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Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/13/2011 9:27:28 PM

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What is it about slavery that makes you a slave? What do you like? Why do you do it? What is going on in your mind? Do you submit and then hate it, but love submitting?

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/13/2011 9:44:40 PM

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What is it about slavery that makes you a slave? What do you like? Why do you do it? What is going on in your mind? Do you submit and then hate it, but love submitting?

His dominance and power

Same answer as to the first question..his dominance and power

I do it because I love him and he deserves it and it's natural set up for me.

Depends...it could be that I love him, that I'm enjoying what's happening, that I am hating everything about the situation that's happening, could be I'm thinking nothing <sshh....he'll tell you that's the one that happens most of the time LOL>

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/13/2011 9:45:15 PM

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There is nothing I love about slavery... there is nothing I hate about it either. To me its like breathing. Something I do day in and day out. Sure, I tend to rebel against it, I tend to get a bit pushy, I tend to downright deny what I am.... then a simple word brings me up short and I have no choice but to be who I am.

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/14/2011 6:16:00 AM

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There is nothing I love about slavery... there is nothing I hate about it either. To me its like breathing. Something I do day in and day out. Sure, I tend to rebel against it, I tend to get a bit pushy, I tend to downright deny what I am.... then a simple word brings me up short and I have no choice but to be who I am.

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/14/2011 7:24:17 AM

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I am who I am.. and love it....

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/14/2011 8:06:25 AM

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For me it there is a specificity to it:
I am His slave, and along with that I belong to Him.

So, it is His dominance that I submit to (sometimes much less perfectly than I would like), but while I may be someone who has submissive tendencies, I do not self-identify as a slave.
I am His slave.

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/14/2011 8:45:32 AM

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It tames my inner "control freak".

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/14/2011 8:52:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

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ORIGINAL: thedavezone

What is it about slavery that makes you a slave? What do you like? Why do you do it? What is going on in your mind? Do you submit and then hate it, but love submitting?

His dominance and power

Same answer as to the first question..his dominance and power

I do it because I love him and he deserves it and it's natural set up for me.

Pretty much what she said. My ex used to blame me for being too obedient...

though he does not clasify himself as a Dom

even when he certainly is one IMO

If someone is naturally dominant in life (naturally and not pretending to be) and we share similar views, then we have a chance to click.

On the other hand I experienced folks who consider themselves to be dominant when actually they are more in the need of a nanny than a slave or a sub

and thats not gonna happen

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/14/2011 9:02:37 AM

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As Lady Gaga would say " i was born this way". When i submit to someone it feels so natural and i enjoy it when the Dominant is pleased by me. i think what i like most about being a slave is not having to make any decision. They are made for me.

i never regret submitting to a Dominant

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/14/2011 9:22:38 AM

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What is it about slavery that makes you a slave?
nothing about slavery makes me a slave but he made me HIS slave.

What do you like?
The way he makes me feel and how well the relationship functions without the power struggle

Why do you do it?
because it makes us both happy

What is going on in your mind?
too vague a question to really answer.

Do you submit and then hate it, but love submitting?
Sometimes i struggle internally with my slavery.
Sexually submitting no i have never hated it after, sometimes during but after is always a pleasant afterglow. lol

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CM Post Ok? - 5/14/2011 10:23:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: thedavezone
What is it about slavery that makes you a slave?

The inability to leave or to be free. I think that's fairly close to the standard dictionary definition for slave.

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What do you like?

Among other things,
I love serving and being used by someone I adore.
I love being pushed around.
I love the inequality of the relationship.
I love experiencing cruelty.
I love having to eat humble pie.
I love the that he is superior to me and that he is always right, no matter what.
I love how very right it feels to me, as if I'm doing the one thing I was made to do.
I love worshiping someone as a god.
I love being changed by such a person.
I love the intense desire, longing, and need that slavery to the right person can engender in one.
When it comes to love, my tastes are a bit non-standard. I like to give it unconditionally and to experience it as unrequited (as the second reinforces the reality of the first). Slavery is one of the few relationship structures in which you can obtain an experience such as this, not for a matter of weeks or months, as you might with someone you crushed from afar, but for years or even a lifetime.
Above all, I love lack of control: the less control I have, the better I feel.

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Why do you do it?

Because I need it. Nothing else will do, nothing else comes close.

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What is going on in your mind? Do you submit and then hate it, but love submitting?

I feel that way toward physical pain: I fear and (in some cases) hate physical pain, but I love being forced to suffer for someone. My shortcut term for that is "martyr complex," but not in the pop-psychology blame-everyone-but-yourself sense; I mean in the traditional sense. Lots more goes on in my mind besides this dynamic, which is only engaged when I anticipate or experience torture. The underlying emotion that is always humming in the background is one of intense satisfaction and fulfillment, even if nothing specific is going on or I'm not being paid attention to (maybe especially when I'm not being paid attention to). There are peak times, times when you serve well and are rewarded with a glimpse of the pleasure or satisfaction you've brought; times when you come to understand one of the fine points (you never stop learning) in greater depth; times when you are able to take your obedience to a new level. And there are low points, for example, when you've been displeasing in some manner and are punished for it psychologically and physically or when your owner is busy with other things or people and you're put temporarily in "storage" and miss him terribly. But even those low points have their secret sweetness.

In general, if consensual enslavement, as I understand that term, is "done right" what goes on in the slave's mind increasingly becomes about the master. He comes to fill her mind.

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/14/2011 8:35:18 PM

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excellent answers already given.

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/14/2011 11:51:32 PM

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Thank you all. This has brought me closer, but I think, as a dom, I'll never REALLY understand fully. But this has given me great insight.

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/15/2011 3:40:50 AM

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I just couldn't imagine being any other way. And to be honest, I don't find it that difficult. I used to think that being a slave must be awful, 24/7 dehumanisation, no rights, no pleasure, just a life of hardship, sleeping on the floor, eating out of a dog bowl, never being spoken to as a human being, tortured beyond my limits, used in ways that disgust and horrify me, etc.

Honestly, I laugh out loud at that idea now. I know everyone's definition differs, but my definition of the difference between a submissive and a slave is that a submissive chooses each time whether to say yes or no, whereas a slave says yes once for always. I can't imagine switching my submission on and off, or choosing to one time but not the next time.

It just seems very normal to me now that he is always in control, that I always have to obey, and that he will gradually remove all my privileges as time goes on, in order to bring about more pleasure and comfort for himself. And that seems totally fair and desirable to me now. Learning to focus totally on his pleasure and how I can be of more service to him is 10 times better than focussing on my own pleasure or what I want to get out of being a submissive.

I used to be the kind of girl that was always thinking about what I wanted to get out of sadomasochism, how I wanted to be hurt, when I wanted to cum, whether I wanted to serve them, only wanting to do the things that I found interesting, and not what they wanted to do. Being enslaved has trained me to lose my selfish, spoiled bad habits. And now I would never go back to being that picky, demanding do-me sub again.

Short answer: Once I did it, I never wanted to go back.

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/15/2011 4:01:00 AM

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in the final analysis, im a trust junky - i love to trust and give everything and with a man who understands that and wants that and will do everything in his power to draw more and more from me because he wants all of me is when i really hit peaceful and happy.

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/15/2011 4:06:08 AM

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It tames my inner "control freak".

Nice!

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/15/2011 8:45:13 AM

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Thank you all. This has brought me closer, but I think, as a dom, I'll never REALLY understand fully. But this has given me great insight.

Here. I'll give you one example that's really, really easy to understand.

Carol is not drawn to being a slave or even my slave. She just respects and trusts me enough that giving herself to me doesn't seem ludicrous and she loves me enough that if that's what I want she's all on board making it happen.

In the end, for Carol and I, it's just her loving me. In her mind, "So he wants me to totally obey? Yeah, I'm good with that. Why not?"

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/15/2011 12:51:30 PM

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Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it?

Why, the SHOES, of course... it's always about the shoes, don'tcha know?!!

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/15/2011 2:03:21 PM

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What is it about slavery that makes you a slave?

I'm not A slave, I'm Hanners' slave. She makes me a slave, her dominance, her power, her strength, her love, her ... ownership. What makes Hanners Hanners is what makes me HER slave.

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What do you like?

The freedom to just be me. The release from worry, from stress. The peace it brings. The feeling of joy and fulfillment I get when she sees something I've done, whether its take a whipping or having washed the floor, and is satisfied with my performance.

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Why do you do it?

Because its who and what I am with her. Tazzygirl said it well, I could no more not be Hanners' slave than I could not breath.

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What is going on in your mind?

It depends on what I'm doing. If i'm cleaning the house I feel calm and I think about all sorts of things, my mind wanders. when I'm getting buggered I am thinking "Fuck this hurts! Hurry up and get tired bitch!". I don't really think about my slavery in concerte terms, the closest I get is a constant focus on her desires and happiness. That is the central tenet of my life, I don't actually conciously think about it, it just colours all my thoughts and motivations. To be pleasing to Hanners in every way I can.

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Do you submit and then hate it, but love submitting?

If you mean do I submit to things I hate and find happiness in doing it, then yes. Like I said in the answer above; Hanners' happiness and approval and pride in me and in owning me is what I strive for. It doesn't really matter all that much to me if I enjoy a particular activity as long as Hanners does.

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RE: Being SLAVES: what attracts you to it? - 5/15/2011 5:24:16 PM

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What is it about slavery that makes you a slave? What do you like? Why do you do it? What is going on in your mind? Do you submit and then hate it, but love submitting?

It is who I am, and sadly I get FAR more love, romance and attention then any of my Vanilla friends. The ones that have met with us a few times and know what our relationship is are TRYING to get thier men to be the same way, hoing they will get the same thing I have!

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