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fenikscro -> I feel so ugh... (5/7/2011 10:06:07 AM)
Agh, I feel so down now.[&:] Basically, I usually see my Master and Mistress trough most of the saturday but not on Sunday, and a really good friend of mine has arranged a dinner etc. for his birthday on Sunday and asked me of course to come by and I naturally said yes and in 99% of weekends it wouldn't be a problem. Today, however my Mistress phoned me and said that they won't be able to see me today and that I should come by on Sunday, due to arrangements with my friend I asked if I can be excused this time and my Masters allowed me freedom to go where I want tommorow. I don't think I have done anything particularly wrong, but damn few hours after that phone call I feel like utter shit, the feeling that I basically said 'no' to my Masters and picked something else over them, jesus. [:(] I'm not a particularly emotional person, and ugh I never felt this way over something that is rationally a minor thing, just had to share this somewhere and this place seemed appropriate. Time to suck it up and carry on though, I had free choice on this one.

lizi -> RE: I feel so ugh... (5/7/2011 10:10:16 AM)
I think it says something positive about you that you chose to be a person of your word and stick with the prior commitment you made instead of blowing your friend off for your owners. You had no way of knowing they would change things up.

fenikscro -> RE: I feel so ugh... (5/7/2011 10:17:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lizi I think it says something positive about you that you chose to be a person of your word and stick with the prior commitment you made instead of blowing your friend off for your owners. You had no way of knowing they would change things up. Aye, as I said I don't think I did anything wrong and in fact sticking to prior agreements and my word has always been my modus operandi with my Masters and with anyone else for that matter, but I still do feel unexpectedly shitty, hence why I'm posting here. :)

Rule -> RE: I feel so ugh... (5/7/2011 10:18:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fenikscro Agh, I feel so down now.[&:] Time's up! You have had your break. Now start to feel up again, as such is your duty. Hop, hop!

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: I feel so ugh... (5/7/2011 10:18:29 AM)
Simple answer... if it ain't a big deal to your Owners, it shouldn't be a big deal to you. Period.

fenikscro -> RE: I feel so ugh... (5/7/2011 10:28:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rule quote: ORIGINAL: fenikscro Agh, I feel so down now.[&:] Time's up! You have had your break. Now start to feel up again, as such is your duty. Hop, hop! quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA Simple answer... if it ain't a big deal to your Owners, it shouldn't be a big deal to you. Period. Thanks, those comments are exactly what I needed. :)

leadership527 -> RE: I feel so ugh... (5/7/2011 10:35:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fenikscro ...after that phone call I feel like utter shit, the feeling that I basically said 'no' to my Masters Really? I didn't hear any "no" in any of this. What I heard was a request for direction. An answer given to that request. And obedience to the answer. What am I missing here? And I'd like to also highlight MasterSlaveLA's answer: imple answer... if it ain't a big deal to your Owners, it shouldn't be a big deal to you. Period. In my world, doing anything different would be borderline disobedience. I determine Carol's priorities and values. I determine what is right and what is wrong. If I say "It's not a big deal" and Carol says, "Yes it is." then we have a problem. If she persisted in that very independent viewpoint, she would no longer be my property.

fenikscro -> RE: I feel so ugh... (5/7/2011 10:37:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: leadership527 quote: ORIGINAL: fenikscro ...after that phone call I feel like utter shit, the feeling that I basically said 'no' to my Masters Really? I didn't hear any "no" in any of this. What I heard was a request for direction. An answer given to that request. And obedience to the answer. What am I missing here? My own delusions apparently. [:)] edit: Anyway, I got worked up over nothing pointlessly, all fine now. Dunno where this irrational emotions came from. Thanks forum. :)

leadership527 -> RE: I feel so ugh... (5/7/2011 10:39:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fenikscro My own delusions apparently. [:)] Well OK, I was TRYING to find a polite way to say, "You're making this up in your own head." LOL

DesFIP -> RE: I feel so ugh... (5/7/2011 12:23:34 PM)
You didn't pick someone else over them. They didn't give you any advance notice that they wouldn't be available on Saturday and would on Sunday. You made a promise and are keeping it, proving you are a person worthy of trust and respect. Think of it this way, if you were the sort of person who didn't keep promises, you wouldn't keep them to anyone including this couple. The fact that you do keep your word, to everyone is a great part of why they have this relationship with you. Yes it's a pity you can't see them also. But are they available during the week for dinner or even just a coffee meet?

CalifChick -> RE: I feel so ugh... (5/8/2011 9:45:39 AM)
Is this a distance thing? I'm having a hard time understanding why you couldn't see your Master/Mistress in the morning or at lunch time, then go over to the friend's place for the evening party. Cali

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