference between the profiles one sees and those who post on the message board. But given that they're connected to the same site, it's easy for a newcomer to make the association.





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RE: Mistress for Sale - 5/10/2011 10:16:33 AM   
MistressDarkArt


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It reminds me of this little child throwing his temper tantrum... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KpSfThUv_pc ...no matter how many times we walk around the corner, they follow!


That was hilarious! Not so funny when the 'child' is in his 40s or 50s...

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