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Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/14/2011 6:55:56 PM   
BlackWomanSubNJ


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Status: offline 		I got the following message from a 60 year old woman. I didn't have a positive reaction to it. What are other's opinions? What might your reaction be if you got this message?

Hello your very beautiful i have over 40 years experince as domme and son is also a dom i raised him to be dom and we seek female to be part of our family. we have a big play room with lots of toys and equipment. I seek sub for family and wife for my son. son has 11 years experince as a dom.

We host events and parties. no incest or poly here.we are a loving caring family i am helping my son with this because i have the experience and YEARS IN THE lifestyle so i can spot fakes and those trying to top from the bottom or looking for a free ride in life, so if that's you we are not interested, otherwise contact us at ...
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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/14/2011 6:58:04 PM   
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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/14/2011 6:59:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: BlackWomanSubNJ

I got the following message from a 60 year old woman. I didn't have a positive reaction to it. What are other's opinions? What might your reaction be if you got this message?

I would think "not interested" and also something probably fairly judgmental (bad me, I know) while deleting it.


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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/14/2011 7:00:38 PM   
catize


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Status: offline 		Lots of us have gotten the same creepy message. I blocked and deleted.

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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/14/2011 7:07:50 PM   
tj444


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Status: offline 		Why would any Dom worth his salt get or allow his mommy to do his sub hunting for him? That is no Dom I would want, tied to his mommy's apron strings.

So she is 60 and he is what, maybe 30 or 35 or so, and... (gasp) still lives at home... yeah, no wonder he is having a major problem finding interested subs.

I dont waste time getting repeat emails so if its someone that is definately a no for me, to save time i just block them.

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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/14/2011 7:11:47 PM   
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Status: offline 		cordial and straight to the point. "no thank you" would suffice.

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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/14/2011 7:26:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'd have been put off by it out of the gate due to the poor spelling and grammar.  Since I don't have a great deal of tolerance for nonsense emails, I would be using the block and 'report as spam and delete' buttons.

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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/14/2011 7:42:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		How much different it would have read if she has said something like:

I often host local lifestyle events at my home. My gatherings are rather eclectic, with a wide variety of people of different backgrounds and ages. Part of the reason I am emailing you is that I would like to extend a possible invitation if you would like to get to know me better, as a friend. My son is also in the lifestyle, and he has many friends your age...

It still wouldn't have appealed to me, but it might have been slightly less creepy.

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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/14/2011 9:11:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		No less creepy, nope, lol. To me, the word "son" doesn't belong in there anywhere.

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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/14/2011 9:53:37 PM   
juliaoceania


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No less creepy, nope, lol. To me, the word "son" doesn't belong in there anywhere.



Perhaps that is true...


I was just trying to be diplomatic.

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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/14/2011 9:53:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		I've gotten the very same email. I deleted it.

Having a daughter who is now of age and interested in wiitwd, and able to attend some of the same functions I can see them being somewhat active together. But I'd NEVER send an email of this nature. I'm not that interested in what my daughter actually does behind closed doors. I'm sure she feels the same way. My involvement was as far as to show her where to learn and to introduce her to the local next generation group. I figure why I could sit down and explain it all in detail, she'll get far more out of it finding her own way and learning what she likes with out being influenced by me. Though I have to admit it does creep me out a bit when men I know hit on her on other websites (she's not on collarme thank goodness) I'm not actually looking forward to when she's old enough to join events out side of munches... just not so sure I want her seeing mom be whipped on, and not sure how I'd feel vise versa. Maybe she'll lose interest before then?? One can hope

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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/15/2011 12:59:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		I definitely responded with some laughing and the observation that if her son had been in the lifestyle for 11 years and still needed help, there was a problem. Not to mention that any grown man who had his mommy getting women for him was pathetic, as is a mother who would do that.

If this is real, and I wonder if it is, she's looking for a sub for her house, and her "failure to launch" son still lives at home, and she'd expect the sub to play with him too. I also hit the block button real fast too. I don't get into arguments online.

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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/15/2011 2:38:18 AM   
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there is no way on this earth i'd respond to anything that came from a woman talking for her son. i'm all for openess in families and such.....my mum knows what i do to an extent.......but a man who needs to have that much contact with his mum is just a huge no no for me. it would be bad enough if he were a sub, but as a dom it's just even more strange.

having just read the other thread about females pretending to be male doms, or whatever people pretend to be, i'd be inclined to be thinking along those lines. maybe the mail is from a male dom looking for a female sub who thinks that the sub maybe more trusting if she thinks the pm is from his mum.

there are a hole host of possibilities on that one. makes me glad to be sat here not in the market looking for someone, so not having to look at profiles and wonder who the hell i'm talking to.

needles

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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/15/2011 3:39:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		Just skim over it, see the bit with randomly capitalised words? That would flag it as a scam, probably from Nigeria, probably quite entertaining to bait a little.

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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/15/2011 4:00:27 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		My first thought is that it's some guy with a weird fetish that has made up a scenario.

Edited to add: Starting off with "Hello your very beautiful" doesn't sound like anything a woman would do.  The people I know that have the means to have a room specifically devoted to play and to have hosted events and parties, also are intelligent enough to express themselves.  The woman who on the one hand says that her son has 11 years of experience and then says that she's looking because she has the experience...

And OP, I checked out your profile.  You're looking for someone very specific.  The letter does not address your wishes at all.

It cannot be real.  But the scenario seems too outlandish to be a scammer.  My vote is that it's an an idiot.


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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/15/2011 5:18:50 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BlackWomanSubNJ

I got the following message from a 60 year old woman. I didn't have a positive reaction to it. What are other's opinions? What might your reaction be if you got this message?

Hello your very beautiful i have over 40 years experince as domme and son is also a dom i raised him to be dom and we seek female to be part of our family. we have a big play room with lots of toys and equipment. I seek sub for family and wife for my son. son has 11 years experince as a dom.

We host events and parties. no incest or poly here.we are a loving caring family i am helping my son with this because i have the experience and YEARS IN THE lifestyle so i can spot fakes and those trying to top from the bottom or looking for a free ride in life, so if that's you we are not interested, otherwise contact us at ...


It reads to me like the old fashioned, parents trying to find a wifey for the son. I am less creeped, by seeing it as some sort of arranged marriage type effort, than I am laughing at the idea that the guy is dominant. I am having visions of...

MommyDommy: Son I believe it is time you married! You need to spend less time in the dungeoun playing your silly computer games. (think D&D, and all manner of role playing games I am clueless about)

Son, with eyes down: Yes Mother. But but but....I have 6 online slaves, who will tell them they can get off their knees and stuff?

MommyDommy: Son, your room is filthy and my ass is getting too big to get down those basement stairs to clean it. We need a service submissive around. She must have a good job to supplement our Social Security payments.

Son, in whiney tone: Buuuttt Moooothhheeerrrr....

MommyDommy: Never mind, I will get online and find an appropriate subbie wife for you. Take a shower, brush your teeth and clean your room. Then clean my dungeoun.

Son: Yes Mother.....


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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/15/2011 5:24:22 AM   
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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/15/2011 8:17:32 AM   
BlackWomanSubNJ


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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/15/2011 8:41:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		I pretty much agree with everything LaT said... except for I don't see the mom as particularly dominant either. It all reads to me like a kinky arranged marriage with "a big play room".

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RE: Appropriate BDSM behavior? - 5/15/2011 8:57:23 AM   
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I pretty much agree with everything LaT said... except for I don't see the mom as particularly dominant either. It all reads to me like a kinky arranged marriage with "a big play room".


I dunno, sounds more like a barn to me... Mind you a barn can be a big play room...

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