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aromanholiday -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 6:07:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance Eyes Ns... wonders who switched his brain and continues to stare at him opened mouth and drooling Perhaps it's the new title? [;)] (grats, NocStalk) I was lurking when NS first started to post. Didn't his consistent and machine-gun fast humorous quips immediately clue you in to the brain capacity? You can't make those sorts of retorts with even a normal level of intelligence between the ears. I never questioned his mind; I just questioned his game. But in two weeks that was perfectly clear: total world domination. Alas, there are things that his native brilliance "seems" not yet to encompass. Like the idea that the following bit of hotness is not A Very Good Thing (well, for some people): Wouldn't that mean that they expertly took control of your mental state and managed to diminish it to their liking? Leaving them less human and more like an amp that they can turn up and turn down to their amusement? Effectively stripping you away of free-thought?

SpiritedRadiance -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 6:13:07 AM)
The Comment was more towards, this is the first time Ive EVER seen him post something that not only pertained to the topic at hand but wasnt made in a humorous way. While I understand the quick wit necessary to make most of his remarks, I had pegged him into a category of some of our more colorful posters, who usually only make humorous comments and nothing more... I was stunned into silence. (the drooling was more from staring with my mouth open then the fact that hes .."pretty")

GreedyTop -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 6:24:53 AM)
what SR said...

sunshinemiss -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 6:44:44 AM)
Nah, NS has been doing more wisdom-y things for a couple of weeks. Actually impressive at times... best, sunshine

SpiritedRadiance -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 7:12:20 AM)
Ive been a bit busy the last few weeks so I havent seen it until now.

NocturnalStalker -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 8:23:35 AM)
quote: If you dislike my opinion start a thread on it, not interrupt a thread about someone needing help. I agree with the message, not with the messenger.

IrishMist -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 9:21:58 AM)
quote: A Master or Dom should always care for and eventually love his slave, it is at the forefront of his duties to her Perhaps in your little corner of reality, this may be true. However, there are submissives and slaves out there who neither desire, nor expect that their Dominant/Owner should 'care for or love' them.

Iamsemisweet -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 11:30:56 AM)
OP here. I just thought I would fill you all in on the rest of the story. After reading your answers, analyzing my relationship with the dom in question, and thinking about my goals in life, I decided the relationship was just not going to work. I don't remember joining the Marines, so I didn't really want to be "broken down"; I am kind of a catch (really); and the guy was just no damn fun. Our relationship consisted of me buying him coffee at Starbucks and him dropping by my house once in a while for sex. Although, lately he had started to demand that I take him out for an expensive steak dinner also. So, he got kicked to the curb. What I have learned is that there is a difference between being submissive and being a chump. Then, there is just plain stupid, which I am afraid is where answering an ad in Craigslist from a Dom falls. I am happy to know that his rude and inappropriate behavior and comments are not a hallmark of a D/s relationship. Otherwise, I would just have to be glad that I am a boring vanilla type person. So W, sorry it didn't work out, but you can buy your own fucking Mochas from now on.

kalikshama -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 11:34:18 AM)
quote: What I have learned is that there is a difference between being submissive and being a chump. WIN! I've met some great guys here, don't give up and do have standards.

NocturnalStalker -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 1:25:46 PM)
quote: The Comment was more towards, this is the first time Ive EVER seen him post something that not only pertained to the topic at hand but wasnt made in a humorous way. I'm a lot more complex than you think!

crazyml -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 1:52:12 PM)
Quality outcome. Good luck, you'll do fine!

Awareness -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 3:58:09 PM)
Based on that description, he wasn't a Dom.

Rochsub2009 -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 6:20:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Awareness Based on that description, he wasn't a Dom. Actually, he was kind of her financial Dom. She financed his Starbucks habit, and he had started having her buy him steak dinners. And she got little/nothing in return. I've seen plenty of women pull this off (financial Dommes), but it's unusual to find a successful financial Dom.

HannahLynHeather -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 6:32:09 PM)
quote: Based on that description, he wasn't a Dom. by who's definition? your's? when did you get elected pontifex maximus of doms? believe me, my idea of a real dom is not yours or anybody else's, but that doesn't make my ideal dom any less a dom than any other. you can give good advice when you stop the fucking "one-twue-way" shit oh unaware one. hannah lynn

Awareness -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 9:00:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather quote: Based on that description, he wasn't a Dom. by who's definition? your's? Yes, mine. Christ, you're quick. quote: when did you get elected pontifex maximus of doms? believe me, my idea of a real dom is not yours or anybody else's, I doubt you'd know a real Dom if he fucked you up the ass, but if the substance of your general comment is that all definitions are subjective, then congratulations. You've just managed to articulate one reason why language is useful for communication but not definition. If you're truly interested, I suggest you study Linguistics and Semiotics to advance your understanding in your own time instead of hoping I'll educate you. quote: but that doesn't make my ideal dom any less a dom than any other. you can give good advice when you stop the fucking "one-twue-way" shit oh unaware one. Blah, blah, blah. Talking just to hear your own voice or see your own words in print is kind of asinine. Everyone's going to have some subjective definition of what constitutes a Dom or not. Some of those definitions will agree. Some may not. Ultimately, I don't give a fuck, because I really don't care about hair-splitters who want to rant and rave because I didn't append "in my humble opinion" to my statement. I'm not humble and if someone agrees with my opinion, they're probably smart, wise, or have experienced temporary enlightenment.

MarcEsadrian -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 9:33:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BeautyDebased If you dislike my opinion start a thread on it, not interrupt a thread about someone needing help. The problem, BD, is that threads like these tend to serve as a springboard from which a dog piling of moral absolutes are shouted. The opening post presents a disappointing scenario and grounds for a cautionary note, yes, but things need to be kept in perspective about what's really "right and wrong" in the great, wide world of D/s. When you share your opinion in this thread, saying, "a Master or Dom should always care for and eventually love his slave—it is at the forefront of his duties to her," you are inviting others in a public venue to comment upon how you are using the thread to forward an idea that is absurd to some of us who know better; Master and slave doesn't ideally have to be about mutual love, love in general, or the Master living up to a measuring stick of care beyond the fundamental basics.

Iamsemisweet -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 9:37:32 PM)
Well, just to clarify, I didn't actually buy him the steak dinner, he just demanded it. I have been financially exploited before, and I didn't need to learn that from him. Plus he wanted to go to these stodgy restaurants that.I wouldn't be seen in. So, I only bought him coffee. Is that really financial domming?

NuevaVida -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/12/2011 11:08:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 Actually, he was kind of her financial Dom. More like a coffee dom. [8D]

sunshinemiss -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/13/2011 2:56:08 AM)
In case you are wondering... I am a coffee and tea domme. I have people sending me coffee and tea from alllllll over the world! Bow down and worship at great Elixir Goddess! OH that felt good. *Purrrr

sunshinemiss -> RE: A sub's feelings - is she allowed to have them? (5/13/2011 2:59:18 AM)
Only 7 posts and already... Sunny Quote of the Day goes to Iamsemisweet for there is a difference between being submissive and being a chump. [sm=welcomewave.gif] http://www.collarchat.com/m_3666529/mpage_4/tm.htm

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