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How big a part does objectification play in your relationships?


I hate objectification, and I never do it
  6% (1)
I hate objectification, and I sometimes do it
  6% (1)
I dislike objectification, and I never do it
  0% (0)
I dislike objectification, and i sometimes do it
  6% (1)
I like objectification, and i sometimes do it
  43% (7)
I love objectification, and i sometimes do it
  25% (4)
I think objectification is morally wrong
  0% (0)
Other: please explain
  12% (2)


Total Votes : 16
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How big a part does objectification play in your relati... - 5/14/2011 2:29:49 PM   
gungadin09


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Status: offline 		Objectification of any kind: racial objectification, sexual objectification, de-humanization, worship or humiliation of body parts, name calling, role play, physical appearance, etc. i think most people around here have said that they get involved with a *person* and not a cock, a set of tits, a skin color, a whip, etc. So, objectification of one's partner is obviously not the whole story. But is it any part of the story? Does part of the fun in BDSM come from the fact that it's sometimes fun to treat people like they're something other than people?

For me, i've never really understood objectification. i don't care how much you hurt me or how bad you treat me, i still want to be viewed as a person and not on object. My feelings on being objectified range from indifference to being outright insulted. So, if you feel like sharing, what are your feelings on objectification? Is it hot? Is it annoying? Is it a limit?
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RE: How big a part does objectification play in your re... - 5/14/2011 2:40:35 PM   
coookie


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Status: offline 		I enjoy objectification quite a bit though i would not want it to be all of the time that i am treated as such though i must say that it is present quite a lot in my relationship.

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RE: How big a part does objectification play in your re... - 5/14/2011 2:54:08 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		It's a huge part of our kink and we both tremendously enjoy it in that part of our relationship. While he recognizes that I am human with human emotions, thoughts, etc...I am still his property and property is yours to do with as you wish. I knew that going in and what I desired from him and one of the reasons why I like him so much. I like knowing that this is about him and not me although he does take me into consideration just as anyone takes their property into consideration...do you want to be able to use it the next day if you use it hard today?

If I didn't want to be objectified by him I would have never signed up for an M/s relationship.


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RE: How big a part does objectification play in your re... - 5/14/2011 4:05:04 PM   
gungadin09


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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder
If I didn't want to be objectified by him I would have never signed up for an M/s relationship.


Does being a slave necessarily equal objectification? Does M/s have to involve objectification? Does objectification happen only during a scene, or is it 24/7? Is owning a human as property any different than owning, say, a car or a cat?

pam

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RE: How big a part does objectification play in your re... - 5/14/2011 4:08:57 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		for us M/s IS objectification. I'm his slave. Slaves are property. Property is an object. For us M/s is 24/7. There is no time when I am not his slave or he my Master. For us owning me is basically the same as his  owning his cats or his car. He takes care of them because he cares for them and wants them to be around the next day because he loves them or they entertain him or they are useful to him or all of the above.



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RE: How big a part does objectification play in your re... - 5/14/2011 4:58:04 PM   
ResidentSadist


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Status: offline 		Where is the button for

"I love objectification and my partner is an object and the object of my love"




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RE: How big a part does objectification play in your re... - 5/14/2011 5:06:40 PM   
littlewonder


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Where is the button for

"I love objectification and my partner is an object and the object of my love"





I would vote for this. Actually he would lol.

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RE: How big a part does objectification play in your re... - 5/14/2011 5:22:17 PM   
NocturnalStalker


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Status: offline 		I'm a very sensual man so I can live with or without it.  If they have a sexy name then I'm probably going to just call them by that since I like the way it sounds.

As for the other aspects besides name-calling, I don't care much.  Anything that can be interpreted as malicious mocking I tend to veer away from though.  Damned morals...


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RE: How big a part does objectification play in your re... - 5/14/2011 5:28:26 PM   
LinnaeaBorealis


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Where is the button for

"I love objectification and my partner is an object and the object of my love"





This is exactly how it was when I was owned. I loved that feeling too!!

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RE: How big a part does objectification play in your re... - 5/15/2011 3:45:54 PM   
Accented42


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Status: offline 		I was once a foot stool at a BDSM party. Was in that position for a long time. My ExMaster put his feet up on me and leaned back. A lot of people were curious. We did a lot of objectification like that, human ashtray, footrest etc. and it seemed to freak some people out!

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RE: How big a part does objectification play in your re... - 5/15/2011 4:19:11 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		I went with "Other" so I guess I got some 'splainin to do. 
 
I neither like nor dislike objectification.  I have no moral issue with it.  What I find is that, for me, it treads too close to my personal Abyss.  If I were to engage in objectification, it would be too easy to slip into a mental space where my partner stopped being a person and simply became a body.  As I experimented with different sensations and implements in a never-ending pursuit of more intense reactions, I would have no difficulty doing real harm to the flesh in front of me.  Since an object is not a person, it wouldn't matter.  That's just not a healthy place for me to be and I do not want to go there.  Ever.  So I don't.

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RE: How big a part does objectification play in your re... - 5/15/2011 5:27:43 PM   
petmonkey


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Status: offline 		i'm keen on being used as human furniture, giving and receiving body worship and specific,temporary service roles; other kinds, not really my cuppa'. i have an adverse reaction to it when it's someone's initial or only approach socially.


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RE: How big a part does objectification play in your re... - 5/16/2011 4:47:46 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		I don't think I'd go for being human furniture, not if I was expected to be able to stand up and walk later on.
I'm treated as a person, not an object. Except for my nipples, those are objects to him, separate from me as a person until I start yelping loud enough.


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RE: How big a part does objectification play in your re... - 5/16/2011 10:53:39 AM   
NuevaVida


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Status: offline 		It really depends on what kind of objectification for me to decide how I feel about it.  Human furniture?  Gets boring for me after awhile.  His sex toy?  Love that - always.  Being a commode?  Did that in the past, and it degraded me (which I liked then but don't now).  Being a pony/doggy/piggy/etc. girl?  Also experienced that in the past - degrading and never enjoyed it, probably wouldn't like it now.

The Mister objectifies me in moderation, and in a nice balance for us.


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RE: How big a part does objectification play in your re... - 5/16/2011 2:54:06 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Another vote for the sometimes do it category.  When I do, I tend to love it.  I'm not much one to do things that I don't really enjoy.  The frequency of which depends on how often the mood strikes Me, just like any other kind of play.

Objectification can be a pretty broad term.  I tend to throw sexual objectification in there as well.  Yes, of course, I'm still using a "human" but I'm using them as My toy.  I might be doing so from the angle that their sexual gratification isn't as much of a concern as My own.  It's not all footstools and ashtrays, you know. 


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