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What I miss in a M/s relationship? - 5/11/2011 5:19:09 PM   
falccon


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Status: offline 		I miss being in a Mistress/slave relationship. The sheer excitement of a woman having total control over me is something I truly enjoy and crave. I cannot see a more fitting lifestyle. I miss the bow and greet, the endless house chores,following protocol, the whippings, spankings. The part I miss most is the bond at such a high level between two people that nothing compares to it.
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RE: What I miss in a M/s relationship? - 5/11/2011 5:52:49 PM   
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RE: What I miss in a M/s relationship? - 5/11/2011 6:51:08 PM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		this doesn't HAVE to be a "let's diminish the OP" thread -- it's a worthwhile post.
not everyone is in a relationship at the moment -- maybe some of the single people might find it worthwhile.

i miss the dynamic; i miss obedience. i won't deny that i miss being played with and used for whatever it was he wanted at the time. playing is fun, but it's totally different in that kind of dynamic, at least it was for me.
more than that, though, i miss the person.

but anyway, yeah -- i don't think i ever felt more "normal" than i did while in a M/s-leaning D/s-by-name relationship. =p having a leader to follow, someone to serve and please, someone to love and do fun stuff with -- that's all win-win. And i find that the longer i'm single, i really DON'T want a straight-up vanilla relationship at all.

so to the others who are single, or attached to someone else but not in a power exchange relationship, what do you miss about it?


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RE: What I miss in a M/s relationship? - 5/11/2011 7:06:48 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

this doesn't HAVE to be a "let's diminish the OP" thread -- it's a worthwhile post.
not everyone is in a relationship at the moment -- maybe some of the single people might find it worthwhile.

i miss the dynamic; i miss obedience. i won't deny that i miss being played with and used for whatever it was he wanted at the time. playing is fun, but it's totally different in that kind of dynamic, at least it was for me.
more than that, though, i miss the person.

but anyway, yeah -- i don't think i ever felt more "normal" than i did while in a M/s-leaning D/s-by-name relationship. =p having a leader to follow, someone to serve and please, someone to love and do fun stuff with -- that's all win-win. And i find that the longer i'm single, i really DON'T want a straight-up vanilla relationship at all.

so to the others who are single, or attached to someone else but not in a power exchange relationship, what do you miss about it?


thanks.

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RE: What I miss in a M/s relationship? - 5/11/2011 7:19:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		I miss crazy, swinging from the chandelier, wild monkey sex.

What? I do.


ETA: Not an M/s relationship... just you know... hanky spanky stuff. I don't do M/s.

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RE: What I miss in a M/s relationship? - 5/11/2011 7:37:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

this doesn't HAVE to be a "let's diminish the OP" thread -- it's a worthwhile post.
not everyone is in a relationship at the moment -- maybe some of the single people might find it worthwhile.

<snip>

so to the others who are single, or attached to someone else but not in a power exchange relationship, what do you miss about it?



Lilly, it's nice to see you back around these parts.

What I miss, not necessarily with regards to M/s because I'm more D/s, is the connection...regardless of what side I'm on. Oh....and the sex...wild monkey or otherwise

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ORIGINAL: falccon
I miss being in a Mistress/slave relationship. The sheer excitement of a woman having total control over me is something I truly enjoy and crave. I cannot see a more fitting lifestyle. I miss the bow and greet, the endless house chores,following protocol, the whippings, spankings. The part I miss most is the bond at such a high level between two people that nothing compares to it.


falccon, the best thing I've found that works for me when I'm in a funk about relationships, or lack thereof, is to work on myself. Not only will that make me a better person, but it will make me a better partner.


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RE: What I miss in a M/s relationship? - 5/12/2011 1:22:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

I miss crazy, swinging from the chandelier, wild monkey sex.

What? I do.


ETA: Not an M/s relationship... just you know... hanky spanky stuff. I don't do M/s.



That's my line. Cmere and lets see how much you miss have yer ass whupped.

OP So go find another bitch to push you around. Enuff with the fucking whining! It's unbecoming.

BadOne

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RE: What I miss in a M/s relationship? - 5/12/2011 1:25:01 AM   
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RE: What I miss in a M/s relationship? - 5/12/2011 3:56:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm in a d/s relationship and I miss monkey sex. Three college aged kids with cars, one leaves and the next comes home. We never have any privacy for rip roaring, loud sex.

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RE: What I miss in a M/s relationship? - 5/12/2011 5:21:36 AM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		hiyas BonesFromAsh ^_^ nice to see you again, too

wild monkey sex -- yes, that is definitely missable. =p haha



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RE: What I miss in a M/s relationship? - 5/12/2011 6:11:29 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

I miss crazy, swinging from the chandelier, wild monkey sex.

What? I do.


ETA: Not an M/s relationship... just you know... hanky spanky stuff. I don't do M/s.



That's my line. Cmere and lets see how much you miss have yer ass whupped.

OP So go find another bitch to push you around. Enuff with the fucking whining! It's unbecoming.

BadOne



Did I ever tell you about the time... There was rope... a mast of a sailboat.... a pirate. Ahhh good times.


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RE: What I miss in a M/s relationship? - 5/12/2011 6:51:47 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

I miss crazy, swinging from the chandelier, wild monkey sex.

What? I do.


ETA: Not an M/s relationship... just you know... hanky spanky stuff. I don't do M/s.


What she said. As far as the "connection", I believe if you are single and seeking a partner you would be missing a special connection in BDSM or vanilla.

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RE: What I miss in a M/s relationship? - 5/12/2011 11:24:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		i don't think it matters what you are into, or what lable you want to stick on it either, we can all miss elements of a relationship.

not long after i finally split from my ex i had a day where i thought i was really missing him. all i wanted was to be in his arms and for him to cuddle me. we had some things to do that evening and as he left he went to cuddle me so i let him. after a minute or so i though 'i'm so over this'. it wasn't him i missed at all, it was the contact and that is what i wanted. really it could have been anyone, i was just used to it being him.

i have a thing going on now that is l/d. mostly i like the way things are, but the distance is more pressent at the times i want the actual bodily contact with him. it's worse when we've been together as i like a tangled cuddle before he goes to sleep, or spooning, and i miss that.

needles

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RE: What I miss in a M/s relationship? - 5/12/2011 11:39:26 PM   
SailingBum


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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss


quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

quote:

ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

I miss crazy, swinging from the chandelier, wild monkey sex.

What? I do.


ETA: Not an M/s relationship... just you know... hanky spanky stuff. I don't do M/s.



That's my line. Cmere and lets see how much you miss have yer ass whupped.

OP So go find another bitch to push you around. Enuff with the fucking whining! It's unbecoming.

BadOne



Did I ever tell you about the time... There was rope... a mast of a sailboat.... a pirate. Ahhh good times.



YOU are such a tease. I was just reading up on raping and pillaging yes really the book about Capt Kidd

BadOne

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RE: What I miss in a M/s relationship? - 5/13/2011 6:59:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: falccon

I miss being in a Mistress/slave relationship. The sheer excitement of a woman having total control over me is something I truly enjoy and crave. I cannot see a more fitting lifestyle. I miss the bow and greet, the endless house chores,following protocol, the whippings, spankings. The part I miss most is the bond at such a high level between two people that nothing compares to it.


I miss being in love.


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