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EternalDecent -> 5 years ago (5/8/2011 2:45:19 AM)
In high school you were constantly asked where do you think you'll be in 5, 10, or 20 years. I can almost guarantee you that no ones answer involved BDSM and submission. 5 years ago I had barely discovered this lifestyle, but now here I am finding myself getting deeper and deeper into it. Does anyone else find them self in the state of reflecting on how they got to where they are right now, in terms of submission?

FelineFae -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 2:49:08 AM)
Unless it was already a part of their life. Right ? Five years ago i was in Soule, learning how much i dislike full-cover masks.

ResidentSadist -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 3:11:50 AM)
Your enthusiasm is refreshing. However, although you may have just discovered the lifestyle recently, it has been here for a long, long time. Long before I was born in 1955 the leather lifestyle was already in full bloom. The leathermen started after the world war long before most of us were born. Thanks to Bettie Paige, it was even popular in the hetro media more than 40 years ago when I was in high school and had my first submissive masochist. Take it from an old gray dog that got into the lifestyle at age 15 . . . it never grows old my friend. Enjoy your adventures and your youth.

EternalDecent -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 3:53:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist Your enthusiasm is refreshing. However, although you may have just discovered the lifestyle recently, it has been here for a long, long time. Long before I was born in 1955 the leather lifestyle was already in full bloom. The leathermen started after the world war long before most of us were born. Thanks to Bettie Paige, it was even popular in the hetro media more than 40 years ago when I was in high school and had my first submissive masochist. Take it from an old gray dog that got into the lifestyle at age 15 . . . it never grows old my friend. Enjoy your adventures and your youth. I like that...not the old and gray part mind you, but I suppose that is a part of aging. Hopefully I might be able to keep reflecting on how it is I got to this point, because what is the future without the past?

Charnegui -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 4:11:18 AM)
Take it from an 'old' newcomer, 5 years ago I didn't know, but it is what I have been looking for subconsiensly. To me it felt like a homecoming. And RS; being more likely of your era [;)] I know what you're talking about. I still believe a lot of women are suppressing their sexual beings,as result of morality standards in the 50's,as it should be supposed to.Even the twenties were more roaring...... But that's a different discussion. [:)] edited for spelling

Kana -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 5:53:51 AM)
Hmmmmm, five years ago I was the in house curmudgeon. Checks self. Yep, like a Bob Segar song, I'm still the same.

OwnedFemaleFlesh -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 6:10:49 AM)
Well my answer might not have included BDSM, but my desires definitely would have! To the OP, I take it you never fantasised about D/s or s&m when you were in school then? owned xxx

littlewonder -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 6:21:13 AM)
no sorry I never think about how I got to this place. It's just who I am and never give it a second thought.

Palliata -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 7:42:12 AM)
Yeah you might want to work on your guarantees. I collared my first right after my 16th birthday, though to be fair I refrained from answering school questions with that [;)]. As for wondering how I got there, honestly no, I rarely think about that at all. I was born, I became a dom, I pursued that lifestyle, and eventually I ended up 6000 miles from home teaching visiting beauties English and other valuable skills. Such is the way of things.

Ariane23 -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 8:16:46 AM)
5 years ago... I started moving away from the scene to put more energy into my business. I'm finding time to work it back in now.

leadership527 -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 8:17:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: EternalDecent Does anyone else find them self in the state of reflecting on how they got to where they are right now, in terms of submission? Well, not in terms of submission -- me being male dominant and all. But yeah, if someone had asked me 5 years ago whether I would see my wife as owned property I'd have looked at them like they'd just landed their spacecraft from venus.

IrishMist -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 8:52:49 AM)
quote: I can almost guarantee you that no ones answer involved BDSM and submission. and you would be wrong

NocturnalStalker -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 12:26:00 PM)
Five years ago I was hitting on the hot French teacher.

EternalDecent -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 12:41:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OwnedFemaleFlesh Well my answer might not have included BDSM, but my desires definitely would have! To the OP, I take it you never fantasised about D/s or s&m when you were in school then? owned xxx My fantasies back in school, though I cannot remember exactly, I'm sure were nothing more then seeing a picture of someone in bondage and imagining myself in that situation.

aromanholiday -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 12:43:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: EternalDecent Does anyone else find them self in the state of reflecting on how they got to where they are right now, in terms of submission? Well, in a sense. When I finally figured out there were people like me out there, I had already spent many fruitless years trying to submit to non-dominant men, because I didn't know any other sort of man existed. So when I realized dominants existed, I wondered why it had taken me so long to figure out that they were out there. If I had known that earlier I could have saved myself so much trouble and several unsatisfying relationships.

EternalDecent -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 12:52:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: aromanholiday quote: ORIGINAL: EternalDecent Does anyone else find them self in the state of reflecting on how they got to where they are right now, in terms of submission? When I finally figured out there were people like me out there, I had already spent many fruitless years trying to submit to non-dominant men, because I didn't know any other sort of man existed. So when I realized dominants existed, I wondered why it had taken me so long to figure out that they were out there. If I had known that earlier I could have saved myself so much trouble and several unsatisfying relationships. Similar experience on my end. I was so desperate for submission that I tried relentlessly to introduce an ex girlfriend out of high school into the lifestyle. It's difficult to introduce something to someone when they are either not interested in it or simply haven't the slightest idea as to what to do, which was the case with this ex girlfriend. It seemed as though I was telling her what to do and how to act, topping from the bottom.

DaddysInkedSlut -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 3:16:03 PM)
FR~ Five years ago I was in a long term loving m/s relationship that I thought was heading towards marriage. Did I think I would be here today, single and now friends with my former owner and his new wife? HELL NO! Lol But I have to admit I am in a healthier and better place than I thought I could be 5yrs ago as well.

DomImus -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 4:16:20 PM)
My answer never included bdsm or bondage but not because I didn't think about it daily. I was 18 before I met anyone who was also into all of this like I was. I guess I differ from most on this site in that this isn't a lifestyle for me... it's just my life and who I am. I really don't reflect on it any more than I reflect on breathing or my eye color.

HannahLynHeather -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 6:43:56 PM)
5 years ago i was a hooker and painslut for hire, strung out on coke. i knew then that my place was somewhere in this lifestyle (pukes a bit in my mouth). i've known since i was 19. hannah lynn

soul2share -> RE: 5 years ago (5/8/2011 7:57:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Charnegui Take it from an 'old' newcomer, 5 years ago I didn't know, but it is what I have been looking for subconsiensly. To me it felt like a homecoming. And RS; being more likely of your era [;)] I know what you're talking about. I still believe a lot of women are suppressing their sexual beings,as result of morality standards in the 50's,as it should be supposed to.Even the twenties were more roaring...... But that's a different discussion. [:)] edited for spelling Char, I'm just like you....for me it was 6 years ago that I discovered the whole lifestyle. Liberating is the term I use......for so long, I thought that I was the strange one......that there was something wrong about me. Imagine the relief I felt finding out that I'm perfectly normal! (Well, as normal as I've ever been, anyway!)

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